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Relationships: Purpose and Power of Family

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July 26, 2020
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Family is important for support and encouragement. Pastor Kerry explains the importance of one’s natural family and the church family.

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Relationships: Purpose and Power of Family

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  • Kerry Shook: There aretimes when we all fail.
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  • And failure's a whole lot easierwhen you have someone to hold
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  • you up when you fall down.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Kerry: There's a true story thatappeared in "The Boston Globe"
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  • some years ago.
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  • A Massachusetts man had his twochildren with him and he was
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  • putting them in the car and youhave to give him credit because
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  • he did remember to put histwo-year-old daughter in her
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  • car seat.
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  • But he did forget that he'dplaced the car seat of his
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  • three-month-old son on top ofthe car with his three-month-old
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  • son in it.
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  • And so, he pulls out onto theInterstate and accelerates and
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  • he heard some rattlingon top of his car.
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  • Now isn't that just like a guy?
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  • He doesn't notice that he'smissing 50% of his children but
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  • he does notice that thecar's making a funny noise.
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  • And so he speeds up to 50 milesper hour on the Interstate and
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  • the car seat just flies off thetop of the car with the baby in
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  • it and it lands on Interstate290 and somehow, miraculously,
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  • it skids safely to a stop and sothe baby was unhurt so it has a
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  • happy ending unless you're thedad who was supposed to take
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  • care of those two kids.
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  • I mean, can you imagine this guytrying to explain to his wife
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  • what happened?
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  • I don't think itwent over very well.
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  • It's like, "Honey,it was no big deal.
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  • I mean, we were just going acouple of miles with the baby
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  • on top of the car.
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  • That was about it.
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  • It only lasted forabout five minutes."
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  • I think that probably produceda little bit of conflict.
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  • And there's a lot of conflictand stress in relationships
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  • right now.
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  • There's a lot of disharmony inour homes right now because of
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  • this crisis thatwe're living through.
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  • The stress levels just seem tooverflow and then we take it out
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  • on the people whoare closest to us.
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  • And that's why we're getting"Real in Relationships."
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  • And today we're talking aboutsomething really important.
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  • We're talking about thepower and purpose of family.
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  • The family's taken a lotof hits in recent years.
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  • There are people in our culturethat say family is obsolete,
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  • it's out of date.
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  • Family is irrelevant.
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  • But the family is notfinished, it's just fragmented.
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  • It's just fragile right now.
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  • It just needs to be strengthenedand that's one of the big
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  • purposes of Woodlands Church isto strengthen families and to be
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  • a family to those without one.
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  • And so we're gonna look at thesefour purposes that the Bible
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  • talks about that thefamily should provide.
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  • And the family is the only thingthat can provide these things;
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  • and, by the way, these are thesame four things that the
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  • church provides.
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  • Four powerful purposes of thechurch and why you should be
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  • connected to a church family.
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  • In Matthew 7:24 Jesus said,"Therefore everyone who hears
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  • these words of mine and putsthem into practice is like a
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  • wise man who builthis house on the rock.
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  • The rain came down, the streamsrose, and the winds blew and
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  • beat against that house; yet itdid not fall, because it had its
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  • foundation on the rock."
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  • Here we see one of the firstpurposes that are so powerful
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  • for families.
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  • If you've built your home uponthe solid rock, if you've built
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  • your foundation on Christ, thenthe family is a shelter
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  • from storms.
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  • The family should always bea shelter from storms because
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  • storms hit everyone.
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  • We all have difficult days.
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  • We all have those bad days wheneverything just seems to
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  • go wrong.
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  • We all get rained on.
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  • And we all need a place ofprotection, a place where we can
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  • let down our guard fromthe storms of life and find
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  • protection and security.
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  • It says in Proverbs 14:26:"Reverence for God gives a man
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  • deep strength; his children havea place of refuge and security."
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  • Home should be a place of refugeand security from the storms
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  • of life.
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  • And there are three inevitablestorms that will rock
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  • every life.
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  • Three storms that areguaranteed to hit your home.
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  • First, the winds of change.
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  • The winds of change are blowingstronger than ever, and it
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  • causes so much stress.
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  • You need a place of stabilityin an age of change.
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  • Somebody to put their arm aroundyou when the winds of change
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  • howl and someone to put theirarm around you and say, "It's
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  • gonna be okay.
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  • We're gonna makeit through this.
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  • We're gonna make itthrough this together."
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  • That's the purpose of a family,to be a shelter from the storm,
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  • to be a shelter fromthe winds of change.
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  • And then the second storm thatrocks every life and every home
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  • is the hard freeze of failure.
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  • Hey, we all fail at times.
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  • Sometimes, you fail the test.
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  • Sometimes, you get passedover for the promotion.
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  • Sometimes, a businessdeal goes south.
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  • There are timeswhen we all fail.
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  • And failure's a whole lot easierwhen you have someone to hold
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  • you up when you fall down.
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  • It's a whole lot easier tohandle failure when you're safe
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  • at home.
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  • When you can go home and there'speople to lift you up when
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  • you've fallen flat on your face.
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  • I love that.
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  • Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says: "Twopeople are better off than one,
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  • for they can helpeach other succeed.
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  • If one falls, the othercan reach out and help.
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  • But someone who fallsalone is in real trouble."
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  • And that reminds me of thechurch family, that this is a
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  • place for people who have fallenand we have people who can lift
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  • you up, encourage you,because we all fail at times.
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  • We all mess up but we have achurch that loves you no
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  • matter what.
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  • We can lift you back up and getyou back on the right track.
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  • And that's what family isfor and your church family.
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  • In all seriousness, folks,you've got to have a church
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  • family that loves you, that'snot filled with people who think
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  • they've got it all together, whoare always pointing out all the
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  • things you're doing wrong butit's people that are going the
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  • right direction, following JesusChrist but know that they too
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  • are broken but we're looking tothe one who's making us whole.
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  • And so that when you fall, whenyou fail, you can admit it and
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  • they're there to helpyou and to lift you up.
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  • When you fall down, they liftyou up and they put you back on
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  • the right track and that'swhat a church family is for.
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  • But then there's a third stormthat rocks every life and that's
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  • the cold rain of rejection.
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  • The times you don't make theteam, the times you get your
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  • heart broken in life.
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  • There's times you feel thatcold rain of rejection.
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  • And the family is there toremind you, even though you
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  • can't see it at the time,that rejection is often
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  • God's protection.
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  • Chris and I would say that toour kids as they were growing up
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  • if they didn't make a team:"Rejection is God's protection.
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  • He's just got something elsebetter for you or maybe he wants
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  • to teach you a lesson on how topersevere, you know, to go back
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  • at it again andrejection is protection."
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  • Whenever they'd have a break-upin a girlfriend or boyfriend
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  • relationship, we would alwaysremind them, "Hey, rejection is
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  • protection because God is savingyou, preparing you, and he's got
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  • something out therefor you better."
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  • female announcer: Still tocome, with Pastor Kerry Shook.
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  • Kerry: The goal of thisgeneration in our church is to
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  • pass on the baton of Christ-likevalues to this next generation.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Kerry: I want you to see thesecond purpose that
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  • a family is for.
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  • It's to be a shelter from thestorm but, secondly, the family
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  • is a garden for growth.
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  • In Psalm 144:12 it says: "Mayour sons flourish in their youth
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  • like well-nurtured plants."
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  • So the Bible calls a familya garden for growing people.
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  • It should be a fertile gardenthat would grow men and women,
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  • husbands and wives,in their faith.
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  • It should be a fertile gardenthat would grow children and to
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  • grow them in character, in theirfaith and in their skills.
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  • In Luke 2:52 it says: "And Jesusgrew in wisdom and stature, and
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  • in favor with God and man."
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  • Now, this is an important versenot only for parents but for
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  • anyone who wants to be a peoplebuilder because this is personal
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  • growth right here,these four areas.
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  • To develop a person, has to bebalanced in these four areas.
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  • It says Jesus grew in wisdom.
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  • That's intellectual development.
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  • It says Jesus grew in stature.
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  • That's physical development.
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  • It says he grewin favor with God.
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  • That's spiritual development.
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  • He grew in favor with man.
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  • That's social development.
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  • And so, parents, you're to helpyour kids have balanced growth
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  • in these four areas but a lotof parents neglect the spiritual
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  • development just completely andthat's the most important part.
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  • There are three main things thatyou need to learn in family,
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  • three things that you reallywill learn for good or for bad.
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  • First, we learn relationships.
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  • Right or wrong, good or bad,you learn how to relate to other
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  • people from your family.
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  • And there are a lot of things,usually, that you had to unlearn
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  • that you learned, ways ofrelating that were destructive
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  • or ways of coping that don'treally benefit you but just
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  • hurt you.
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  • And so everything that you learnabout relationships you first
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  • learn in your family.
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  • And the goal is to try to raisechildren in a way they don't
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  • have to unlearn more than 50%,because they're gonna have to
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  • unlearn some stuff becausewe all have our baggage.
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  • My kids are having to unlearnsome stuff that they learned in
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  • our home because we all have ourbaggage that we pass on and--but
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  • I'm so grateful that theylearned so much as well that
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  • they can put right into theirrelationships today from looking
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  • at Chris and I, in ourrelationship that's far from
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  • perfect, but yet, it's filledwith the love of Jesus Christ.
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  • And so, it's so important toknow that you're gonna teach
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  • your kids relationships, forgood or bad, based on how you
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  • live, how you modeled them.
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  • And secondly, we learn characterin our family and character is a
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  • lot more caughtthan it is taught.
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  • That's really totally modeling.
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  • You can teach them with yourwords but if you don't live it
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  • with your life it'snot gonna get through.
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  • And then we learn values.
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  • Thirdly, we learn values,what's really important.
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  • You know, in a relay race, themost important time of the race
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  • is the passing of the batonfrom one runner to the other.
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  • It's the most critical timebecause it's so easy if you
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  • don't make a smoothtransition to drop the baton.
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  • And that's the wayit is in parenting.
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  • A parent's whole goal, for thoseof you who are parents, is to
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  • pass on the baton of yourvalues to your children.
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  • The goal of this generation inour church is to pass on the
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  • baton of Christ-like valuesto this next generation.
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  • And so many parents arefailing miserably at this.
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  • They've dropped thebaton completely.
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  • They've dropped the baton andthey're not passing on values to
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  • their children and if we're notcareful this will end up being a
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  • valueless generation.
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  • And so we've gotto pass the baton.
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  • That's why I'm so gratefulfor Woodlands Church, for our
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  • student ministry, our children'sministry here that comes
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  • alongside parentsand helps them.
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  • But parents, you have the numberone job to pass that baton.
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  • We come along and help you.
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  • We see so many students who havedeep and strong values and a
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  • foundation in Christ that'llserve them for the rest of
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  • their life.
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  • And we wanna help youpass on that baton.
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  • And so those valuesare so important.
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  • See, you choose the legacy youleave for your kids and their
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  • kids and their kids andtheir kids and their kids.
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  • The ramifications are, youknow, just mind-boggling.
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  • It's like a ripple in a pond.
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  • When one person comes to Christat Woodlands Church, starts
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  • growing in Christ, doesn'tjust change their life.
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  • It changes generations to come.
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  • In Psalm 145:4 it says: "Leteach generation tell its
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  • children of your mighty acts;let them proclaim your power."
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  • We're to pass on our faith, ourvalues, to the next generation.
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  • I've heard some parents say,"Well, I'm not gonna impose my
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  • spiritual values on my kids.
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  • I'm just gonna let them maketheir own decisions about
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  • spiritual values."
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  • Have you ever heard that?
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  • How many of you haveever heard that?
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  • Whenever you hear someone saysomething like that, just know
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  • what they're really saying is,"I'm abdicating my role as a
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  • parent to the Internet."
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  • That's what they're saying.
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  • They're saying, "I'm notgonna teach my kids values.
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  • I'm just gonna let theInternet teach them values.
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  • I'm gonna let the cultureteach them values.
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  • I'm gonna let moviesteach them values."
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  • Because your kids will learnvalues whether you teach them or
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  • not, and so when you abdicateyour role as a parent and say,
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  • "I'm gonna let my kids choosewhat values they take," then you
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  • just abdicated your role andyou've guaranteed where they're
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  • going to get theirvalues, from this culture.
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  • We have to pass on ourvalues to our children.
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  • Sometimes, I hear parents say,"Well, I'm not gonna force my
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  • kids to come to church.
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  • I'm not gonna force myspiritual values on them."
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  • And basically, what you're doingthere is teaching them a value,
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  • a misplaced value, that God isnot important, that God is
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  • an option.
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  • And he's not.
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  • Jesus Christ is Lord of lordsand we need to teach our kids
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  • who he is.
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  • We need to be truthful withthem, honest with them, loving
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  • with them.
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  • Teaching values is oneof a parent's biggest
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  • job descriptions.
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  • In Deuteronomy 6:6-7 it says:"And you must think constantly
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  • about those commandmentsI am giving you today.
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  • You must teach them to yourchildren and talk about them
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  • when you're at home or out fora walk; at bedtime and the first
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  • thing in the morning."
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  • It should just be--biblicalvalues should just be part of
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  • what we talk about and that'swhy it's so important, you know,
  • 00:15:47.229 --> 00:15:50.132
  • for kids to keep connecting withour Children's Ministry right
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  • now, students to keep connectingwith our Student Ministry, and
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  • to keep learning these biblicalvalues that we teach in all the
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  • online programs thatwe're doing right now.
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  • It's so important.
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  • And the third thing: not only isthe family a garden for growth,
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  • the family is a factory for fun.
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  • Dads, your kids don't care aboutyour accomplishments, I can tell
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  • you that.
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  • My kids growing up didn'tcare that I was a pastor.
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  • They didn't care that I wasa pastor of a large church.
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  • They didn't care about any ofmy accomplishments that God had
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  • really done.
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  • They didn't care about that.
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  • All they wanted to know is,"Dad, are you gonna play
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  • with me?"
  • 00:16:30.439 --> 00:16:32.074
  • When they were little,it's like, "Is Dad fun?
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  • Does Dad pay attention to me?
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  • Does Dad tune in to me or is hetuned out thinking about work?
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  • Is Dad having fun with me?
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  • Does Dad care aboutwhat I care about?
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  • Is he interested inwhat interests me?"
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  • That's all they care about.
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  • They don't care aboutyour accomplishments.
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  • They don't care aboutyour bank account.
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  • Now, they do when they'reteenagers, when they start
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  • asking for money, but otherwisethey don't care, growing up.
  • 00:16:53.395 --> 00:16:56.131
  • They just wanna know, "Hey, ishe gonna spend time with me?
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  • Is he gonna connect with me?"
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  • So I wanna ask you, those of youwho have children, is your home
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  • fun, especially duringthis really stressful time,
  • 00:17:08.811 --> 00:17:12.948
  • or are all the stressesjust boiling over?
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  • And I wanna say this, if youdon't have a reputation for fun
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  • in your home, don't be surprisedwhen the kids get out on their
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  • own, if they don't wannacome home very often.
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  • It's so important to have areputation for fun in your home.
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  • It's a spiritual thing.
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  • You take God seriously, realseriously, but you don't take
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  • yourself too seriously.
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  • And for a lot of people today,it's just the other way around.
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  • We take ourselves far tooseriously and we don't take God
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  • seriously enough.
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  • We've got to be ableto laugh at ourselves.
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  • We've got to be able to have funwith your kids because that's
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  • what your kids rememberwhen they're grown.
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  • They remember howyou made them feel.
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  • They remember all those funtimes, those bonding times,
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  • those memories of fun.
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  • In Proverbs 15:15, it says:"Every day is a terrible day for
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  • a miserable person, but acheerful heart has a
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  • continual feast."
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  • I love that.
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  • You get to choose if you'regonna be happy or not.
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  • No matter what's going on inyour life, it's really a choice.
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  • I saw this movie about a manwho was special needs and, true
  • 00:18:14.543 --> 00:18:19.348
  • story, and someone asked him,"How come you're so happy?"
  • 00:18:19.381 --> 00:18:23.852
  • And he said, "Well, I alwayswanted to be happy so I decided
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  • to be."
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  • And I thought, "Brilliant.
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  • That's one of the wiseststatements I've ever heard."
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  • "I always wanted to behappy so I decided to be."
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  • And that's reallywhat it comes down to.
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  • Joy is a choice thatwe make and step into.
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  • It's not a feelingthat you feel.
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  • You step into it with God'spower and he fills you up
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  • with his joy.
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  • And enjoy everyseason you're in.
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  • I think that's so important.
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  • Moms, those of you, especially,who are in that season, the
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  • diaper season.
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  • I know, you know, it's kind oftough to enjoy it at times but
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  • just laugh about it.
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  • Thank God for these crazymoments when the house is a mess
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  • and you can barely keep up andyou can hardly get any sleep.
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  • And just learn to laugh.
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  • Learn to laugh about it andthank God because I'm telling
  • 00:19:08.931 --> 00:19:10.499
  • you, it goes really fast.
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  • It'll go really fast.
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  • I remember preaching so manytimes to parents when my kids
  • 00:19:14.670 --> 00:19:17.639
  • were little, "Kids grow up fast.
  • 00:19:17.673 --> 00:19:20.042
  • Kids grow up fast," but at theback of my mind it was, like,
  • 00:19:20.075 --> 00:19:22.044
  • "Doesn't seem like it.
  • 00:19:22.077 --> 00:19:24.913
  • It seems like they growup pretty slow," ha, ha.
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  • And then the next thing youknow, they're leaving home.
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  • You're waving goodbye, they'regoing off to college, going into
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  • the workforce.
  • 00:19:33.889 --> 00:19:35.424
  • They're--I'm telling you, itgoes fast so don't get stuck in
  • 00:19:35.457 --> 00:19:37.993
  • the someday syndrome.
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  • "Someday when things settledown I'll really focus in on
  • 00:19:39.428 --> 00:19:41.129
  • the family.
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  • Someday when things settledown I'll be a great model.
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  • We'll make church a priority.
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  • We'll pass on spiritual values.
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  • Someday," because you'll getstuck in the someday syndrome.
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  • Today is your someday.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Maker of heaven,maker of earth ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Galaxy architect,gave me my worth ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Who could have predictedthe story you'd write ♪
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  • ♪ No, no, you stretchedout the heavens ♪
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  • ♪ And laid down your life ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand love collide ♪
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  • ♪ I stand in awe,arms open wide ♪
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  • ♪ The God who joined thehemispheres joined my fight ♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand blood collide ♪
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  • ♪ My chains fall off,my fears subside ♪
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  • ♪ The God who made theuniverse made a way ♪
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  • ♪ You made a way ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand love collide ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • male: You sing,"Maker of heaven."
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Maker of heaven,author of life ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ With no obligationyou painted the skies ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ There's no planet too big,no creature too small ♪
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  • ♪ No ♪
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  • ♪ In your perfect pictureyou wanted it all ♪
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  • male: Come on, we sing out.
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  • ♪ Here where sinand love collide ♪
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  • ♪ I stand in awe,arms open wide ♪
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  • ♪ The God who joined thehemispheres joined my fight ♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand blood collide ♪
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  • ♪ My chains fall off,my fears subside ♪
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  • ♪ The God who made theuniverse made a way ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Make a way, make a way ♪
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  • ♪ Make a way,make a way ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ You're the maker of thestars, so make a way ♪
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  • ♪ You're the maker of myheart, so make a way ♪
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  • ♪ You made the blindto see, so make a way ♪
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  • ♪ You made something newin me, so make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When the walls are closingin, you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I need to startagain, you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I can't see my wayout, you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ In the darknessI will shout ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I have nothing left,you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I can't take one morestep, you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I can't see my way out,you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ In the dark I will shout ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way. ♪
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  • ♪ When I have nothing left,you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I can't take one morestep, you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I can't see my wayout, you will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ In the dark I will shout ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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