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March 16, 2020
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Proverbs 22:6 says; “Train up a child in the way he should go." It is essential to teach everyday; indispensable biblical truths to the children God has placed in your life! | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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  • - Children are a gift from God.
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  • Being responsible for them canbe terrifying and wonderful,
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  • challenging, butdeeply rewarding.
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  • What does the Bible sayabout being a parent,
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  • maybe a grandparent,a caregiver?
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  • God has placed preciouslittle ones in your life,
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  • today's conversation is for you.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • - I was justthinking about my son
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  • because he has a reallyactive imagination.
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  • And when he was a littlebaby he had night terrors.
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  • I thought he would outgrow that,
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  • but he's about to be sevenin March and he still...
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  • It could be anything,
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  • like clear dreams,
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  • and it's usually 20 minutesafter he goes to sleep.
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  • - Wow.
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  • - And I'll be like,"What was it buddy?"
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  • "It was spiders and ninjascoming out of the mountain."
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  • Like clear, clear stuff
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  • because he's asuper-creative kid.
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  • And finally, I guessabout a year ago
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  • when he was five,we started talking.
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  • I said, "Okay, it's time wegotta get past pep talks.
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  • "Listen, the Lord has notgiven us a spirit of fear."
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  • I said, "Do you knowwhat that means?
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  • "It means that evenwhen we feel afraid
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  • "we don't have stay there.
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  • "Jesus is bigger."
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  • "Is he bigger than the ninjas?"
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  • (team laughs)
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  • "He is bigger than the ninjas."
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  • And so that has kind ofbeen our go-to scripture
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  • because at night
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  • he almost gets anxioussometimes about going to sleep
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  • if he's not super tired
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  • 'cause his brain,
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  • he's fearful aboutwatching certain movies.
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  • he's highly emotive, highlyrelational, highly empathetic,
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  • he feels everything,
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  • so we talk about that a lot
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  • and I didn't think I'dhave to be talking about
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  • the spirit of fear with my7-year-old, almost 7-year-old.
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  • But it has been real,helping him understand
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  • that even when we feel afraid
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  • that Jesus is bigger than that.
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  • And he's given us thispower, this ability,
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  • to choose not to be there.
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  • And he'll go, "Whatif I'm still scared?"
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  • I'm like, "You mightstill be scared,
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  • "but we don't haveto stay there."
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  • And so how do wereally pray as Jesus,
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  • and we have to dothis all the time.
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  • It has been kind ofinteresting for me
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  • because my parents areChristians and they love Jesus,
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  • but I don't rememberat that early of an age
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  • them having to make scripturebe a tool for real life.
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  • And so that's just beenfascinating for me.
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  • - I love you make it relevant
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  • because I grew up in aChristian home, half Christian,
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  • but my mama wasBaptist to the bone
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  • and so I knew I thinkwhen I was in utero,
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  • I knew the Ten Commandments.
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  • (laughs)
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  • - But it was almostlike we had...
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  • And I love my mama, but itwas just a different era
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  • and so it's almost likeyou had religiosity
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  • and then you had real life.- Yeah.
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  • - And I think one of thethings that I've learned is
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  • Biblical parenting is not
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  • this rigid parameters
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  • of just rule based,
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  • it's every day,all day, every day,
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  • the concepts, the narrativethat God is with us.
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  • It's a love story.
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  • When I first broughtMissy home from Haiti,
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  • she didn't speak any English.
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  • One night when I wasleaving her room,
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  • she said, "jabla,"
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  • and the chills went upon the back of my neck.
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  • I didn't even know,but I thought,
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  • there's something about thisthat doesn't feel right.
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  • And I raced down stairs,got my Creole dictionary
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  • and jabla is a femininederivative of a demonic spirit.
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  • And I was like, "Oh,no, not in this house."
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  • (laughs)
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  • And I ran to the kitchen, gotsome olive oil, ran upstairs
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  • and I grabbed her leastfavorite stuffed animal,
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  • somebody gave us when Ifirst brought her home,
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  • was this moose.
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  • So, I got this moose and I went,
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  • "Melissa, jabla. Jesus."
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  • And then I beat the foolout of that stuffed animal
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  • and tore it apart.(laughs)
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  • I knew she just was dying
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  • and I think she'sfour years old,
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  • but I was like,"No jabla. Jesus."
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  • And so it was so practical,it wasn't a rule,
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  • it was, "We're gonnahave Jesus in the house."
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  • And I think that's beenreally fun for me is to go,
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  • I don't want Missyto think of the Bible
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  • as being thishierarchical set of rules,
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  • but her to go,
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  • "He's with me every day."- He's a tool.
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  • - "He can deal with the ninjas."
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  • And so, yeah, it'sa way of life.
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  • - Absolutely, when I waslittle my mom, they were,
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  • they put a lot in us,you know, with the Bible,
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  • and I used to singthis song, from Psalty.
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  • - [Team] Right, right, right.
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  • - The song, "ICast All My Cares,"
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  • and I have a video whenI was like three singing,
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  • "I Cast All My Cares,"
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  • and it was small, but it'ssomething that stuck with me,
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  • so I started teachingmy kids that.
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  • Before they could even talk
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  • they were hummingthe tune of that,
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  • so when they would get nervous,
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  • my kids deal nightterrors, they did,
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  • and I would hear them singing,
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  • "I cast all mycares on the Lord."
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  • So, little things like that,
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  • just teaching themthe principles
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  • without necessarilythrowing scripture at them.
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  • - Right.
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  • - Like this is Jesus.
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  • - And that it works.- It works.
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  • - It doesn't workwhen you're 25,
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  • it works right now. Yeah.
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  • That's been fun.
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  • I'd say, "Okay, now, bud,are we ready for bed?"
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  • "Yeah, but I feel like I'mgonna have a bad dream."
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  • (team laughs)
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  • I'm like, "Don't play overthat, just get your mind."
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  • I say, "What's gonna happenif you have a bad dream?"
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  • 'Cause it used to be, "Cometo mama's bed," right.
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  • Then we come and talk.
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  • - Key word, "Used to be."
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  • (team laughs)
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  • - Maybe there are new creations.
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  • "Okay, son, let'sstop it, hold on now.
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  • "Mama and Dad needsome bedtime."
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  • I'm like, "So, what are wegonna do if we wake him?"
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  • He'll be like, "I'm gonnapray, I'm gonna pray.
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  • "But if that didn't work?"
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  • I say, "Well, let's just wait.
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  • "Let's try it first."
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  • And I'll never forget thefirst morning he woke up,
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  • he's like, "Mom, I woke up lastnight with a bad nightmare,
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  • "and then me and Jesus talked."
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  • I said, "What'd he say?"
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  • He said, "Don't goto your mama's bed."
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  • (team laughs loudly)
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  • I said, "That was good.
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  • "I'm glad you hearfrom him so quickly,
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  • that's exactly what hesaid and he was like, okay.
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  • And he still hasmoments when he says,
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  • "But, Mom, it might not work."
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  • I said, "You're right."
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  • I said, "Because we're human."
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  • I said, "We're gonna havethings we try that don't work."
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • - I said, "We gonna keep tryingand you have to believe it."
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  • And what it's done is
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  • it's opened up thiscuriosity with him
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  • about the bigness of God.
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  • So, everywhere we go,
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  • he's like, "Is Godbigger than that?
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  • "Bigger than the sun, ishe bigger than the stars?"
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  • So, he's trying to get hismind around how big God is
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  • because he needs to see him
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  • in this superherocrushing kind of role
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  • to deal with his fears.
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  • So, that's been cool,
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  • to have thoseconversations with him.
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  • - That is cool.- It's fun.
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  • - But this is what theBible instructs us to do.
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  • The Bible is clear abouttraining up a child
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  • in the way that they should go
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  • so when they're older,they won't depart from it.
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  • And we sometimes don't wantto put too much on them
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  • because we want themto choose Jesus,
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  • but training them inthe little things,
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  • like you can call on God,
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  • I tell my kids,"Sometimes Holy Spirit
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  • "will sound a lot like me."
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  • (Lisa laughs)
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  • - That's right.
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  • - I tell them, "If you thinkyou hear my voice calling you,
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  • "and I'm not calling you,
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  • "just pause andsay, 'Yes, Jesus.'
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  • "'What do you want in this one?"
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  • I tell my kids that sometimesHoly Spirit will sound like me
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  • because we were workingon getting them familiar
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  • with what Holy Spirit orwith what God will sound like
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  • when he talks to you,
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  • and I told them,
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  • "You'll hear me say,
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  • "'Hey, you're not supposedto have that candy,'
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  • "or, 'You're not supposedto hit your sister.'"
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  • and in the moment thatI may not be around,
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  • but they remember whatI said, I tell them,
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  • "That's Holy Spirit,he's talking to you,
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  • "it just sounds likeme, he's bringing back
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  • "to your remembrancesomething that I said."
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  • He's so familiar, he's not far,
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  • he's great, but he's not far,
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  • he's so close tous, he's our friend.
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  • He's our father, he lovesus and he cares for you.
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  • So, to be able to givethem the life principles
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  • that are so basic every day.
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  • - Right.
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  • - If you feel scared, oh, no,bind this spirit that's here.
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  • God has not given youthe spirit of fear,
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  • and giving them differentthings that they can come back
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  • and if you hearsomebody telling you,
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  • "Go eat that piece of candy,"
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  • - It's not the Lord.- That's the devil.
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  • (team laughs)
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  • - You say, "No."
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  • - It is not the Lord.
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  • - I tell them,
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  • "That's the only timeyou can say, 'Shut up.'"
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  • "Say, 'Shut up, devil,'"
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  • 'cause that is not...It's simple things.
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  • - I think we're focusing onBiblical parenting not being
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  • all descriptiveor instructional,
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  • it's definitive.
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  • Initially, when Ibrought Missy home,
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  • she did not havean understanding of
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  • who she was in God's eyes.
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  • So, if I just gave her
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  • a set of rules basedon Biblical principles,
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  • it would have been just,
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  • it would have beenall instructional.
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  • I started with going,
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  • "Do you know how he sees you,do you know who you are?"
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  • So, God is her perfect parent.
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  • And I think sometimeswe get that segregate,
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  • it's like we start talkingabout worth and identity
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  • when a child is in middle school
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  • and they really startwrestling with self-esteem.
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  • I'm like, no, itty bitty babies,
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  • I'm singing over her howhow much God loves her
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  • so that she realizesthese principles where
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  • he doesn't want me to eatcandy in the middle of the day
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  • or he doesn't want meto be disrespectful,
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  • it's because he loves me andhe wants the best for me.
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  • And so, I've just foundespecially as an older mom
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  • I'm always grabbinganything I can
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  • to help me be a better mom,
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  • a more Jesus-shaped mom
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  • and I thought, boy, my momdidn't have the benefit
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  • of all the counseling andthe books and the wisdom
  • 00:09:33.796 --> 00:09:37.400
  • and her generation was,you make sure child behaves
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  • because that is aChristian child,
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  • then I'm like Iwant her to behave
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  • not out of just obedience,
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  • but out of she so loves God
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  • and is convinced thatGod thinks she's the bomb
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  • that she naturally is inclined
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  • to move toward a betterway, a higher way.
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  • - My goal has been to make sure
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  • that my kidsunderstand boundaries,
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  • they understand why they exist
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  • and they understand thatit's my job to show them
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  • where the boundaries are
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  • so they can live blessed lives
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  • and understand God'sprinciples and his ways.
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  • But I don't wanna onlytalk about the rules,
  • 00:10:13.369 --> 00:10:15.738
  • I want them to understand that,
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  • just like I want them tohave a relationship with me,
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  • that God wants them to havea relationship with him
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  • and out of the relationship
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  • they wanna understandthe boundaries
  • 00:10:23.546 --> 00:10:25.881
  • so that they can notonly glorify him,
  • 00:10:25.881 --> 00:10:28.718
  • live for him and make him happy,
  • 00:10:28.718 --> 00:10:32.088
  • but so that in the process
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  • that things for themwork out for their good.
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  • I think it's interestingwe talk about
  • 00:10:38.861 --> 00:10:41.397
  • how we were raisedin a Christian home,
  • 00:10:41.397 --> 00:10:44.233
  • try to juxtapose that againstwhat it looks like now
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  • or what we may wannado differently,
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  • but I also thinktimes are different.
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  • - Right, right.
  • 00:10:52.208 --> 00:10:53.175
  • - Our culture doesn't have
  • 00:10:53.175 --> 00:10:54.610
  • a Judeo-Christianorientation, by and large.
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  • So, you could afford,
  • 00:10:57.980 --> 00:11:00.349
  • there were seasons
  • 00:11:00.349 --> 00:11:01.751
  • where my parentswere being raised
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  • and even raising us
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  • when you could affordto sheerly make sure
  • 00:11:05.087 --> 00:11:08.157
  • you were giving yourkids the information
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  • because the culture reinforced--
  • 00:11:09.925 --> 00:11:12.027
  • - That's right.
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  • - Reinforced the applicationof that information.
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  • I think for me I feel thata part of the difference
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  • in my parenting is because
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  • I don't feel like Ihave the privilege
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  • or the benefit ofexpecting anybody else
  • 00:11:25.441 --> 00:11:28.077
  • to reinforce this.
  • 00:11:28.077 --> 00:11:30.146
  • We're constantlyberated by challenges
  • 00:11:30.146 --> 00:11:33.482
  • to what I'm telling them.
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  • It's different on TV thanwhat I'm telling them.
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  • It's different inour neighborhood
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  • than what I'm telling them,
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  • it's different whenthey watch the news,
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  • it's different.
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  • So, they're bringingthe questions
  • 00:11:42.992 --> 00:11:44.794
  • because they noticethe difference
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  • and the application ofwhat they know to be true
  • 00:11:46.295 --> 00:11:49.865
  • is different than Ithink what it was before.
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  • I told my oldest daughter,my parents told me,
  • 00:11:53.836 --> 00:11:56.071
  • and so did everybody else.
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  • So, you just kinda gotto get into the flow
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  • of what everybodyelse was saying.
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  • And I think there'sthis balance,
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  • because I do believe thatyou pour in the word,
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  • I do believe there issome instruction to it.
  • 00:12:07.950 --> 00:12:10.653
  • I told my children,particularly the boys,
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  • we still memorizescripture together.
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  • - I love that.
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  • - And my oldest son said,
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  • "I just don't understand"why I need it."
  • 00:12:19.762 --> 00:12:21.430
  • And I said, "But I do."
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  • It's my job to deliverwhen they need it.
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  • "It's your job in thiscase to memorize it,
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  • "you'll tell methank you later."
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  • I look at them and I say,
  • 00:12:31.207 --> 00:12:32.441
  • "I know what, notin total, but I know
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  • "what the 40-year-old versionof you is gonna want."
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  • - That's good.
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  • - Is gonna need.
  • 00:12:40.282 --> 00:12:41.717
  • - Is gonna need, and Idon't just want you to have
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  • this drive-by understanding
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  • of God probablywould think this.
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  • I want you to know,
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  • this is what he thinks,
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  • this is where it's located
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  • that you've hiddenit in your heart
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  • and if somebody asks you toshow it to them, you can.
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  • So, there is thatprescriptive part of it,
  • 00:12:55.731 --> 00:12:58.033
  • but then the descriptive part,
  • 00:12:58.033 --> 00:12:59.501
  • particularly in theculture which we live is,
  • 00:12:59.501 --> 00:13:02.538
  • how do you takewhat I'm giving you
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  • and why does it matter,
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  • and bringing up those scriptures
  • 00:13:05.808 --> 00:13:07.276
  • when they're arguingwith one another
  • 00:13:07.276 --> 00:13:08.978
  • and telling them how God seesarguments among yourselves?
  • 00:13:08.978 --> 00:13:12.414
  • What does the Bible say,
  • 00:13:12.414 --> 00:13:13.682
  • "Why are there argumentsand quarrels among you?"
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  • Because you're selfish.
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  • Bringing those things tobear, not just saying.
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  • So, I think having a balance of
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  • pour it in,
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  • but then make them use it.- Apply it.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • - We would get in arguments,
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  • my sister and I, mygrandmother be like,
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  • "Stand side by side."
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  • And we'd be like,"Really, right now?
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  • "Yes. Now, I want you,
  • 00:13:51.453 --> 00:13:53.255
  • "what was thedisagreement about?"
  • 00:13:53.255 --> 00:13:54.490
  • And she'd ask, what was it about
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  • and we'd have tore-have the argument
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  • in a loving way.
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  • You know why,
  • 00:13:59.962 --> 00:14:02.064
  • because a soft answerturns away wrath.
  • 00:14:02.064 --> 00:14:02.898
  • - That's right.
  • 00:14:02.898 --> 00:14:04.366
  • - And she'd say it and we'dbe like, "Oh, Grandma."
  • 00:14:04.366 --> 00:14:06.769
  • (team laughs)
  • 00:14:06.769 --> 00:14:07.603
  • - I mean, really.
  • 00:14:07.603 --> 00:14:09.071
  • You just like,you roll your eyes
  • 00:14:09.071 --> 00:14:10.572
  • and then all of a sudden youget old and you're like...
  • 00:14:10.572 --> 00:14:12.508
  • - It clicks, yes.
  • 00:14:12.508 --> 00:14:13.876
  • - I really could saythis differently.
  • 00:14:13.876 --> 00:14:16.445
  • And she, thispassage in Psalm 127
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  • which is so relevant now,
  • 00:14:19.148 --> 00:14:20.816
  • she'd use it all the time.
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  • She would say,"You are my arrow."
  • 00:14:23.252 --> 00:14:24.853
  • So, this idea that
  • 00:14:24.853 --> 00:14:26.889
  • as a parent you're in battle,
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  • you're a warrior trying tolaunch these kids somewhere
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  • and there's something about that
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  • because there is a part wherebefore they get a choice,
  • 00:14:34.797 --> 00:14:38.000
  • the warrior says wherethe arrow will go.
  • 00:14:38.000 --> 00:14:40.502
  • So, they'll get a choicelater, but not right now.
  • 00:14:40.502 --> 00:14:43.339
  • Psalm 127 gives usthis beautiful metaphor
  • 00:14:44.673 --> 00:14:47.309
  • that our children are likearrows in the hands of a warrior
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  • and when I think about that,
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  • they are not arrows inthe hands of an amateur
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  • or a careless person,
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  • that God gives us thismetaphor that we are warriors
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  • which means that evenin our insecurities
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  • and all of our doubts
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  • somehow we are qualifiedto launch these children
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  • that God said it don't matteryour past and your mistakes
  • 00:15:06.295 --> 00:15:09.064
  • and all of thethings you've done,
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  • you think you're horrible at
  • 00:15:10.699 --> 00:15:12.568
  • I've given you these children,
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  • I've put them in your hands
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  • and you're a capablewarrior for that child.
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  • The child thatGod has given you,
  • 00:15:17.840 --> 00:15:19.475
  • and so for me itmakes me feel like,
  • 00:15:19.475 --> 00:15:21.310
  • okay, we got this.
  • 00:15:21.310 --> 00:15:23.112
  • Not I got this,
  • 00:15:23.112 --> 00:15:24.346
  • but God, me andyou, we got this.
  • 00:15:24.346 --> 00:15:26.048
  • And if you're married,
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  • then, hey, together myhusband and I with the Lord,
  • 00:15:27.483 --> 00:15:30.119
  • we have this
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  • and so there's a senseof responsibility
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  • 'cause warriors are tryingto achieve something,
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  • they're not just doingit to be doing it,
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  • they're trying to win a war
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  • and so worth fightingfor our children
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  • in the spiritualrealm and the physical
  • 00:15:40.229 --> 00:15:42.931
  • we're trying fightfor their souls
  • 00:15:42.931 --> 00:15:45.367
  • and fight for theirexistence in this world
  • 00:15:45.367 --> 00:15:47.536
  • as Christ followers.
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  • When I think about that metaphor
  • 00:15:49.138 --> 00:15:50.639
  • I just think that we've beengiven these amazing gifts.
  • 00:15:50.639 --> 00:15:53.642
  • These arrows, they're not ours.
  • 00:15:53.642 --> 00:15:56.145
  • They're ours to steward,not ours to own,
  • 00:15:56.145 --> 00:15:59.081
  • and we aim them andwe send in a direction
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  • with an intentionalityto win this war
  • 00:16:01.517 --> 00:16:04.253
  • that is around usevery single day
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  • and that God hasqualified us to do it.
  • 00:16:06.789 --> 00:16:08.757
  • - We face the world andeverything we do from victory,
  • 00:16:09.224 --> 00:16:13.562
  • we walk in victory,
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  • so that's the way weapproach everything,
  • 00:16:14.830 --> 00:16:16.598
  • from a victorious stance.
  • 00:16:16.598 --> 00:16:18.200
  • And to put that and to seethat into your little children
  • 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:22.671
  • because like you said,when they're 40 years old,
  • 00:16:22.671 --> 00:16:26.075
  • What do I remember?
  • 00:16:26.075 --> 00:16:27.409
  • I remember thosescriptures that I memorized
  • 00:16:27.409 --> 00:16:29.912
  • so that when I wake up duringthe middle of the night
  • 00:16:29.912 --> 00:16:32.714
  • and have somethingthat grips me,
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  • that comes back to remembrance.
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  • All those scriptures werelittle, that my mama taught me,
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  • and if your children are olderand maybe you didn't do it,
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  • then you have grandbabies,
  • 00:16:44.993 --> 00:16:46.295
  • and you can start all overwith your grandbabies,
  • 00:16:47.696 --> 00:16:49.264
  • but seeding in the wordof God in songs and music
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  • I think is one of the mostpowerful things we can do.
  • 00:16:54.636 --> 00:16:56.138
  • - Because it becomes theirshelter and their identity.
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  • - Yeah.
  • 00:16:59.274 --> 00:17:00.209
  • - We were in Target recently
  • 00:17:00.209 --> 00:17:01.844
  • and there was a mama justgoing to town on her child
  • 00:17:01.844 --> 00:17:06.582
  • you could hear her fussingher baby around the corner.
  • 00:17:06.582 --> 00:17:10.252
  • And Missy was real quiet,
  • 00:17:10.252 --> 00:17:11.820
  • we were walking past andwhen we got past this woman,
  • 00:17:11.820 --> 00:17:14.356
  • the child's crying, thewoman's just screaming
  • 00:17:14.356 --> 00:17:17.059
  • and I didn't judge her.
  • 00:17:17.059 --> 00:17:17.993
  • I'm like I been in Target before
  • 00:17:17.993 --> 00:17:19.361
  • and felt like lettingloose some dignity.
  • 00:17:19.361 --> 00:17:21.997
  • And I don't know what,
  • 00:17:21.997 --> 00:17:23.432
  • you don't know what caused it
  • 00:17:23.432 --> 00:17:24.666
  • and we walked pastand Missy was quiet
  • 00:17:24.666 --> 00:17:26.235
  • then she looked atme and she goes,
  • 00:17:26.235 --> 00:17:27.803
  • "We are Harper girlsand we don't do that."
  • 00:17:27.803 --> 00:17:30.205
  • I was like, "You're right.
  • 00:17:31.306 --> 00:17:32.808
  • "As Harpers, we try tobe respectful and kind
  • 00:17:32.808 --> 00:17:35.811
  • "and you'll be disciplined,
  • 00:17:35.811 --> 00:17:37.045
  • "but I will try not towear you out in Target."
  • 00:17:37.045 --> 00:17:39.848
  • (team laughs)
  • 00:17:39.848 --> 00:17:42.551
  • And she was like,
  • 00:17:42.551 --> 00:17:44.019
  • "As Harpers, that's notpart of what we want to do."
  • 00:17:44.019 --> 00:17:46.822
  • And I was like,"You're right, baby."
  • 00:17:46.822 --> 00:17:48.357
  • I was like, "This isour little wee tribe
  • 00:17:48.357 --> 00:17:50.859
  • "and as under the Lord
  • 00:17:50.859 --> 00:17:52.628
  • "we're gonna try not to have
  • 00:17:52.628 --> 00:17:53.829
  • "that kind ofquarrelsome activity."
  • 00:17:53.829 --> 00:17:55.297
  • But it made me so proudwhen she went, "Us Harpers."
  • 00:17:55.297 --> 00:17:59.902
  • - Right. Absolutely.
  • 00:17:59.902 --> 00:18:01.603
  • Because my son, my oldestson, he's very sharp,
  • 00:18:03.005 --> 00:18:05.807
  • like he's very witty,
  • 00:18:05.807 --> 00:18:06.975
  • he'll let you have it
  • 00:18:06.975 --> 00:18:08.911
  • and his new thing now,
  • 00:18:08.911 --> 00:18:10.679
  • he'll laugh and he'llgo, "Oh, Proverbs 18:19,"
  • 00:18:10.679 --> 00:18:14.082
  • "He that answers amatter before he hear it
  • 00:18:14.082 --> 00:18:16.919
  • "folly and shame to his name."
  • 00:18:16.919 --> 00:18:18.921
  • And I'm like, "Say it again.
  • 00:18:20.022 --> 00:18:22.057
  • "Say it again."- That's right. Say it again.
  • 00:18:22.057 --> 00:18:23.992
  • And he's so quick to
  • 00:18:23.992 --> 00:18:25.360
  • put himself in things.
  • 00:18:27.095 --> 00:18:29.164
  • And I'm like,
  • 00:18:29.164 --> 00:18:30.699
  • "Son, you don't really knowwhat you're talking about."
  • 00:18:30.699 --> 00:18:31.466
  • So, we went to that scripture,
  • 00:18:34.203 --> 00:18:35.504
  • he's like, "I already know."
  • 00:18:35.504 --> 00:18:37.706
  • (team laughs)
  • 00:18:37.706 --> 00:18:38.640
  • "Folly and shame to his name."
  • 00:18:38.640 --> 00:18:40.542
  • - It will staywith him. It will.
  • 00:18:40.542 --> 00:18:42.044
  • - It will stick.
  • 00:18:42.044 --> 00:18:43.245
  • - I was thinking aboutyour Target story
  • 00:18:43.245 --> 00:18:44.746
  • and I think for me and my son,now that he's getting older,
  • 00:18:44.746 --> 00:18:47.749
  • one of the things that Iloved about my parents,
  • 00:18:47.749 --> 00:18:49.985
  • scripture, prescription,things like that,
  • 00:18:49.985 --> 00:18:52.321
  • but that transparency
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  • so when I have those momentsnow that he's old enough,
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  • and I can say to him,
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  • especially knowing he'sstruggling with fear, I'm like,
  • 00:18:58.360 --> 00:19:00.395
  • "Bud, today Mom was afraid,"
  • 00:19:00.395 --> 00:19:02.464
  • and he's like, "Mom,you were scaed?"
  • 00:19:02.464 --> 00:19:05.467
  • "Yes, it happens."
  • 00:19:05.467 --> 00:19:07.369
  • So, it's so transformativefor them to be like,
  • 00:19:07.369 --> 00:19:10.038
  • "Oh, this not 'causeyou have it all together
  • 00:19:10.038 --> 00:19:13.141
  • "that I need to get it."
  • 00:19:13.141 --> 00:19:14.676
  • But they see those piecesof when you make a mistake
  • 00:19:14.676 --> 00:19:17.079
  • and God's word stillworks for me too.
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  • So, that's been important for me
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  • and I don't know that Ireally saw that growing up
  • 00:19:21.550 --> 00:19:24.920
  • 'cause I think yourparents were just like,
  • 00:19:24.920 --> 00:19:27.689
  • I want you to seethis great model,
  • 00:19:27.689 --> 00:19:29.324
  • but I think nowthis season I'm in,
  • 00:19:29.324 --> 00:19:31.960
  • this says they're "like arrowsin the hands of a warrior,
  • 00:19:33.362 --> 00:19:36.498
  • "are children of one's youth."
  • 00:19:36.498 --> 00:19:38.000
  • I don't need the youthpart, that's not my season.
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  • I'm a older mother,
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  • but it has beensignificant for me
  • 00:19:41.937 --> 00:19:44.206
  • to kinda share thosepieces of myself.
  • 00:19:44.206 --> 00:19:46.908
  • - What I'm learning is ifI'm honest about my mistakes,
  • 00:19:48.310 --> 00:19:51.246
  • they actually become fertilizerfor a more redemptive future
  • 00:19:51.246 --> 00:19:54.983
  • and so maybe it's because I'm 56
  • 00:19:54.983 --> 00:19:58.220
  • and I've gotten a lot ofdiscipline from the Lord
  • 00:19:58.220 --> 00:20:01.790
  • for when I'm a faker,
  • 00:20:01.790 --> 00:20:03.058
  • or pretending likeI didn't mess up,
  • 00:20:03.058 --> 00:20:05.127
  • but I am very quickwith my daughter to say,
  • 00:20:05.127 --> 00:20:07.896
  • "Baby, I'm sorry,"
  • 00:20:07.896 --> 00:20:09.398
  • because I don't want herto model my bad behavior.
  • 00:20:09.398 --> 00:20:12.267
  • So, if I'm impatient, Iwill pretty quickly say,
  • 00:20:12.267 --> 00:20:15.971
  • "Honey, I'm sorryI was impatient."
  • 00:20:15.971 --> 00:20:17.472
  • Sometimes she'llsay, "Mama, why?"
  • 00:20:17.472 --> 00:20:19.708
  • And I'll say,
  • 00:20:19.708 --> 00:20:21.243
  • "Baby, because I have toomuch on my plate this week
  • 00:20:21.243 --> 00:20:23.178
  • "and I'm trying to geta dissertation finished,
  • 00:20:23.178 --> 00:20:25.414
  • "and I went on trip,
  • 00:20:25.414 --> 00:20:26.915
  • "and I'm trying to do thisfor your math homework,
  • 00:20:26.915 --> 00:20:28.617
  • "and I was tryingto cook dinner,
  • 00:20:28.617 --> 00:20:30.185
  • "and I did an unwise thing,
  • 00:20:30.185 --> 00:20:32.254
  • "I committed to toomany things today,
  • 00:20:32.254 --> 00:20:34.556
  • "or this week, or this month.
  • 00:20:34.556 --> 00:20:36.491
  • "And so consequently
  • 00:20:36.491 --> 00:20:38.593
  • "I am bearing thefruit of impatience
  • 00:20:38.593 --> 00:20:40.729
  • "'cause I don't haveenough hours in a day
  • 00:20:40.729 --> 00:20:42.731
  • "and I don't wantyou to do that.
  • 00:20:42.731 --> 00:20:44.566
  • "When you become an adult,
  • 00:20:44.566 --> 00:20:46.134
  • "I want you to be wise abouthow much bandwidth you have
  • 00:20:46.134 --> 00:20:49.905
  • "and do what isyour responsibility
  • 00:20:49.905 --> 00:20:51.740
  • and do what matters.
  • 00:20:51.740 --> 00:20:53.041
  • "Don't say yes totoo many things."
  • 00:20:53.041 --> 00:20:55.344
  • And so even in my mistakes
  • 00:20:55.344 --> 00:20:57.179
  • it can be a realteachable lesson.
  • 00:20:57.179 --> 00:20:59.481
  • - Well, and I think thatthat gives hope to the parent
  • 00:21:00.082 --> 00:21:03.885
  • who is thinking,
  • 00:21:03.885 --> 00:21:05.153
  • "I didn't pour the wordin when they were small,
  • 00:21:05.153 --> 00:21:07.422
  • "maybe I didn't know Jesus,
  • 00:21:07.422 --> 00:21:09.157
  • "or maybe I wasn't reallyintentional about parenting,"
  • 00:21:09.157 --> 00:21:13.729
  • is that, that's a partof that transparency,
  • 00:21:13.729 --> 00:21:16.131
  • is saying to your kids whether
  • 00:21:17.165 --> 00:21:18.233
  • they're in elementary school,
  • 00:21:18.233 --> 00:21:21.103
  • but you missed the toddler stage
  • 00:21:21.103 --> 00:21:23.505
  • or maybe they're teenagers
  • 00:21:23.505 --> 00:21:25.107
  • and you were kind offocused on your own life,
  • 00:21:25.107 --> 00:21:27.542
  • not really pouring into them
  • 00:21:27.542 --> 00:21:28.910
  • or even young adults,
  • 00:21:28.910 --> 00:21:30.746
  • it's never too lateto be transparent
  • 00:21:30.746 --> 00:21:33.215
  • and to say, "You knowwhat I've learned?
  • 00:21:33.215 --> 00:21:35.050
  • "And I could have,should have, didn't.
  • 00:21:35.050 --> 00:21:37.552
  • "But here's whatI'm gonna do now."
  • 00:21:37.552 --> 00:21:39.755
  • How many of us eitherexperienced or know someone
  • 00:21:39.755 --> 00:21:43.458
  • who was poured into intheir young adult years
  • 00:21:43.458 --> 00:21:46.762
  • by somebody who keptwriting them letters
  • 00:21:46.762 --> 00:21:49.030
  • or would just send thema card or call them
  • 00:21:49.030 --> 00:21:51.566
  • and say, "I'm praying foryou," and don't forget.
  • 00:21:51.566 --> 00:21:53.568
  • And this idea thatparenting really never ends,
  • 00:21:53.568 --> 00:21:57.072
  • it changes, it morphs
  • 00:21:57.072 --> 00:21:59.875
  • and we never really fullyknow what we're doing.
  • 00:21:59.875 --> 00:22:02.477
  • We get more wise.
  • 00:22:02.477 --> 00:22:04.312
  • Like you said, grandchildrenget the benefit of all of that,
  • 00:22:05.714 --> 00:22:09.050
  • but even when weknow what we're doing
  • 00:22:09.050 --> 00:22:10.952
  • because everyperson is different.
  • 00:22:10.952 --> 00:22:13.221
  • Because I'm lookingat one of my children
  • 00:22:14.389 --> 00:22:15.924
  • and thinking, I thoughtI knew how to do this.
  • 00:22:15.924 --> 00:22:18.727
  • (team laughs)
  • 00:22:18.727 --> 00:22:20.295
  • But then you havedifferent kids.
  • 00:22:20.295 --> 00:22:21.496
  • I think we also haveto be willing to say
  • 00:22:22.697 --> 00:22:24.666
  • in a matter oftransparency with our kids,
  • 00:22:24.666 --> 00:22:26.334
  • if need be, thatwe're still learning.
  • 00:22:26.334 --> 00:22:29.137
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:22:29.137 --> 00:22:30.338
  • - We're still learning,we're still growing.
  • 00:22:30.338 --> 00:22:31.139
  • - And at any age.
  • 00:22:31.139 --> 00:22:32.274
  • My mother has called me.
  • 00:22:32.274 --> 00:22:33.842
  • Our relationship haschanged and she will say,
  • 00:22:33.842 --> 00:22:35.977
  • "You know, I usedto do it this way
  • 00:22:35.977 --> 00:22:38.146
  • "and I just learned something."
  • 00:22:38.146 --> 00:22:39.714
  • My grandmother, who'llbe 93 this year, is like,
  • 00:22:39.714 --> 00:22:42.584
  • "You know, girl, here's whatthe Lord is showing me."
  • 00:22:42.584 --> 00:22:44.352
  • And I as an adultand as a parent,
  • 00:22:44.352 --> 00:22:46.855
  • I'm still learning from thembecause my mother will say,
  • 00:22:46.855 --> 00:22:49.524
  • "I probably should have donethis differently with you."
  • 00:22:49.524 --> 00:22:51.960
  • And it doesn't make mebitter or need therapy,
  • 00:22:51.960 --> 00:22:54.596
  • but my mother I lovethat she's still growing
  • 00:22:54.596 --> 00:22:57.199
  • and I learn from hereven as an adult.
  • 00:22:57.199 --> 00:22:59.901
  • Or she'll say, "Ilove what you're doing
  • 00:22:59.901 --> 00:23:01.336
  • "with the kids 'causeI didn't do this."
  • 00:23:01.336 --> 00:23:03.371
  • So, I think it's so true thattransparency at every age,
  • 00:23:03.371 --> 00:23:08.076
  • at every phase of theparenting relationship.
  • 00:23:08.076 --> 00:23:10.145
  • - And that parentingisn't stagnant,
  • 00:23:10.145 --> 00:23:12.080
  • it's this redemptiveongoing arc.
  • 00:23:12.080 --> 00:23:14.416
  • - Because in order to do itwell, we have to depend on God.
  • 00:23:14.416 --> 00:23:18.386
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:23:18.386 --> 00:23:19.821
  • - But the kids are different,they're always changing
  • 00:23:19.821 --> 00:23:21.490
  • and so we, and in orderto parent well, we just,
  • 00:23:21.490 --> 00:23:25.293
  • no matter what stage we are
  • 00:23:25.293 --> 00:23:26.595
  • or how long we've doing it
  • 00:23:26.595 --> 00:23:28.296
  • we have to go to him.
  • 00:23:28.296 --> 00:23:29.598
  • - Here's to depending on God.
  • 00:23:29.598 --> 00:23:31.199
  • (cups clinking)
  • 00:23:33.068 --> 00:23:35.737
  • - Father, for every personthat's listening right now
  • 00:23:38.940 --> 00:23:42.344
  • that is a parent, a grandparent,a godparent, an aunt,
  • 00:23:42.344 --> 00:23:46.014
  • an uncle, a teacher,a youth worker,
  • 00:23:46.014 --> 00:23:48.817
  • anybody that hasinfluence over children,
  • 00:23:48.817 --> 00:23:50.852
  • God, would you justencourage them now
  • 00:23:50.852 --> 00:23:53.522
  • that they can continuenot only go personally,
  • 00:23:53.522 --> 00:23:56.691
  • but pour into thelives of the children
  • 00:23:56.691 --> 00:23:59.494
  • that you've giventhem influence over,
  • 00:23:59.494 --> 00:24:01.263
  • that your Biblicaltruth is something
  • 00:24:01.263 --> 00:24:03.465
  • that is never toolate to start giving,
  • 00:24:03.465 --> 00:24:05.834
  • that it can beapplicable and relevant.
  • 00:24:05.834 --> 00:24:08.603
  • Would you show us how,God, to make your truth
  • 00:24:08.603 --> 00:24:11.106
  • not just be words on apage or notes in a journal,
  • 00:24:11.106 --> 00:24:13.942
  • but it's actually somethingthat changes our lives,
  • 00:24:13.942 --> 00:24:16.945
  • it changes the waywe love others,
  • 00:24:16.945 --> 00:24:18.914
  • it changes how easilywe are offended,
  • 00:24:18.914 --> 00:24:20.849
  • it changes how we forgive,
  • 00:24:20.849 --> 00:24:22.250
  • how we spend our money,
  • 00:24:22.250 --> 00:24:23.585
  • it changes our careerdecisions, God.
  • 00:24:23.585 --> 00:24:26.087
  • and would you just showus how to apply that
  • 00:24:26.087 --> 00:24:28.390
  • in our own lives andbe transparent enoughfor our children
  • 00:24:28.390 --> 00:24:33.094
  • that at a right age they cansee that God's word works,
  • 00:24:33.094 --> 00:24:37.465
  • that it actuallycauses life change,
  • 00:24:37.465 --> 00:24:40.235
  • that it actuallychanges the heart,
  • 00:24:40.235 --> 00:24:42.137
  • it changes the mind,
  • 00:24:42.137 --> 00:24:43.338
  • it gives us joy and peace.
  • 00:24:43.338 --> 00:24:45.807
  • Would you pleasespeak into any place
  • 00:24:45.807 --> 00:24:48.276
  • that we as parentsmight feel insecure
  • 00:24:48.276 --> 00:24:51.413
  • or hesitant, or doubtful.
  • 00:24:51.413 --> 00:24:53.648
  • Would you just show us, God,
  • 00:24:53.648 --> 00:24:54.916
  • that you have equipped us
  • 00:24:54.916 --> 00:24:56.451
  • to pour into the children thatyou've given us charge over
  • 00:24:56.451 --> 00:24:59.421
  • and help us to starttoday, no matter how small,
  • 00:24:59.421 --> 00:25:02.457
  • so that these children,this next generation,
  • 00:25:02.457 --> 00:25:05.260
  • whether they'reyoung or adult, God,
  • 00:25:05.260 --> 00:25:07.228
  • would start to knowtheir real value,
  • 00:25:07.228 --> 00:25:09.497
  • the truth of scripture
  • 00:25:09.497 --> 00:25:10.932
  • and the relevance ofGod's truth over all else.
  • 00:25:10.932 --> 00:25:13.768
  • In Jesus' name, amen.
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