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Living My Best Life

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October 13, 2019
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Victory with Paul Daugherty

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  • Life is too short to live stressed, triggered, angry,
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  • because your kids took an extra 30 seconds
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  • to get out of the minivan,
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  • for you to get into church.
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  • It's okay if you came in a little late.
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  • We love you.
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  • Welcome to Victory.
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  • We're honored you're here, don't stress.
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  • Hi, I'm Paul.
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  • Almost 10 years ago,
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  • my dad, my hero, my pastor,
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  • passed away unexpectedly.
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  • He built a big church
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  • and left some pretty large shoes to fill.
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  • When he died, I didn't just lose my dad,
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  • I lost my faith,
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  • I lost my purpose and my future.
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  • But God showed up and restored my faith,
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  • and He gave me a message of hope to share with you.
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  • You're here on purpose.
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  • God's not finished with you yet.
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  • Your best days are right in front of you,
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  • and you have victory in your life,
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  • because Jesus lives in you.
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  • How many have ever had a bad day before?
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  • Ever had a bad day?
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  • Like this has happened to me multiple times.
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  • If you haven't had a bad day, someday you will.
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  • It just happens to all of us.
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  • But I remember one time, I was in third grade,
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  • I was playing bassball, it was coach pitch,
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  • and I got talked into playing with friends.
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  • And so, you know, I go out there and get ready
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  • and the coach was like,
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  • "Paul, you're up to bat,"
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  • so I'm up there and I'm doing my best,
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  • I'm standing up there like this.
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  • The coach throws the ball, I kid you not,
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  • he hits me right where it counts.
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • It hurts so bad, I just fell over and I go,
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  • "I hate baseball, I hate baseball.
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  • "You hate me, you tried to hurt me in."
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  • The coach was saying, "I don't hate you.
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  • "What are you talking about?
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  • "You aren't standing right."
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  • I'm like, "No, you weren't standing right."
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  • And I'm like crying and my dad comes over there he goes,
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  • "Paul, get back up, get a better attitude."
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  • I was like, "Okay."
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  • And he goes, "Try again, try again."
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  • I said, "Dad, he doesn't like me.
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  • "The coach doesn't like, he's trying to hurt me."
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  • My dad was like, "No, Paul, you're being a victim.
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  • "Just rise up, you're gonna get through this."
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  • So my dad, pastor dad is preaching to me.
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  • So I'm like, "Okay."
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  • So I get back up there.
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  • I kid you not,
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  • the coach throws it again,
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  • nails me in the same exact spot.
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • Guys, it's a miracle that I've had three kids
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  • and one on the way.
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • That was the worst day.
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  • It hurts, your stomach hurts, your head hurts,
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  • the whole thing it just hurts.
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  • I tell you that story,
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  • because we all go through moments
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  • where we feel knocked down,
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  • we feel defeated, we feel discouraged,
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  • and we feel like giving up.
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  • We feel like quitting,
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  • and we have a choice.
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  • Either we're going to determine to get back up
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  • and have a better attitude.
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  • And who's in charge of your attitude anyways?
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  • Who's in charge of living your best days yet?
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  • I think many of us we are waiting for perfect conditions
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  • to finally start living happy and joyful,
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  • and making the most of our life.
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  • We're waiting until we reach there.
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  • And when I take my kids anywhere,
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  • when Ashley and I load the kids up in the car,
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  • and we're going somewhere,
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  • the first question they ask is, "Are we there yet?
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  • "Are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet?"
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  • Growing up I used to go to Branson every summer
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  • with my family.
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  • Come on, who's been to Branson?
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  • Yeah.
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  • I would always ask them, "Are we there yet,
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  • "are we there yet, are we there yet?"
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  • And they would be like, "Paul,
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  • "we'll let you know when we get there.
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  • "You'll know when we get there."
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  • I'll be like, "I just can't wait to get there,
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  • "I'll be so happy when we get there."
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  • And that was my attitude growing up.
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  • I'll be so happy when I get there.
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  • I'll be so happy when I can finally get my driver's license.
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  • I'll be so happy when I graduate.
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  • I'll be so happy when I get married.
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  • I'll be so happy when I'm in college.
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  • I'll be so happy when I move out on my parents' house.
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  • I'll be so happy when I have kids.
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  • And I had to get over that attitude,
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  • because if you're always living
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  • about a future there to be happy,
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  • you're never gonna enjoy where you're at.
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  • And God didn't create us to live discontent
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  • with our life on a daily basis.
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  • Jesus said in John 10:10,
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  • "The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy,
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  • "but I came to give you life and life more abundantly."
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  • In John 16:22,
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  • He said, "The joy that I give you is an unstoppable joy."
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  • It's a joy that the enemy cannot take away.
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  • No one can rob you of the joy that God's given you.
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  • The only way you lose that joy is if you give it away.
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  • And so many of us have given our joy away to circumstances,
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  • and we're going, "Well, once circumstances change,
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  • "then I'll be happy.
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  • "Once I get married, then I'll finally have joy.
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  • "Once I buy a house, once I get promoted,
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  • "once I retire, I'll finally be joyful,
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  • "I'll finally live my best days yet.
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  • "But Paul, in the meantime,
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  • "I'm just gonna keep on declaring
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  • "that one of these days they're gonna show up."
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  • How about today?
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  • How about right now?
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  • How about in this moment?
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  • My best days are right here, right now.
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  • They're getting better and better.
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  • (congregation clapping)
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  • You have a choice.
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  • Everybody say, is my choice.
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  • - [Congregation] Is my choice.
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  • - My joy is my choice.
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  • And oftentimes, we find ourselves in situations
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  • where we have to choose the narrative.
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  • I remember when I wrote the Victory confession,
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  • I was so discouraged, defeated, depressed, angry,
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  • I was not happy, I was stressed, I was overwhelmed.
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  • My father had passed,
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  • our church was walking through a lot of storms.
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  • And I drove up to the church, I didn't even wanna preach.
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  • And I was thinking people don't wanna hear me preach.
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  • I don't wanna hear me preach.
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  • I was discouraged.
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  • And God said, "Change the narrative."
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  • I had just said with my words in my car,
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  • "Man, our best days are behind us.
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  • "God's finished with my family."
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  • I was saying all these negative things.
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  • You can't live a positive life with a negative mouth.
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  • You can't live a victorious life with a defeated mindset.
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  • If you're gonna live your best days,
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  • you're gonna have to start thinking your best thoughts,
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  • you're gonna have to start declaring your best words.
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  • And God said, "Change the narrative."
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  • And so I wrote down on a napkin.
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  • Sometimes you have to talk yourself into victory,
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  • even when you feel defeated.
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  • Because I felt depressed, I felt discouraged,
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  • I was suicidal.
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  • And I wrote down on this napkin, "I'm here on purpose
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  • "because I have a purpose."
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  • I didn't believe it, but I had to declare it.
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  • There's power in your words.
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  • The power of life and death is in the tongue.
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  • You don't even realize it,
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  • but you're talking yourself into depression
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  • every time you keep saying it over yourself,
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  • "I'm so depressed, so discouraged,
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  • "I wish I had what they had."
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  • And you're scrolling through Instagram angry
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  • because everyone's doing something you're not doing
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  • and you're not happy with what you're doing,
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  • because you're distracted
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  • looking at everyone else's stories.
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  • You got to start living your story.
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  • You got to start owning your story.
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  • The grass is only greener on the other side
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  • because you stopped watering your own yard.
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  • You go, "Well, there's poop all over my yard."
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  • Turn it into fertilizer, make it even greener.
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  • Come on, make it work.
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  • So, I wrote this confession down,
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  • "My best days are right in front of me."
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  • And I wrote a little subtitle, "Right here right now,
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  • "right here, right now.'
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  • Because I didn't wanna think that someday they'll happen,
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  • I wanted to start declaring that they're happening today,
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  • and they're gonna get better and better and better.
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  • God takes us from glory to glory from strength to strength.
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  • God calls us into a greater life.
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  • Why is this message so important?
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  • Because your joy, your decision to live your best days yet,
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  • not only affects you,
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  • it affects everyone else around you.
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  • When you carry a stressed, anxious,
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  • mad, angry, triggered attitude all the time,
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  • not only are you miserable,
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  • but everyone else around you is feeling that misery.
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  • They're like,
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  • "When is she gonna finally be peaceful?
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  • "When is he gonna finally chill out?"
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  • When I first started pastor in our college ministry,
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  • I was stressed when I was preaching.
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  • I would be preparing a sermon in the office,
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  • Ashley I we were newlyweds, didn't have kids,
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  • she come in knock on office,
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  • "How you doing?"
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  • "Get out of the office right now I'm stressed."
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  • And she'd be like, "okay."
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  • She come back in an hour later,
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  • "Is everything okay, anything I help you with?"
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  • "No, I'm preaching a message on peace
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  • "and I just need some time to work on my sermon right now.
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  • "I'm preaching about joy and I'm just leave me alone."
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  • And she's like,
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  • "You need that joy that you're preaching about."
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • I would freak out if the slides weren't working.
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  • I would send my notes to the sound guy, the AV guy,
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  • the slides are not working.
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  • I was like, "The slides are supposed to be working."
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  • And everyone was watching me on edge.
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  • They were like,
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  • "We need to pray for this preacher right now."
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  • Like the slide (mumbles) 10, nine, eight, seven, six,
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  • five, four, three, two, one,
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  • where's the slide?
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  • And it wouldn't be there and I would just be like,
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  • walking around,
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  • losing my cool, right?
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  • And God was like, "You need to chill out.
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  • "You're need to chill.
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  • "You're making a big deal out of petty little things.
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  • "Like the early church didn't have PowerPoint slides
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  • "and videos and they grew the church.
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  • "Stop worrying about these little.
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  • Why are we making a big deal out of small stuff?
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  • Life is too short to live stressed,
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  • triggered, angry because your kids took an extra 30 seconds
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  • to get out of the minivan for you to get into church.
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  • It's okay if you came in a little late.
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  • We love you.
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  • Welcome to Victory.
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  • We're honored you're here.
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  • Don't stress.
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  • don't stress.
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  • Some of you all came to church like it's God's funeral.
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  • You're like, "I'm so mad at life.
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  • "I'm stressed out, I'm angry at my parents.
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  • "I'm angry, I'm so offended.
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  • "I'm gonna boycott everybody
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  • "and I'm gonna boycott every store."
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  • Let's stop being known what we're against
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  • and start being known for what we're for.
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  • We're for life, we're for joy,
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  • we're for laughter,
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  • we're for people experiencing victory in their life.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • Victory Christian School is pursuing families
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  • that share our vision and standard for education.
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  • Our families are here on purpose.
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  • We raise up leaders of tomorrow by preparing the heart,
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  • mind and body.
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  • With challenging academic, a celebration of the arts
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  • and championship level athletics,
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  • we are reaching new heights each year.
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  • Victory Christian School is more than an education,
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  • it's preparation for a calling.
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  • - So I was on a mission trip and we were in China,
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  • and we had taken a group from our church there.
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  • And we landed in Hong Kong, we were ministering there,
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  • and we're walking down the streets,
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  • and we're laughing, there's about 15 of us in the group,
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  • we're laughing, we're smiling.
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  • We just got done eating some McDonald's, Mickey D's,
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  • with French fries and barbecue sauce,
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  • and the Coca Cola just tastes different in other countries.
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  • So we're walking down, everything was good,
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  • and we didn't realize this stranger was following us
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  • for miles.
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  • We get on a subway, the stranger, this woman,
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  • was following us.
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  • She was carrying a big backpack,
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  • in her late 20s, early 30s.
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  • And then we get out, I mean, for two hours,
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  • this person just keeps following us
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  • and we could just tell like,
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  • this person is not just there,
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  • they're actually following us.
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  • And so finally said, "How are you doing?"
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  • Like we started the conversation.
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  • And this person was like, "I'm doing good,
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  • "I'm just really confused."
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  • And we were like, "What do you mean?
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  • "What are you confused about?"
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  • She said, "Who are you guys?"
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  • And I was like, "What do you mean, who are you guys?"
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  • She said, "Something's different about you guys.
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  • "Something's different.
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  • "Where are you guys from?"
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  • I said, "We're from Tulsa, Oklahoma, Victory Church."
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  • She said, "Church,
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  • "are you guys like a religious organization?"
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  • I said, "We're Christians."
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  • She goes, "No blanken way."
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  • (laughs) (congregation laughing)
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  • "You guys are not Christian."
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  • I said, "Yeah, we're Christian."
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  • She goes, "I have never seen Christians like you all."
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  • Why am I preaching this sermon?
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  • Because the church needs to realize the world is watching.
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  • And if we walk around mad, sad, feeling bad, angry,
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  • depressed, oppressed, poseous,
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  • but then we preach,
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  • Jesus wants to give you life and victory.
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  • And the world's like, "When you all gonna get it?"
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • All right.
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  • And so I'm telling you,
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  • we got to reclaim our joy
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  • because the world needs a church that's fully alive.
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  • And I'm not talking about a fake happiness,
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  • like, just fake it till you make it.
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  • No, I'm saying, like,
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  • let's get in charge of our emotions.
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  • Let's stop letting our feelings and emotions
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  • dictate our attitude and our behavior,
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  • and how we parent and how we live
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  • and how we enjoy our job and our life.
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  • Let's stop being so stressed about everything.
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  • Proverbs 17, says that,
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  • "Laughter is like medicine for the soul."
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  • Some of you,
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  • you've grown just weary
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  • because you've lost your laughter.
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  • We got to get our laughter back again.
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  • I wanna be known as a church that just laughs,
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  • that just were rejoicing.
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  • Proverbs 31 says,
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  • "A woman who fears the Lord
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  • "she laughs at the days of tomorrow."
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  • Like she's not overwhelmed, she's not stressed,
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  • she's not freaking out,
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  • she's not angry and mad at everybody.
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  • When people are afraid, I laugh at the face of danger,
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  • like Simba says and Lion King.
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  • Right?
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  • Don't take yourself so seriously.
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  • Laugh through things you're walking through,
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  • laughs through things that are trying to stress you.
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  • Let's stop being so easily triggered by, life is short.
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  • When Ashley and I first started pastoring,
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  • we called a bunch of my parents' friends
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  • and people we respected all over the world
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  • that pastor great ministry, been leading a long time,
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  • and we asked them for their advice.
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  • We said, "What should we do?
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  • "How can we lead Victory well?
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  • "How should we pastor?
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  • "Give us the list of the do's and don'ts,
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  • "and what we should do to be successful."
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  • They said, 'Enjoy the journey."
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  • And so we write it down, enjoy the journey.
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  • "What's next?"
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  • "Enjoy the journey,
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  • "have fun,
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  • "be yourself.
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  • "Enjoy the journey."
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  • And I was like, "What else?"
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  • They said if you enjoy the journey, I'm telling you,
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  • they said, "If this thing becomes so stressful for you
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  • "and you're not having fun
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  • "and you're not enjoying God's presence,
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  • "then you need to find something else to do."
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  • One of the ways we live our best days
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  • is looking out for other people.
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  • Having compassion and encouraging other people.
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  • And one of the guys who did that in my life,
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  • was this pastor, some of you might know him,
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  • Joel Osteen.
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  • He gave me his number and he said,
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  • "Call me if you ever need some encouragement."
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  • So I called him and I said,
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  • "Hey, I'm not finding a circle of pastor friends
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  • "that I belong in.
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  • "Maybe I'm too dorky or weird and my clothes are cheap.
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  • "I don't know,
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  • "What do I need to do?"
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  • And he said, "Paul neither did I."
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  • He said, "When I took over the church,
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  • "people made fun of me for being the smiling preacher,
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  • "and they said, my sermons were too shallow."
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  • And he said,
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  • "Don't worry about getting everyone else's approval,
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  • "just be who God made you to be."
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  • Maybe you weren't made to fit in with all the circles,
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  • maybe you were made to stand out.
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  • And make friends with the people
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  • that are right in front of you.
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  • Stop waiting for some people.
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  • Stop trying to fit into circles
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  • where God hasn't called you to,
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  • just be who God's made.
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  • So when it set me free, I started making solid group.
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  • I've got a solid group of godly friends
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  • right here in this church,
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  • and they are the best friends that I could ask for,
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  • and you all are the family that I belong to.
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  • I wanna give you five ways to live your best days.
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  • Five ways we find in Scripture that God says,
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  • here's how you live your best days yet.
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  • Living my best life starts with thinking my best thoughts.
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  • Thinking my best thoughts.
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  • You can't live a great life with poor thoughts.
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  • You've got to get a hold of your thoughts.
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  • This is what Paul said in Philippines 4:8.
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  • "Think on thoughts that are praiseworthy and true."
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  • Stop thinking on things that are defeated,
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  • discouraging,
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  • that are bad, that are dirty,
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  • get your thoughts back on what God's called you to do.
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  • Living my best life starts with thinking my best thoughts.
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  • By the way, when Paul wrote Philippians,
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  • he wrote it in a prison cell,
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  • knee deep in sewage, surrounded by crud.
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  • And it's all around him and he starts writing
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  • the joy of the Lord.
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  • Rejoice in the Lord always and again I say rejoice.
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  • Fixing my thoughts on things that are praiseworthy,
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  • and sure I can do all things through Christ.
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  • He was changing his thoughts in the middle of his situation.
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  • Stop waiting for your situation to change
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  • to start living your best days.
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  • Change your attitude
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  • and you'll start seeing the situation begin to change.
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  • Living my best life means thinking my best thoughts.
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  • Living my best life starts with choosing the best attitude.
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  • Getting my attitude right.
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  • You know what Jesus did
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  • when He changed the atmosphere in that house?
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  • He changed everybody's attitudes.
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  • Everybody thought it was ending.
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  • God's about to heal a marriage
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  • that looks like it's all over.
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  • He's about to refresh the wine that looks like it has ended.
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  • whatever situation you're in that seems like it is all over,
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  • God's not finished with you yet.
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  • Stop throwing in the towel,
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  • God's got the best for last,
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  • but you got to choose a great attitude.
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  • You know, I was at a crusade in Dominican Republic.
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  • Just a few weeks ago,
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  • our church went there during spring break.
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  • And I was out on the streets,
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  • we were doing like a revival night,
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  • and there was thousands of people,
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  • but you could tell there was tension in the crowd.
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  • People really tight.
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  • And they were wound up,
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  • there was stiff necked religiosity around the room.
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  • People were judging the teenagers with tattoos,
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  • and it was weird.
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  • I was like, "What's going on here?
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  • "We need to break this spirit of religiosity,
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  • "and we need to let Jesus come in and bring some healing
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  • "to some people's hearts and minds,"
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  • because I knew God wanted to do something great.
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  • But if He was gonna do it, we had to loosen people up.
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  • So I came over to my friend, Josh Kam.
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  • Where's Joshua?
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  • Josh, come up here.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • This guy can dance.
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  • I said,
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  • "We gotta get these people loosened up."
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  • We got some music back there?
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  • Sound man, we got a track.
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  • Come on mark, pump that up.
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  • Because Josh came up on that stage.
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  • (upbeat music) Yeah.
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  • Oh, yeah.
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  • Teach me how to worship, teach me how to praise.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • Oh yeah.
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  • (laughs)
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  • Come on.
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  • So as he started dancing, the crowd started loosening up.
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  • He started bringing people in.
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  • They started changing the atmosphere.
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  • Come on, guys got some new wine
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  • for the house House of Victory.
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  • Get Josh some big hand.
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  • (congregation clapping)
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  • Some of you all came to church like it's God's funeral.
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  • You're like, "I'm so mad at life.
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  • "I'm stressed out, I'm angry at my parents.
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  • "I'm angry, I'm so offended.
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  • "I'm gonna boycott everybody
  • 00:18:26.200 --> 00:18:28.130
  • "and I'm gonna boycott every store."
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  • Let's stop being known for what we're against
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  • and start being known what we're for.
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  • We're for life, we're for joy,
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  • we're for laughter,
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  • we're for people experiencing victory in their life.
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  • We want people to have resurrection power in their hearts.
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  • We got to change the atmosphere.
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  • Some of you all look like the cover girl
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  • for the book of limitations.
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • We got to cast some demons out today.
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  • Now I just kidding,
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  • you all are the most beautiful church ever.
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  • I was talking about you know, other people.
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • But we gotta loosen up you all.
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  • Tulsa needs to break free of some spirits of religion.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • The Holy Spirit wants to do something fresh in this city.
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  • Hey, the wine has arrived.
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  • Jesus has new wine, fresh wine,
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  • the party's not, we're just getting started.
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  • God wants to do something great in this city.
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  • We gotta break some spirits
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  • of competitive, crazy, jealousy and spiritual religion
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  • that's not from God.
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  • When Jesus showed up,
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  • the people he had to rebuke were the Pharisees,
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  • the Sadducees,
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  • 'maducees', the 'baducees',
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  • I mean, they were just mad, bad,
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  • angry, judging people condemning.
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  • And Jesus said, "Guys, guys, guys,"
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  • they were mad because Jesus was starting parties.
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  • He was hanging out with sinners.
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  • He was different, He was bringing joy.
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  • He was having the dance part,
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  • like He was lifting people out of poverty,
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  • lifting people out of darkness,
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  • lifting people out of sin
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  • and He was given them second chances and third chances
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  • and grace.
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  • That's what we're a part of.
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  • But we got to change our attitude
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  • because the world is needing a church that's fully alive
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  • with joy and hope and compassion
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  • and grace
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  • and peace.
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  • Living my best life
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  • starts with building the best relationships.
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  • You can't do it without a community.
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  • You can't do it.
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  • That's what God showed me when I was battling my depression.
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  • I was mad, I was sad,
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  • I was thinking crazy thoughts and God said,
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  • "You need to get in community,
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  • "you need to build solid, godly relationships
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  • "right here in the church."
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  • Some of us are waiting for the church to do it all for us.
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  • You can't expect everyone to fix your problems.
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  • God wants you to get connected.
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  • He wants you to get surrounded
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  • with godly people in your life.
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  • Living my best life starts with forgiving myself
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  • and forgiving others around me.
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  • You can't live your best life
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  • when you're holding grudges against yourself,
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  • against your parents, against your kids,
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  • against your boss,
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  • against the people who hurt your kids,
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  • against the people who hurt your spouse,
  • 00:20:55.200 --> 00:20:57.010
  • against the people who hurt your best friend.
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  • It's time to forgive.
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  • It's time to let it go.
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  • Some of us were carrying loads
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  • that God never meant for us to carry.
  • 00:21:03.220 --> 00:21:05.110
  • Jesus said cast your cares on me,
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  • my yoke is easy my burden light.
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  • Come and live freely and lightly.
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  • Get free of that overwhelming burden you're carrying
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  • of bitterness towards yourself,
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  • towards your dad, towards your past,
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  • whatever it is.
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  • Living your best life starts with forgiving others
  • 00:21:21.120 --> 00:21:23.120
  • and forgiving yourself.
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  • You can't move forward
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  • if you're looking in the rear view mirror your whole life.
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  • Some of us were stuck in the past,
  • 00:21:28.060 --> 00:21:29.220
  • we're just regurgitating the past.
  • 00:21:29.220 --> 00:21:31.280
  • The past was not a destination, It was an education.
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  • Learn from it, don't live in it, move forward.
  • 00:21:35.170 --> 00:21:38.290
  • And last but not least, this last one right here,
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  • living my best life starts with being the best me
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  • that God's called me to be.
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  • Who's in charge of you changing?
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  • The Holy Spirit can do everything
  • 00:21:51.170 --> 00:21:53.050
  • he wants to do in your life
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  • when you get in surrender to Him.
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  • Surrender is up to you, it's your choice.
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  • You've got to make that decision to say,
  • 00:22:00.250 --> 00:22:02.020
  • "I'm gonna stop just making excuses
  • 00:22:02.020 --> 00:22:04.080
  • "and given myself a pass every time I keep sinning,
  • 00:22:04.080 --> 00:22:06.250
  • "every time I keep doing things
  • 00:22:06.250 --> 00:22:08.020
  • "I know I'm not supposed to do."
  • 00:22:08.020 --> 00:22:09.110
  • Let's stop giving ourselves a pass,
  • 00:22:09.110 --> 00:22:11.110
  • living a life that's unpleasing to God.
  • 00:22:11.110 --> 00:22:14.010
  • Let's start rising up out of that.
  • 00:22:14.010 --> 00:22:15.260
  • God's called you to live in victory, not in defeat.
  • 00:22:15.260 --> 00:22:18.260
  • God's called you to walk in victory over those situations
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  • that have defeated you.
  • 00:22:21.110 --> 00:22:22.090
  • James says count it all joy
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  • when you walk through trials and tribulations,
  • 00:22:23.160 --> 00:22:26.100
  • because God is growing your character,
  • 00:22:26.100 --> 00:22:28.010
  • He's developing your perseverance.
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  • I'm not preaching a message to you today
  • 00:22:30.180 --> 00:22:32.070
  • that life is gonna be easy and perfect,
  • 00:22:32.070 --> 00:22:34.010
  • I'm saying in the middle of whatever you're facing,
  • 00:22:34.010 --> 00:22:36.270
  • change your attitude, change your thoughts,
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  • change your words, get connected in community
  • 00:22:39.230 --> 00:22:42.180
  • and start becoming the best you God's called you to be.
  • 00:22:42.180 --> 00:22:45.140
  • Start growing again.
  • 00:22:45.140 --> 00:22:46.220
  • Some of you all been watching these balloons,
  • 00:22:46.220 --> 00:22:48.040
  • wondering what's he gonna do with those?
  • 00:22:48.040 --> 00:22:50.190
  • I didn't forget it.
  • 00:22:50.190 --> 00:22:51.180
  • No matter what you do to these balloons,
  • 00:22:53.040 --> 00:22:55.080
  • they're gonna keep going up.
  • 00:22:56.150 --> 00:22:58.020
  • Now you could poke him with a needle and pop them,
  • 00:22:58.020 --> 00:23:00.270
  • but I'm not talking about that.
  • 00:23:00.270 --> 00:23:02.030
  • I'm saying you could hit these down,
  • 00:23:02.030 --> 00:23:03.230
  • try to discourage them but they just keep going back up.
  • 00:23:03.230 --> 00:23:06.250
  • Push them down.
  • 00:23:06.250 --> 00:23:08.020
  • It's because of what's inside them,
  • 00:23:08.020 --> 00:23:09.190
  • that they wont stay down.
  • 00:23:09.190 --> 00:23:11.200
  • You could talk mean to them,
  • 00:23:11.200 --> 00:23:13.000
  • "You don't fit in, you don't belong,"
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  • but they just keep getting.
  • 00:23:14.260 --> 00:23:16.050
  • Some of us have lost our internal compass.
  • 00:23:16.050 --> 00:23:19.170
  • We've lost that sense of hope, that sense of perseverance.
  • 00:23:19.170 --> 00:23:23.080
  • We've lost that sense of I'm going to live my best days
  • 00:23:23.080 --> 00:23:26.140
  • and I'm starting today.
  • 00:23:26.140 --> 00:23:29.040
  • I don't know ,maybe you walk through a divorce,
  • 00:23:29.040 --> 00:23:30.210
  • maybe you're walking through a painful situation,
  • 00:23:30.210 --> 00:23:33.030
  • maybe you've lost someone that you love.
  • 00:23:33.030 --> 00:23:35.130
  • I know how that feels.
  • 00:23:35.130 --> 00:23:36.180
  • When I lost my dad,
  • 00:23:36.180 --> 00:23:38.060
  • I had to get the helium back
  • 00:23:38.060 --> 00:23:40.010
  • and I had to get the Spirit of God,
  • 00:23:40.010 --> 00:23:41.250
  • the resurrection life,
  • 00:23:41.250 --> 00:23:43.200
  • not just for my sake, but for my wife sake,
  • 00:23:43.200 --> 00:23:45.240
  • for my kids sake, for the churches sake.
  • 00:23:45.240 --> 00:23:47.190
  • There's other people on the other side of your obedience
  • 00:23:47.190 --> 00:23:50.100
  • to start living your best days yet.
  • 00:23:50.100 --> 00:23:52.010
  • People are waiting, the world is waiting
  • 00:23:52.010 --> 00:23:53.280
  • to see the sons and daughters of God reveal.
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  • I've got a question for you today.
  • 00:23:58.120 --> 00:24:00.060
  • Are you living your best life?
  • 00:24:00.060 --> 00:24:02.260
  • Are you living your best days right now?
  • 00:24:02.260 --> 00:24:05.100
  • Maybe you're watching right now and you say,
  • 00:24:05.100 --> 00:24:06.230
  • "No, Paul, if I'm really honest, I'm living my worst days.
  • 00:24:06.230 --> 00:24:09.260
  • "I'm living like in the worst season of my life."
  • 00:24:09.260 --> 00:24:12.090
  • But guess what?
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  • You know who's in charge of living your best days yet?
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  • You are, you are.
  • 00:24:16.190 --> 00:24:18.130
  • We can't control what other people do to us,
  • 00:24:18.130 --> 00:24:20.170
  • if someone lets us go from a job,
  • 00:24:20.170 --> 00:24:22.180
  • or somebody walks out on us or someone betrays us,
  • 00:24:22.180 --> 00:24:25.250
  • but we can determine how we're gonna respond to life.
  • 00:24:25.250 --> 00:24:28.210
  • And life is 90% how you respond
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  • to the 10% you can't control.
  • 00:24:31.240 --> 00:24:34.000
  • So why not today, choose to take your life back,
  • 00:24:34.000 --> 00:24:37.140
  • to get your hope back, get your laughter back,
  • 00:24:37.140 --> 00:24:40.070
  • get your joy back.
  • 00:24:40.070 --> 00:24:41.230
  • Let's stop delegating the responsibility to be happy
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  • on everyone else in our life.
  • 00:24:44.210 --> 00:24:46.140
  • Let's take that personal responsibility and say,
  • 00:24:46.140 --> 00:24:49.000
  • "As for me in my house,
  • 00:24:49.000 --> 00:24:50.170
  • "we're gonna start living our best days yet.
  • 00:24:50.170 --> 00:24:52.230
  • "We're gonna get our joy back,
  • 00:24:52.230 --> 00:24:54.060
  • "we're gonna start making the most of our."
  • 00:24:54.060 --> 00:24:55.220
  • Listen, this is your job, this is your responsibility.
  • 00:24:55.220 --> 00:24:58.120
  • That's what I'm preaching to you today.
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  • It's time to start living your best days.
  • 00:25:00.030 --> 00:25:02.100
  • So, say this prayer with me.
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  • Say, Jesus,
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  • I'm all yours.
  • 00:25:04.260 --> 00:25:06.100
  • Lord, I thank you that you've given me life
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  • and life more abundantly.
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  • So God, I'm gonna live my best days right now,
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  • in this season.
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  • In Jesus name, amen.
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  • Hey, if you prayed that prayer,
  • 00:25:17.200 --> 00:25:18.270
  • I believe God's gonna help you.
  • 00:25:18.270 --> 00:25:20.150
  • We can't live our best days on our own,
  • 00:25:20.150 --> 00:25:22.140
  • we need God's help.
  • 00:25:22.140 --> 00:25:23.200
  • We need His grace, We need His strength,
  • 00:25:23.200 --> 00:25:25.120
  • we need the Holy Spirit power.
  • 00:25:25.120 --> 00:25:27.060
  • And listen, when God comes into your life,
  • 00:25:27.060 --> 00:25:29.110
  • He gives you that joy, that peace,
  • 00:25:29.110 --> 00:25:31.270
  • that sound mind,
  • 00:25:31.270 --> 00:25:33.030
  • that ability to overcome life's difficulties.
  • 00:25:33.030 --> 00:25:36.170
  • Life is not gonna get easier, but life can get better,
  • 00:25:36.170 --> 00:25:40.010
  • because your attitude changes,
  • 00:25:40.010 --> 00:25:41.240
  • your heart changes, you choose to make the most.
  • 00:25:41.240 --> 00:25:44.160
  • Hey, listen, your best days are right in front of you,
  • 00:25:44.160 --> 00:25:46.250
  • but you've got to make that decision.
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  • We wanna encourage you to get plugged into a local church.
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  • If you don't have a home church and you live near Tulsa,
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  • come to Victory.
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  • If you're ever in this city come to Victory,
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  • we'll make you feel right at home.
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  • All of these messages are available right now online
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  • at victory.com.
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  • We would love for you to go and check out all that content,
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  • be encouraged, be refreshed.
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  • Again. We love you so much,
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  • and we'll see you next time.
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  • Your best days are right in front of you.
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  • - [Announcer] Victory Christian School is pursuing families
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  • that share our vision and standard for education.
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  • Our families are here on purpose.
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  • We raise up leaders of tomorrow by preparing the heart,
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  • mind and body.
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  • With challenging academics, a celebration of the arts
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  • and championship level athletics,
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