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  • Ed Young: The church should be
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  • the most creative Institute in the world.
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  • The church is where it happens!
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  • The church is where we find purpose, and meaning, and power!
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  • The church is the living, breathing body of Christ!
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  • Wisdom, though, is seeing life through the perspective of God.
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  • You've never locked eyes with someone
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  • that Jesus did not die for.
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  • Ed Young: Welcome to my home.
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  • This is where I spend a lot of time studying as I prepare for
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  • different messages that you watch each and every week.
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  • Thank you also for allowing me to come into your home,
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  • through the miracle of technology and television.
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  • Sit back and relax and watch this because I truly believe
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  • the next several moments can change the course of your life.
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  • Ed: You know, every time I look at a SUV, especially like
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  • this one with all of the luggage on top, I think about a vacation
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  • that Lisa and I took years ago with our family.
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  • Our adult children were children then.
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  • The twins were a year.
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  • E.J. was like three. LeeBeth was eight.
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  • We went to the Hyatt Hill Country in beautiful
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  • San Antonio, Texas to SeaWorld for a vacation.
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  • You know, we had this big SUV.
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  • I think we had a Suburban at the time and four kids, so there was
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  • no way the luggage would get in the car, so we pile the luggage
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  • on top of the car.
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  • We had these cheap luggage carriers, and it was like
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  • a CrossFit workout just to put all of the paraphernalia
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  • on top of the car. It was unbelievable.
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  • And it was, like, in August, triple-degree heat, and I had to
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  • take, like, two showers after I packed the car, so we all loaded
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  • up, and we headed out to beautiful San Antonio, Texas
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  • to see SeaWorld.
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  • When we pulled up, the bellman at the hotel just stood there,
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  • and he was like this.
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  • He said, "I've been doing this for eight years."
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  • He said, "I've never seen this much luggage from one family on
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  • one car in my life."
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  • That started our vacation,
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  • so during the vacation we had a good time.
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  • We had some, you know, conflict, arguments, you know, because
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  • everyone is in close quarters, but it was good.
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  • It was good, really good.
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  • We were there for a while, and then it was time to go back to
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  • Dallas. I was so excited.
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  • I got up early, went through the same drill and packed the car
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  • and loaded up all of the baggage.
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  • I mean, we had portable playpens and strollers and Power Ranger
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  • duffle bags.
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  • Like, we had it all, and I packed it up, and we headed out
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  • to the big D.
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  • When we turned into our neighborhood I was like,
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  • "Hallelujah."
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  • I said to myself, "I'll never do this again."
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  • I turned into our neighborhood.
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  • "There is our house.
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  • Yes!"
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  • Turned in the driveway.
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  • Instinctively, I pushed the garage door opener and in my
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  • excitement, in my elation I forgot about the baggage on top
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  • of the car.
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  • I pressed the gas.
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  • Boom.
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  • Dry wall flying, boards.
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  • Nails going everywhere.
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  • I ripped off the top of our garage.
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  • I was like, "Oh, my goodness."
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  • I forgot just for a second the bags were up there.
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  • Tore the garage to smithereens, and it was expensive to fix.
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  • I bet if the truth were known a lot of us here would, sort of,
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  • identify with that story.
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  • A lot of us here have some serious family baggage.
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  • We're carrying around a lot of baggage on top of our lives,
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  • yet most of us are unaware that we have the baggage.
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  • We're just, sort of, used to it.
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  • Now, we think it's normal.
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  • We think it's healthy, yet if we stop and look we see
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  • the carnage.
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  • We see the destruction that the baggage is causing and also
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  • we're discovering if we really take a look at our lives that
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  • it's expensive.
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  • And if we keep on driving the way we've been driving, if we
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  • keep on forgetting about the baggage, we'll keep on
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  • destroying stuff, messing stuff up, and it will be
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  • very, very expensive.
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  • During this series I've interviewed a lot of people
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  • about dysfunction.
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  • I've interviewed people from divorce situations.
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  • I've interviewed people from addiction situations.
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  • I've interviewed people who've been abused, whether it be
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  • physically or verbally.
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  • I've talked to psychologists.
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  • I've read scholarly papers.
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  • I have been in small-group discussions about our family of
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  • origin.
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  • Then I went to the real source, the Bible.
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  • The Bible talks so much about dysfunction, and there are so
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  • many dysfunctional families in the Bible.
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  • Have you ever thought about that?
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  • They're littered throughout the pages of Scripture, and we need
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  • to build on the good of our families.
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  • Our families, that you can find some good, some good things,
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  • build on those things, and the things that weren't so good, you
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  • know, go, "Wow.
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  • Not gonna do that, and I'm gonna go the other way."
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  • The Bible says in Isaiah 57, verses 18 and 19, "I have seen
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  • how they acted, but I will heal them.
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  • I will lead them and help them.
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  • I will comfort those who mourn.
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  • And offer peace to all, both near and far!"
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  • Okay, let's personalize this verse and here is how I would
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  • read it if I personalized it.
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  • Isaiah 57:18-19, "I have seen how Ed has acted, but I will
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  • heal him.
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  • I will lead Ed and help Ed.
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  • I will control Ed when he mourns.
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  • I will offer peace to Ed, both near and far."
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  • That's the text.
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  • That's the foundational text of this entire series, adult
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  • children, because we want children to act like adults, and
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  • then we have adults acting like children.
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  • Why?
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  • Well, I'll tell you why.
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  • The root of our problem and the fruit of our problem goes all
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  • the way back to the origin of our family of origin.
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  • The origin of our family of origin would be that
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  • husband-and-wife team, you know, that crooked landscaper and that
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  • diva named Eve.
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  • They're the ones who dropped the ball.
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  • They're the ones who said, "Hey, I want to be God.
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  • I want to run the show," so from there--forget genetics.
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  • Let's talk about synectics.
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  • From there we've been dealing and trying to process these
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  • issues, these bags.
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  • See this duffle bag right here?
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  • This is a heavy, heavy bag.
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  • This looks like some of us.
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  • I mean, when God sees us this is what he sees.
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  • Other people don't, but this is what he sees: baggage, man.
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  • Baggage.
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  • The baggage comes from our depravity.
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  • You know, we're sinners.
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  • We've messed up.
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  • We get that from Adam and Eve, and we double down on our
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  • dysfunction, and we become more and more and more dysfunctional.
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  • We diss God's function for our lives, and it's recreated, and
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  • the luggage is redistributed in the family of origin, so let's
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  • just see what's in our duffel bag.
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  • Told you it was heavy.
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  • Thankfully, your pastor is super strong and can carry
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  • this heavy weight and burden on his shoulder.
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  • Any baggage here?
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  • And some of you, I'm telling you, are like this, "I don't
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  • have any baggage.
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  • Are you kidding me?"
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  • Really?
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  • "I've not really messed up, or there's no carnage as I look in
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  • the rearview mirror of my life."
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  • Ooh, think about it.
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  • Is it damaging?
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  • Do you feel like, "Whoa, man, I just feel like I've been paying
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  • the piper, you know?"
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  • What's in this bag? What's in this bag?
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  • You come from a dysfunctional family.
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  • Again, a family of, let's say for example, divorce, abuse.
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  • Let's say addiction, perfectionism.
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  • Perfectionism.
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  • We have a tendency to be perfectionistic sometimes when
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  • we emerge from dysfunctional families.
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  • Control. Oh, I wanna control.
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  • I wanna control my problems. I wanna control my past.
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  • I wanna control people.
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  • I want to control and if I'm outta control it reminds me of
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  • my family of origin, because my family of origin, see, we were
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  • outta control, so I've gotta control.
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  • I've gotta control my spouse. I've gotta control my finances.
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  • I've gotta control. Guilt.
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  • That's a big one, isn't it?
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  • We carry guilt.
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  • Some of the guilt we carry is unnecessary.
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  • What if my kids had gone, "Oh, Dad, the reason the garage door
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  • got all jacked up and messed up was because of my Power Ranger
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  • duffle bag"?
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  • What if the twins had said, "It's because of my playpen, my
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  • portable playpen"?
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  • No, no, no, no, no, I'm the idiot.
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  • I messed up.
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  • You see what I'm saying to you?
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  • So, some of us are living life, and we're carrying this guilt
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  • and shame around that we shouldn't carry.
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  • We're not made to carry it.
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  • What's in your duffel bag?
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  • What's in your duffel bag?
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  • Egotism.
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  • It's all about me.
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  • Then you have criticism.
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  • You grew up in a family where your dad, your mom just
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  • criticized you.
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  • You couldn't do anything right.
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  • The criticism hurts, doesn't it? So, what do you do?
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  • Well, you emerge from this dysfunction, and you criticize
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  • others, because when I criticize you I feel better about myself,
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  • I think, but not really.
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  • I feel bad, and I want you to feel as bad as I do, so I'm
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  • going to criticize you.
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  • "I don't like the way you walk.
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  • I don't like your car.
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  • Your house is too big and--"
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  • Forgiveness, or the lack thereof.
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  • What a gift we can give ourselves.
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  • We're gonna learn how to forgive ourselves in this series.
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  • Some of us, again, who are carrying in the duffle bags
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  • guilt and shame, we need to forgive ourselves and forgive
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  • others.
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  • That's why we need to preach the gospel to ourselves every
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  • day--the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus--because
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  • when we do that we're gonna walk in grace and mercy and humility
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  • and forgiveness.
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  • Ed: February 19 through the 20th our
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  • Creative Church Conference is happening again.
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  • Have you seen the speaking list?
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  • Louie Giglio: God isn't just interested in getting you to do
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  • something.
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  • He wants you to understand that he sees you just like you are.
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  • Randy Bezet: Get your eyes off the hazards in your life.
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  • Get your eyes on Jesus.
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  • Ed: The gates of hell will not prevail against the church.
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  • Phil Dooley: There are people out there who are gonna try and
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  • take your hope from you, but you gotta hold on to it.
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  • Ed: It will revolutionize your life.
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  • Make sure that you are here for C3.
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  • Ed: Deception. You know what?
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  • I have--I've never seen the level of lying like we have in
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  • our culture today.
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  • People will just, I mean, flat out lie for no reason, and the
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  • liars that I've come in contact with even here over the last
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  • couple of decades, some of the stories I can tell you
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  • would blow your mind.
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  • Lying. Anxiety.
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  • Anybody here understand anxiety?
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  • So, so, so prevalent. Anxious.
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  • We grew up in an anxious family and now we're anxious, and we're
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  • anxious about so many things about the future, about the
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  • past, about our family now, about our lives.
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  • And anger.
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  • That's another big one.
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  • Show me someone who's grown up in a dysfunctional family, and
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  • I'll show you somebody who has an anger issue.
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  • Defensive.
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  • Ready to pounce because they saw that modeled in family and
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  • that's just how people roll, or we've taken all of our emotions
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  • and bottled them and Tupperwared them in our lives.
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  • "If you cross me, if you get up in my grill, if you cut me off
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  • on the overpass--" Anger.
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  • Anger.
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  • Man, this duffle bag of dysfunction is something else,
  • 00:15:51.130 --> 00:15:54.020
  • isn't it?
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  • Promiscuity.
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  • Sexual promiscuity.
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  • Let's talk about that, because maybe you grew up in the family
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  • of a divorce situation, alcohol, drugs, narcissism.
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  • Maybe you grew up with some sort of abuse.
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  • What do you do as a young person going through puberty?
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  • You begin to say to yourself, "You know what?
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  • Wow.
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  • I need intimacy.
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  • I need love.
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  • I need acceptance," so you have these young girls and the first
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  • guy that winks at them, the first guy that sends them a
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  • suggestive text, boom!
  • 00:16:37.210 --> 00:16:42.260
  • They're having sex with that guy, and the same thing could
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  • happen to guys, as well.
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  • And then, you have confusion in these families, where maybe you
  • 00:16:48.190 --> 00:16:53.210
  • have an absentee father or mother, you have homosexuality,
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  • and addiction to porn, lust.
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  • I think we see it played out all the time and if you look at how
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  • many couples are living together now, I understand it.
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  • Like, I get it.
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  • "I'm not gonna repeat what I saw in my family.
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  • I mean, my parents hated each other.
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  • They divorced. I'm not gonna do that.
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  • I'm gonna test drive this girl," or test drive this guy, "for a
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  • while until we get married, and I'm not even sure we are."
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  • Depravity.
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  • Dysfunction.
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  • This diabolical nature that the enemy has perpetrated upon us.
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  • Trust issues.
  • 00:17:45.270 --> 00:17:47.070
  • A lot of us just have a hard time trusting people.
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  • I read this over and over, just trusting, just having faith in
  • 00:17:51.150 --> 00:17:58.000
  • someone, because the trust was always broken in your family.
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  • "Hey, we're gonna go to that game."
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  • "Hey, we're gonna take that trip."
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  • "Hey, we're gonna do this or that."
  • 00:18:06.240 --> 00:18:08.100
  • "Hey, we're gonna go to SeaWorld," but when the time
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  • came it didn't happen, so you got trust issues, and you've got
  • 00:18:14.260 --> 00:18:20.190
  • abandonment issues, and they segue into trust issues.
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  • And then, approval.
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  • Oh, man, I've got--I've--I wanna hear the words I never heard
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  • growing up. "Ed, you matter.
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  • Ed, I love you.
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  • Ed, you're really great at doing that."
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  • I know so many, especially men, who are on that treadmill doing
  • 00:18:43.070 --> 00:18:49.160
  • this, doing that wanting to hear those words they never heard
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  • as a child.
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  • Wow.
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  • Approval.
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  • It's kinda negative, isn't it?
  • 00:19:03.070 --> 00:19:05.020
  • These are like, "Whoa, man.
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  • Wow. This is heavy."
  • 00:19:06.170 --> 00:19:07.180
  • It is heavy.
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  • This is a very, very heavy series, so what we do is, I'll
  • 00:19:09.150 --> 00:19:13.250
  • say it again, we double down on our dysfunction.
  • 00:19:13.260 --> 00:19:19.220
  • We say, "I can control it.
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  • I can do it.
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  • I'm the man.
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  • I'm the girl," and it doesn't work because, again, we forget
  • 00:19:24.200 --> 00:19:28.270
  • about the extent of the baggage.
  • 00:19:28.280 --> 00:19:31.260
  • We forget about the destruction that we've caused, and we forget
  • 00:19:31.270 --> 00:19:35.070
  • how much it's going to cost.
  • 00:19:35.080 --> 00:19:39.030
  • Well, here is some good news.
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  • The first thing, we have to admit that we can't change, so I
  • 00:19:41.130 --> 00:19:46.180
  • have to admit, "I can't change."
  • 00:19:46.190 --> 00:19:49.250
  • Say that with me. One, two, three.
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  • "I can't change."
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  • I can't change.
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  • I can't.
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  • I'm helpless.
  • 00:19:58.090 --> 00:19:59.090
  • I'm hopeless.
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  • I don't have the juice.
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  • I don't have the sauce to change.
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  • I can't change.
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  • Here is the root of my problem.
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  • Genesis chapter 3, verse 5.
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  • I'm gonna fly through tis and just take notes.
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  • "For God knows that when you eat from it--" This is the enemy,
  • 00:20:16.010 --> 00:20:20.160
  • our origin of the family of origin, talking to that crooked
  • 00:20:20.170 --> 00:20:25.110
  • landscaper, right?
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  • That diva.
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  • That's Adam and Eve.
  • 00:20:27.180 --> 00:20:28.120
  • Well, kind of, a little joke there.
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  • Get it? I guess you didn't.
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  • That's okay. It's okay.
  • 00:20:31.030 --> 00:20:33.020
  • No one laughed.
  • 00:20:33.030 --> 00:20:33.280
  • I don't think they even--that's okay.
  • 00:20:33.290 --> 00:20:35.290
  • Okay, Adam a landscaper 'cause God said, "Manage my garden."
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  • See?
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  • Okay, crooked landscaper, and Eve being a beautiful diva.
  • 00:20:43.270 --> 00:20:48.090
  • Did you get that earlier? Did everyone get that?
  • 00:20:48.100 --> 00:20:50.130
  • I thought it was pretty funny, but I guess when the topic is
  • 00:20:50.140 --> 00:20:53.240
  • this serious it's--I understand.
  • 00:20:53.250 --> 00:20:55.210
  • It's just kinda hard to laugh, but, okay.
  • 00:20:55.220 --> 00:21:00.050
  • "For God knows that when you eat from it," the devil says, "your
  • 00:21:00.060 --> 00:21:05.070
  • eyes will be opened."
  • 00:21:05.080 --> 00:21:06.090
  • Notice that's the omnipresence of God.
  • 00:21:06.100 --> 00:21:08.080
  • Write that in the margin.
  • 00:21:08.090 --> 00:21:10.130
  • "And you'll be like God," that's the omnipotence of God, "knowing
  • 00:21:10.140 --> 00:21:14.130
  • good and evil." That's the omniscience of God.
  • 00:21:14.140 --> 00:21:19.040
  • Adam was trying to be God.
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  • He was trying to function as God.
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  • Dysfunction.
  • 00:21:23.290 --> 00:21:25.040
  • He's dissing the function of God.
  • 00:21:25.050 --> 00:21:27.100
  • He's saying, "I'm gonna function as God."
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  • That's still my problem.
  • 00:21:30.050 --> 00:21:32.090
  • I thought that every day.
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  • Have you ever felt like a failure?
  • 00:21:33.170 --> 00:21:36.070
  • Wow. Maybe your asker is broken.
  • 00:21:36.080 --> 00:21:39.170
  • You've not asked God to take control of your life.
  • 00:21:39.180 --> 00:21:43.070
  • Proverbs 28:13, "You'll never succeed in life If you try to
  • 00:21:43.080 --> 00:21:49.030
  • hide your sins.
  • 00:21:49.040 --> 00:21:50.170
  • Confess them and give them up; then God will show mercy to
  • 00:21:50.180 --> 00:21:55.260
  • you." So, step one, I can't change.
  • 00:21:55.270 --> 00:21:59.280
  • Say it with me, "I can't change."
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  • Step two, God can change me.
  • 00:22:02.200 --> 00:22:06.270
  • Step two, let's say it, "God can change me."
  • 00:22:06.280 --> 00:22:11.240
  • Well, what happens when we do this?
  • 00:22:11.250 --> 00:22:14.110
  • Well, what happens when we say, "Okay, God, I can't change, and
  • 00:22:14.120 --> 00:22:19.010
  • I admit that to you, but I know you can, and the change agent is
  • 00:22:19.020 --> 00:22:22.290
  • Jesus"? What happens?
  • 00:22:23.000 --> 00:22:24.280
  • Well, here we go.
  • 00:22:24.290 --> 00:22:26.010
  • We can comprehend God's character.
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  • What does that mean?
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  • God knows about my problem. Isn't that great?
  • 00:22:28.250 --> 00:22:31.290
  • God knows about my criticism.
  • 00:22:32.000 --> 00:22:34.210
  • God knows about my trust issues.
  • 00:22:34.220 --> 00:22:37.050
  • God knows about my promiscuity.
  • 00:22:37.060 --> 00:22:39.220
  • Psalm 56:8.
  • 00:22:39.230 --> 00:22:41.210
  • Let's say it together, "You know how troubled I am; and you've
  • 00:22:41.220 --> 00:22:46.070
  • kept a record of my tears."
  • 00:22:46.080 --> 00:22:48.280
  • Now, what about that?
  • 00:22:48.290 --> 00:22:50.080
  • A little bottle with your name on it.
  • 00:22:50.090 --> 00:22:52.070
  • All the tears you've ever shed.
  • 00:22:52.080 --> 00:22:54.130
  • That's strong, so God knows about my problem.
  • 00:22:54.140 --> 00:22:57.030
  • God is sympathetic about my problem.
  • 00:22:57.040 --> 00:23:01.040
  • Psalm 103:13, "He's like a father to us, tender and
  • 00:23:01.050 --> 00:23:05.210
  • sympathetic."
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  • God can change my problem.
  • 00:23:07.150 --> 00:23:09.220
  • Luke 18:27, "What's possible with man is possible with God,"
  • 00:23:09.230 --> 00:23:16.180
  • so we comprehend God's character, and we simply comply
  • 00:23:16.190 --> 00:23:19.050
  • with God's offer.
  • 00:23:19.060 --> 00:23:20.050
  • What's God's offer?
  • 00:23:20.060 --> 00:23:21.220
  • Last verse we're gonna read.
  • 00:23:21.230 --> 00:23:24.000
  • Philippians 2:13, "For it is God who is at work within you,
  • 00:23:24.010 --> 00:23:28.270
  • giving you the will and the power to achieve his purpose."
  • 00:23:28.280 --> 00:23:34.090
  • That's willpower.
  • 00:23:34.100 --> 00:23:36.250
  • That's willpower. "I can't change.
  • 00:23:36.260 --> 00:23:41.090
  • God, you can change me.
  • 00:23:41.100 --> 00:23:44.090
  • Every day for the next week wake up, "God, I can't change, but,
  • 00:23:44.100 --> 00:23:52.280
  • God, I believe and know you can change me," so right now focus
  • 00:23:52.290 --> 00:23:57.200
  • in on the primary block that you're dealing with.
  • 00:23:57.210 --> 00:24:04.210
  • You might be like, "Oh, man, I'm all of these."
  • 00:24:04.220 --> 00:24:07.280
  • No, no, no, no, no, let's just do one, the first one the Holy
  • 00:24:07.290 --> 00:24:12.250
  • Spirit of God brings to mind.
  • 00:24:12.260 --> 00:24:14.290
  • I don't know what it is.
  • 00:24:15.000 --> 00:24:17.030
  • That is your homework this week.
  • 00:24:17.040 --> 00:24:21.060
  • You mention that because you're prolific when you're specific.
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  • You mention that.
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  • You own that.
  • 00:24:26.110 --> 00:24:28.210
  • You tell God about it.
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  • You say, "God, I have tried.
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  • I can't change.
  • 00:24:31.080 --> 00:24:34.230
  • You can.
  • 00:24:34.240 --> 00:24:36.210
  • I have the power in my life," because it's my prayer that you
  • 00:24:36.220 --> 00:24:41.010
  • give your life to Christ.
  • 00:24:41.020 --> 00:24:43.070
  • He wants to meet you right where you are.
  • 00:24:43.080 --> 00:24:49.130
  • He knows about your problem.
  • 00:24:49.140 --> 00:24:52.160
  • He's sympathetic about your problem.
  • 00:24:52.170 --> 00:24:54.250
  • He can change your problem and mine.
  • 00:24:54.260 --> 00:24:58.240
  • Jesus paid it all.
  • 00:24:58.250 --> 00:25:02.180
  • He took your destruction and mine and if we'll just confess
  • 00:25:02.190 --> 00:25:08.200
  • who we are to him he'll come in and begin to change our lives.
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  • It'll only get better in heaven.
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  • Heaven, heaven,
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  • Chains are falling.
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  • Freedom's calling.
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  • Eyes are opened.
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  • I see heaven's in motion.
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  • Chains are falling.
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  • Freedom's calling.
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  • Eyes are opened.
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  • Heaven's in motion.
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