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October 22, 2019
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Can holding on to God's promises help us "fight the good fight of faith"? | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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Navigating Hardship | Better Together

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  • - Saying yes to God does not guarantee an easy life.
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  • How do we stand on His promises in the middle of a storm?
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  • Come on, let's talk about it.
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  • (upbeat instrumental music with humming)
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  • - So I think that sometimes when we are walking with Jesus,
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  • He will ask things of us that,
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  • for other people, don't make sense.
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  • And sometimes they don't even make sense to us
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  • to even begin with.
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  • And for me, like, I was a teacher
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  • with Los Angeles Unified School District for eight years.
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  • - Wait, wait,
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  • you were a teacher? - Yes.
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  • - I did not know that. - I was an english teacher.
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  • - You were? - Yes.
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  • - Are you gonna correct our grammar?
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  • (laughs)
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  • - Please no. - I might.
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  • Not mine, please.
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  • - Okay, carry on, you were a teacher.
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  • - I was a teacher.
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  • - I did not know this and I'm-
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  • - And, um, yeah- and I,
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  • you know, my-
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  • After the Bible, I loved Shakespeare, and Steinbeck,
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  • and Sandra Cisneros, but anyways.
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  • (all laugh)
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  • I remember my husband telling me, like,
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  • we're called to pastor a church,
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  • and we're gonna plant a church,
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  • and I thought it was a great idea for him to do it,
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  • like I didn't know what it was gonna require of me,
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  • and I always thought I would serve God
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  • under somebody's leadership, under a pastor.
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  • My husband and I could serve under somebody,
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  • we could be faithful, like I thought
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  • I'll be like my pastor's favorite, you know?
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  • I will preach whatever they want at Sunday off,
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  • they don't have to give me any money,
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  • I'm gonna be a faithful tither,
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  • I'm like a gift to my church community.
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  • (all laugh)
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  • I never wanted to be the one
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  • leading the church, - Right.
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  • - and so when my husband and I started the conversation
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  • about church planting, um,
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  • a year in to it,
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  • I realized I have to walk away from teaching
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  • in order for us to build this together.
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  • When we stepped out in faith,
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  • it was definitely a sense of
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  • there was a lot of questions, and definitely some fears,
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  • because, hello, I can not control the outcome
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  • of whether ministry would, uh,
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  • be what sustained our family long-term,
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  • and there was definitely a faith element for me,
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  • and it wasn't going to be a just smooth ride,
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  • and so the challenge of it stretched me,
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  • and stretched my faith, and it allowed me
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  • to get to know God in a way in which
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  • I had not known Him before,
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  • and He is a provider, and He is with us,
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  • but it wasn't an easy step to take,
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  • 'cause I had never dreamt or imagined
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  • that I would do this the whole time.
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  • I didn't see that.
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  • I wanted to be a faithful steward of what God trusted me
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  • outside of the work, outside of the church world,
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  • so, um, it took a step of faith,
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  • and in the process of getting to a place
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  • where the church could even hire me quarter-time,
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  • come on somebody, quarter-time, not part-time.
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  • Like the process of getting to quarter-time
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  • was a journey of faith, and trusting,
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  • and plowing, and building in God's house,
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  • and people don't see all of that, right?
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  • It's what I always think about
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  • when I think of Elijah.
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  • He's like plowing, and he's building,
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  • and God is seeing him, and God identifies him
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  • as the next, after Elijah, right?
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  • And I love that story, because nobody else
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  • would have thought that he was able to do
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  • what God was gonna call him to do next, right,
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  • but he had like that un- it's what I call like,
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  • for example, I went to the gym not so long ago,
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  • and I stood on that weight
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  • that basically tells you how much muscle you have, and-
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  • - How'd that work out for ya?
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  • - Well- - Hey, listen,
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  • I don't wanna hear it. - I don't either.
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  • - Understanding that thing. - Under all this,
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  • under all the love you see here, there's muscle, ladies!
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  • There is muscle, and nobody would know about,
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  • because I've worked at it,
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  • it's just that the outside hasn't shown it yet, right?
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  • But there's muscle. - That would be my line.
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  • - But it's gonna be there
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  • when you get it. - Spiritually speaking,
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  • what does that mean for us?
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  • Like, I've been working, and I've been in the grind
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  • of serving Jesus, and serving people,
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  • and bringing the message of hope
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  • that nobody saw when I walked away from my job
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  • to go in to the struggle of faith,
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  • and trusting God, and believing Him,
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  • and so when people see the blessing
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  • that God has given us as church planters
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  • who continue to church plant,
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  • they're like, "Oh, how awesome."
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  • And I'm like, "Yeah, it's a lot less sexier than it looks,
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  • and there's a faith element here."
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  • We had opposition when we said yes to God,
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  • 'cause there were people who thought
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  • we were too young to pastor,
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  • and granted, we were in our late 20s and early 30s,
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  • and that opposition obviously affects you,
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  • but it doesn't affect you as much
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  • as the opposition of actually doing the work,
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  • the grind of ministry, walking with people
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  • through the hardship of the things
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  • that are going on in their life,
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  • so when you say yes to God,
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  • it's not just to what is attractive and glorious,
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  • and what people view on social media about ministry,
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  • when you say yes to God,
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  • it means you're gonna shepherd, and walk with people,
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  • and love them in some of the hardest seasons of life,
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  • and that was the part of the yes
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  • that obviously we had to grow,
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  • and be challenged and stretched in,
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  • and it's what makes our story beautiful.
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  • - Well just think about it, in the Bible, there is no story
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  • where God told somebody something,
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  • and they got it the next day.
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  • - Right. - There is not that story.
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  • 'Cause like whether it's David's,
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  • he went back to ship running sheep,
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  • and then Saul tried to kill him for years,
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  • and da-da-da, and then, you know, even Joshua,
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  • going into the Land of Promise,
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  • there were still battles he had to fight
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  • to get rid of it- - Exactly.
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  • - There's no such thing.
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  • - It's always a process, - Yes!
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  • But we always think it shouldn't be.
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  • - Yes, nobody wants to go through the process.
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  • We think it's supposed to be an immediate act.
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  • It's like, they think God is some magician,
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  • or genie or something, rubbin' his belly,
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  • and poosh, here it is.
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  • - No. - No!
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  • It's a process, and we have to be willing
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  • to go through the process to see.
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  • It's like, just like how in the Scripture,
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  • it talks about it's seed time, and then harvest.
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  • I went through the same thing, you know,
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  • I was making more money than my husband
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  • when I first got married, and then
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  • he decides he wants to start pastoring.
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  • I mean, I knew he was called to pastor
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  • before I married him, but I didn't know
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  • when he was gonna start, and he started pastoring
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  • and he stopped working, and I'm like,
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  • "Okay, are they gonna pay you at the church?"
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  • And he's like, "No we're not- we're not
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  • gonna take anything, we're just gonna believe God!"
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  • Oh we're gonna believe God on my finances.
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  • (all laugh)
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  • Not on ours, on mine.
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  • He's like, "No, we're gonna trust God."
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  • So for three years he decided to grind
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  • and to make it happen, because he saw
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  • what his father went through when
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  • his father was pastor.
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  • People, you know, they felt like
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  • if we're sowing, if we're giving,
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  • we can control you.
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  • And so my husband had the mentality
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  • of, you're not gonna control me,
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  • you're not gonna tell me what to do,
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  • so I won't take your money.
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  • And he did that for three years,
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  • and I thank God I had a pastor
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  • the entire time that I could go and snitch to.
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  • You know, everybody needs somebody
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  • that they can go and snitch to.
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  • And so I told him, I said, "Hey, look, talk to him!
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  • We're in a tough time, we're strugglin'!"
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  • And he's like, "Yeah," and then he went through Scriptures,
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  • and showed him, how, you know,
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  • Paul was talking about how they made him-
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  • I can't remember exactly where,
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  • about being an inferior church,
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  • because they didn't take care of his needs.
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  • - Wow. - And so it's like,
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  • come on, let's take care
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  • of the man of God.
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  • And so they did that, but in that time,
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  • I became a little weary, like,
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  • to trust God, it's like, what?
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  • So I had to pull out Scriptures, you go to Proverbs,
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  • "Trust in the loyal with all your heart,
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  • and don't lean to your own understanding."
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  • I was used to leaning to my own understanding, you know?
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  • I'm like, used to going in my pocketbook
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  • and pulling out what I need, and so
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  • to trust God during that time was-
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  • It was challenging for me.
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  • - Nobody knows that, though. - Nobody knows that!
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  • You just go through it, and just because
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  • you go through it, doesn't mean
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  • that you're not gonna come out on top.
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  • - That's right.
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  • - And trusting God, or saying yes,
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  • put me in an uneasy state, but for me,
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  • that was the best time of my life
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  • because it allowed me to grow and to develop
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  • my relationship with the word of God,
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  • and to trust God, knowing that God has me,
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  • that he's always perfecting those things that concerns me,
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  • so when I said yes to God, I walked away
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  • from something that I thought was a provider
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  • of me, to something that I now know,
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  • that is the provider for me.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • - So we want you to join the conversation.
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  • - Connect with us on social media,
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  • and let us get better together.
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  • Somos mejores juntas.
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  • - I think sometimes, saying yes to God
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  • when you know God has asked you to do something,
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  • it can even be the small, simple things in life.
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  • Like I remember, as my son was growing up,
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  • I would say to him on each birthday,
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  • "What would you like us to do this year,
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  • just you and me?
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  • You know, it'll just be something."
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  • And when he was maybe eight or something,
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  • he said, "I would love it if we could
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  • pick a night when you and I would shoot hoops."
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  • And I was like, "I'll be terrible, but I'm all in."
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  • And so we chose Tuesday night, and I remember once,
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  • one of my neighbors coming to the door and saying,
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  • "You know, Sheila, would you be willing
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  • to host a Bible study in your home?"
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  • And I was like, "Yeah, sure!"
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  • And she said, "Well, we all would like
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  • to make it Tuesday night."
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  • And I said, "I'm really sorry, I can't do Tuesday,"
  • 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:51.110
  • and she said, "Well, why not?"
  • 00:09:51.110 --> 00:09:52.210
  • And I said, "Well that's when I shoot hoops
  • 00:09:52.210 --> 00:09:54.130
  • with my son."
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  • And she said, "Are you telling me that
  • 00:09:55.200 --> 00:09:57.050
  • shooting hoops with your son is more important
  • 00:09:57.050 --> 00:09:59.060
  • than having a Bible study in your home?"
  • 00:09:59.060 --> 00:10:00.190
  • And I said, "That's exactly what I'm telling you."
  • 00:10:00.190 --> 00:10:02.200
  • What use is it, if we give our word to our family,
  • 00:10:02.200 --> 00:10:06.220
  • if we give our word to a friend,
  • 00:10:06.220 --> 00:10:08.080
  • if we give our word to a church
  • 00:10:08.080 --> 00:10:09.180
  • that we'll do something, but then you expect
  • 00:10:09.180 --> 00:10:11.190
  • that everybody else is gonna understand,
  • 00:10:11.190 --> 00:10:13.120
  • and everyone else is gonna applaud.
  • 00:10:13.120 --> 00:10:14.290
  • - Come on. - I think that one
  • 00:10:14.290 --> 00:10:16.060
  • of the things sometimes I notice in ministry,
  • 00:10:16.060 --> 00:10:18.170
  • is that some of the people who are
  • 00:10:18.170 --> 00:10:20.100
  • looked up to and loved, when you talk
  • 00:10:20.100 --> 00:10:22.260
  • to their wives, their husbands, their children,
  • 00:10:22.260 --> 00:10:25.220
  • they don't always feel as loved,
  • 00:10:25.220 --> 00:10:27.180
  • or as taken care of.
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  • - No. - Right.
  • 00:10:28.130 --> 00:10:29.240
  • - I've always been determined that with my son
  • 00:10:29.240 --> 00:10:31.080
  • and with my husband, that under our roof,
  • 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:33.100
  • our yes will always be yes, and that
  • 00:10:33.100 --> 00:10:35.200
  • we will honor one another, so that
  • 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:37.210
  • what happens on a platform comes from,
  • 00:10:37.210 --> 00:10:40.120
  • is born from the integrity of what happens under our roof.
  • 00:10:40.120 --> 00:10:44.170
  • - Yes, beautiful. - Agreed.
  • 00:10:44.170 --> 00:10:46.150
  • - I mean, our private dispositions
  • 00:10:46.150 --> 00:10:49.290
  • should be, you know, our public dispositions.
  • 00:10:49.290 --> 00:10:53.080
  • Whatever we do in private should, you know,
  • 00:10:53.080 --> 00:10:56.020
  • be shown in the public. - Yeah.
  • 00:10:56.020 --> 00:10:57.160
  • - And I think it's just so backwards
  • 00:10:57.160 --> 00:10:59.260
  • as far as, you know, ministers are concerned.
  • 00:10:59.260 --> 00:11:03.190
  • I just had a grandbaby, my-
  • 00:11:03.190 --> 00:11:05.220
  • - Yay! - Yes.
  • 00:11:05.220 --> 00:11:07.010
  • - I'm so excited!
  • 00:11:07.010 --> 00:11:08.060
  • - Instagram those photos to me.
  • 00:11:08.060 --> 00:11:10.220
  • - Ohh, he's so beautiful!
  • 00:11:10.220 --> 00:11:12.170
  • But Tim, Breland's husband, you know,
  • 00:11:12.170 --> 00:11:16.050
  • he's the minister of music, and he was saying,
  • 00:11:16.050 --> 00:11:18.040
  • "Okay, well Breland had the baby on Saturday,
  • 00:11:18.040 --> 00:11:20.260
  • I wanna go to church on Sunday,"
  • 00:11:20.260 --> 00:11:22.140
  • and I said, "No, you're not."
  • 00:11:22.140 --> 00:11:24.020
  • And he said, "What do you mean, I'm fine!
  • 00:11:24.020 --> 00:11:25.210
  • I can do this!"
  • 00:11:25.210 --> 00:11:26.260
  • I said, "No, you're not," I said,
  • 00:11:26.260 --> 00:11:28.030
  • "And if you listen to me, you won't
  • 00:11:28.030 --> 00:11:30.140
  • have my regrets."
  • 00:11:30.140 --> 00:11:32.010
  • There are some things that- Oh, I feel a little emotional.
  • 00:11:32.010 --> 00:11:35.220
  • (women aww)
  • 00:11:35.220 --> 00:11:37.030
  • - Yes, it's true.
  • 00:11:37.030 --> 00:11:39.070
  • Right?
  • 00:11:39.070 --> 00:11:40.150
  • There's some things that we said yes to, right?
  • 00:11:40.150 --> 00:11:43.030
  • - Ooh, why am I cryin'?
  • 00:11:43.030 --> 00:11:44.150
  • (laughs)
  • 00:11:44.150 --> 00:11:45.190
  • Ooh, this is too emotional!
  • 00:11:45.190 --> 00:11:47.170
  • You know, I don't want my kids to have my regrets.
  • 00:11:47.170 --> 00:11:51.040
  • We were raised in a time where people would say,
  • 00:11:51.040 --> 00:11:54.010
  • "Go ahead, you go to church and your kids will be okay."
  • 00:11:54.010 --> 00:11:57.140
  • There are some things and some moments
  • 00:11:57.140 --> 00:11:59.050
  • that I cannot get back, that I wish
  • 00:11:59.050 --> 00:12:01.110
  • I would have been there for my kids,
  • 00:12:01.110 --> 00:12:03.020
  • like, if somebody would have said,
  • 00:12:03.020 --> 00:12:04.180
  • "Can you come to my house and pray for my childs?"
  • 00:12:04.180 --> 00:12:07.180
  • Like no, I'm prayin' for my child right now,
  • 00:12:07.180 --> 00:12:09.160
  • call somebody else, you know?
  • 00:12:09.160 --> 00:12:11.200
  • We make ourselves so available
  • 00:12:11.200 --> 00:12:13.150
  • to so many other people, and our own
  • 00:12:13.150 --> 00:12:15.250
  • families go neglected sometimes,
  • 00:12:15.250 --> 00:12:18.030
  • and they don't know that. - They don't know that.
  • 00:12:18.030 --> 00:12:19.150
  • - You know? Other families don't know that,
  • 00:12:19.150 --> 00:12:21.210
  • they hold you up to standard, or, you know,
  • 00:12:21.210 --> 00:12:24.260
  • like, we're supposed to be there for them,
  • 00:12:24.260 --> 00:12:27.190
  • and they forget that we have families of our own.
  • 00:12:27.190 --> 00:12:30.130
  • - [Holly] When you say yes to something,
  • 00:12:30.130 --> 00:12:32.020
  • that means you have to say no to something else.
  • 00:12:32.020 --> 00:12:35.190
  • And so, I think sometimes my mistake
  • 00:12:35.190 --> 00:12:38.060
  • is that I say yes to too many things.
  • 00:12:38.060 --> 00:12:40.100
  • So you have to figure out what you're
  • 00:12:40.100 --> 00:12:42.200
  • gonna say yes to from God.
  • 00:12:42.200 --> 00:12:44.260
  • Make sure it is from God, right?
  • 00:12:44.260 --> 00:12:46.110
  • There's a lot of good things that are other people's
  • 00:12:46.110 --> 00:12:48.130
  • great things, but there's a lot of good things
  • 00:12:48.130 --> 00:12:51.020
  • that I could say yes to, that I have to choose
  • 00:12:51.020 --> 00:12:53.070
  • what's important for me to say yes to,
  • 00:12:53.070 --> 00:12:54.190
  • because something else, will have to say no to.
  • 00:12:54.190 --> 00:12:57.070
  • And so- my family is important, so I'm not gonna-
  • 00:12:57.070 --> 00:13:00.270
  • My yes to God is not gonna involve
  • 00:13:00.270 --> 00:13:02.130
  • any sacrifice of my family.
  • 00:13:02.130 --> 00:13:04.130
  • I want them on the journey with me,
  • 00:13:04.130 --> 00:13:06.120
  • so whatever that would be, make sure
  • 00:13:06.120 --> 00:13:07.240
  • that your yes isn't, you know,
  • 00:13:07.240 --> 00:13:11.210
  • taking time from the people, who, at the end
  • 00:13:11.210 --> 00:13:14.270
  • of your life you want around you.
  • 00:13:14.270 --> 00:13:16.250
  • You don't wanna have those kind of regrets, you know?
  • 00:13:16.250 --> 00:13:18.100
  • That's what DeeDee talked about, with Tim,
  • 00:13:18.100 --> 00:13:20.090
  • you don't wanna have those kind of regrets,
  • 00:13:20.090 --> 00:13:22.040
  • so, your children are only gonna be
  • 00:13:22.040 --> 00:13:23.270
  • a certain age at a certain time,
  • 00:13:23.270 --> 00:13:25.080
  • and whatever that would be for you,
  • 00:13:25.080 --> 00:13:27.020
  • you know, a marriage, or kids, a family,
  • 00:13:27.020 --> 00:13:30.080
  • it's just- you get a window with people,
  • 00:13:30.080 --> 00:13:32.190
  • and you don't wanna have regrets
  • 00:13:32.190 --> 00:13:34.030
  • about the time you did or didn't spend.
  • 00:13:34.030 --> 00:13:35.120
  • You're probably not gonna be bummed about
  • 00:13:35.120 --> 00:13:37.040
  • that pair of shoes you didn't get,
  • 00:13:37.040 --> 00:13:38.120
  • but you might be bummed about the relationship,
  • 00:13:38.120 --> 00:13:39.240
  • so, it's like- so we have to just,
  • 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:42.050
  • for me, you know, I've had to be careful
  • 00:13:42.050 --> 00:13:44.070
  • 'cause I'm a big yes-sayer.
  • 00:13:44.070 --> 00:13:45.100
  • Just, you know, be intentional
  • 00:13:45.100 --> 00:13:48.070
  • about the yeses.
  • 00:13:48.070 --> 00:13:49.260
  • - One of the most important things I learned
  • 00:13:49.260 --> 00:13:51.050
  • in ministry is, No is a complete sentence.
  • 00:13:51.050 --> 00:13:54.030
  • - Yeah. - Yes.
  • 00:13:54.030 --> 00:13:55.120
  • - You don't need to know everything-
  • 00:13:55.120 --> 00:13:56.200
  • I don't have to unpack every single thing.
  • 00:13:56.200 --> 00:13:58.100
  • - I don't have to explain
  • 00:13:58.100 --> 00:13:59.150
  • to anybody else. - You know, if I wanna-
  • 00:13:59.150 --> 00:14:00.240
  • if I wanna honor- I mean, I just,
  • 00:14:00.240 --> 00:14:02.090
  • my son's almost 23 and I look at the man he is now,
  • 00:14:02.090 --> 00:14:04.140
  • and he wrote me the sweetest note last night.
  • 00:14:04.140 --> 00:14:07.150
  • He's going off on a little vacation, and he said,
  • 00:14:07.150 --> 00:14:10.030
  • "Mom, I just wanna thank you, that you always
  • 00:14:10.030 --> 00:14:13.170
  • told me the truth, and you always kept your word."
  • 00:14:13.170 --> 00:14:16.010
  • And it just- honestly, that means more to me
  • 00:14:16.010 --> 00:14:19.130
  • than selling however many thousand books.
  • 00:14:19.130 --> 00:14:22.000
  • - Oh yes, save that, screenshot that note.
  • 00:14:22.000 --> 00:14:23.210
  • - I think sometimes, people, when we
  • 00:14:23.210 --> 00:14:26.110
  • say yes to God, and people say yes to God,
  • 00:14:26.110 --> 00:14:28.150
  • I just think people are unprepared,
  • 00:14:28.150 --> 00:14:30.210
  • in many cases, for the fight, the battle.
  • 00:14:30.210 --> 00:14:35.080
  • Right, we're talking about victory in the fight,
  • 00:14:35.080 --> 00:14:37.240
  • And there is- so if you say yes to God
  • 00:14:39.020 --> 00:14:40.000
  • whether it's yes to a marriage,
  • 00:14:40.000 --> 00:14:42.000
  • yes to having kids, yes to opening a business,
  • 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:44.240
  • whatever He's asked you to do, yes to starting a church,
  • 00:14:44.240 --> 00:14:47.070
  • yes to starting a non-profit, whatever your yeses,
  • 00:14:47.070 --> 00:14:51.070
  • it's not gonna be given to you on a silver platter,
  • 00:14:51.070 --> 00:14:53.090
  • it just isn't. - It's not.
  • 00:14:53.090 --> 00:14:54.220
  • - And I think today, Instagram and social media
  • 00:14:54.220 --> 00:14:57.270
  • doesn't always help with that image.
  • 00:14:57.270 --> 00:14:58.290
  • - Right. - We think- we think
  • 00:14:58.290 --> 00:15:00.200
  • people start churches and they immediately
  • 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:02.040
  • get a thousand people, we think
  • 00:15:02.040 --> 00:15:03.100
  • people start businesses and they immediately
  • 00:15:03.100 --> 00:15:04.240
  • you know, start making money. - A whole bunch of sales.
  • 00:15:04.240 --> 00:15:07.020
  • - 'Cause there's these images that aren't real or true.
  • 00:15:07.020 --> 00:15:10.140
  • - They're photoshopped!
  • 00:15:10.140 --> 00:15:12.020
  • - It's fake. - It's fake.
  • 00:15:12.020 --> 00:15:14.110
  • - I remember a few years ago, I felt like,
  • 00:15:14.110 --> 00:15:16.040
  • that God wanted- you know, I've been hosting
  • 00:15:16.040 --> 00:15:18.040
  • a women's conference, She Rises, for years and years,
  • 00:15:18.040 --> 00:15:21.030
  • but I felt like God wanted me to put it
  • 00:15:21.030 --> 00:15:22.190
  • in the middle of Hollywood. - Yeah.
  • 00:15:22.190 --> 00:15:24.030
  • - You know, the city where more pornography
  • 00:15:24.030 --> 00:15:25.210
  • is produced than any city in the country,
  • 00:15:25.210 --> 00:15:28.000
  • where women, their value comes predominantly from their-
  • 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:31.000
  • from image and appearance and there's so much pressure
  • 00:15:31.000 --> 00:15:33.030
  • on image, and I thought, you know what?
  • 00:15:33.030 --> 00:15:34.180
  • Let's put the conference right smack in the middle,
  • 00:15:34.180 --> 00:15:36.090
  • of Hol- in the Dolby theater, where the Academy Awards
  • 00:15:36.090 --> 00:15:39.100
  • are held, let's put it there.
  • 00:15:39.100 --> 00:15:40.240
  • That sounds fun, let's do that!
  • 00:15:40.240 --> 00:15:42.200
  • (women agree)
  • 00:15:42.200 --> 00:15:43.180
  • - Right, they never had an event
  • 00:15:43.180 --> 00:15:45.010
  • - Do you know how hard that is?
  • 00:15:45.010 --> 00:15:46.070
  • - Yeah. - Well I did it!
  • 00:15:46.070 --> 00:15:47.220
  • They never had an event of faith in that building,
  • 00:15:47.220 --> 00:15:49.260
  • so I'm thinking, we're gonna worship
  • 00:15:49.260 --> 00:15:51.150
  • in the place where worship has never been sung.
  • 00:15:51.150 --> 00:15:53.000
  • Ta-da-da, right?
  • 00:15:53.000 --> 00:15:53.280
  • So fired up and excited, yay!
  • 00:15:53.280 --> 00:15:55.280
  • And so I'm thinking, you know, God,
  • 00:15:55.280 --> 00:15:58.280
  • I'm doing your work here, and so I'm thinking
  • 00:15:58.280 --> 00:16:00.170
  • it's gonna be like this, I said yes,
  • 00:16:00.170 --> 00:16:02.240
  • it's gonna be an easy thing.
  • 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:04.020
  • Well I'm telling you, I've never been
  • 00:16:04.020 --> 00:16:06.130
  • through so much hell.
  • 00:16:06.130 --> 00:16:07.230
  • The battles that- the year between
  • 00:16:07.230 --> 00:16:11.150
  • me saying yes and getting in that building,
  • 00:16:11.150 --> 00:16:13.260
  • from my husband getting cancer,
  • 00:16:13.260 --> 00:16:15.120
  • and that's when we, you know, lost
  • 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:16.210
  • all our finances, and I mean, just like,
  • 00:16:16.210 --> 00:16:18.160
  • the battles to get in there.
  • 00:16:18.160 --> 00:16:20.010
  • So by the time I actually stood on that stage,
  • 00:16:20.010 --> 00:16:23.240
  • in that Dolby, it wasn't me, do you know what I mean?
  • 00:16:23.240 --> 00:16:27.050
  • I knew who got me here, because
  • 00:16:27.050 --> 00:16:29.020
  • I had no strength to do it.
  • 00:16:29.020 --> 00:16:30.090
  • - And look what God has done through that.
  • 00:16:30.090 --> 00:16:31.220
  • What I love is that when you do say yes to God,
  • 00:16:31.220 --> 00:16:35.160
  • when you do say, you open your arms wide,
  • 00:16:35.160 --> 00:16:39.040
  • because you're getting ready to do something
  • 00:16:39.040 --> 00:16:40.220
  • that you cannot do without Him,
  • 00:16:40.220 --> 00:16:42.230
  • and He is going to do it with you.
  • 00:16:42.230 --> 00:16:44.270
  • And that is that time
  • 00:16:44.270 --> 00:16:46.150
  • of enlarging and growing,
  • 00:16:46.150 --> 00:16:50.060
  • and becoming strong in the Lord.
  • 00:16:50.060 --> 00:16:53.200
  • I mean, those are the moments of God
  • 00:16:53.200 --> 00:16:56.280
  • doing something inside of you, that,
  • 00:16:56.280 --> 00:16:59.190
  • you know, I love.
  • 00:16:59.190 --> 00:17:01.010
  • You know, whether we're talking about healing,
  • 00:17:01.010 --> 00:17:03.220
  • the last program, and it's like,
  • 00:17:03.220 --> 00:17:05.150
  • whether you're healed or not,
  • 00:17:05.150 --> 00:17:08.010
  • what says that's more important than your healed heart?
  • 00:17:08.010 --> 00:17:10.050
  • - Right. - Right.
  • 00:17:10.050 --> 00:17:11.110
  • - And having the heart of the Father,
  • 00:17:11.110 --> 00:17:12.290
  • you know? - Yes.
  • 00:17:12.290 --> 00:17:14.140
  • - I mean, that surpasses everything, so the victory
  • 00:17:14.140 --> 00:17:16.240
  • inside of the yes, is so far greater
  • 00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:20.020
  • than anything we could have imagined or prayed for.
  • 00:17:20.020 --> 00:17:22.160
  • If our faith wasn't called upon,
  • 00:17:22.160 --> 00:17:24.150
  • where would we be today?
  • 00:17:25.110 --> 00:17:26.200
  • We wouldn't be walking in faith,
  • 00:17:26.200 --> 00:17:28.090
  • we'd be doing nothing.
  • 00:17:29.070 --> 00:17:30.210
  • (laughs)
  • 00:17:30.210 --> 00:17:31.290
  • The Bible says that the righteous walk by faith.
  • 00:17:31.290 --> 00:17:35.130
  • So when your faith is called upon,
  • 00:17:35.130 --> 00:17:37.140
  • if God asks you something to do that you just think,
  • 00:17:37.140 --> 00:17:40.040
  • Ah, there is no way I can do that,
  • 00:17:40.040 --> 00:17:42.140
  • that's when he wants to go,
  • 00:17:42.140 --> 00:17:44.040
  • "Come, take one step towards me and I'll meet you there.
  • 00:17:44.040 --> 00:17:48.150
  • I'll meet you every step of the way."
  • 00:17:48.150 --> 00:17:50.050
  • That's what God promises to us.
  • 00:17:50.050 --> 00:17:52.010
  • He says, "You step out on faith,
  • 00:17:52.010 --> 00:17:54.050
  • and I'll do things that are unimaginable.
  • 00:17:54.050 --> 00:17:57.140
  • Exceedingly, abundantly, above all,
  • 00:17:57.140 --> 00:18:01.000
  • that we could ask or think."
  • 00:18:01.000 --> 00:18:02.060
  • That's what God wants to do for us.
  • 00:18:02.060 --> 00:18:04.090
  • - I have a tattoo on my wrist.
  • 00:18:05.070 --> 00:18:06.250
  • - Yes you do. - It says,
  • 00:18:06.250 --> 00:18:08.080
  • "Yes, Lord," and the reason is that, you know,
  • 00:18:08.080 --> 00:18:11.160
  • my father committed suicide when I was five,
  • 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:13.270
  • and so my mum raised three children.
  • 00:18:13.270 --> 00:18:16.040
  • We lived in government housing,
  • 00:18:16.040 --> 00:18:17.180
  • we were the only ones who got free school meals,
  • 00:18:17.180 --> 00:18:19.040
  • free school uniforms, a lot of financial struggle.
  • 00:18:19.040 --> 00:18:22.110
  • But my mum had this little picture
  • 00:18:22.110 --> 00:18:24.250
  • above her bed that a friend had sewn for her,
  • 00:18:24.250 --> 00:18:27.020
  • and that's what it said, "Yes, Lord".
  • 00:18:27.020 --> 00:18:29.240
  • So after my mum passed a couple years ago
  • 00:18:29.240 --> 00:18:31.210
  • and I went home, and my sister and I went
  • 00:18:31.210 --> 00:18:33.130
  • through all her things, and my sister was like,
  • 00:18:33.130 --> 00:18:35.160
  • "You know, what do you want,
  • 00:18:35.160 --> 00:18:36.210
  • do you want this brooch, do you want this?"
  • 00:18:36.210 --> 00:18:38.050
  • And I'm like, "No, I want that little picture."
  • 00:18:38.050 --> 00:18:39.230
  • And she said, "Sheila that's not worth anything."
  • 00:18:39.230 --> 00:18:42.020
  • And I said, "It's worth everything to me."
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  • And in Scotland you don't get to see people.
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  • Once they die, they're put in a simple,
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  • you know, shroud, and a simple casket.
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  • But when I flew home I called the funeral home,
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  • and I said, "I know this is not normal,
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  • but I want to see my mum one more time."
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  • And I mean, I knew my mum was home free,
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  • but they were very kind, and they said, "Okay,"
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  • so they opened the casket, and
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  • they put it in a little room.
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  • And I went in and I just got down
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  • beside her casket, and I just said,
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  • "You did it, Mum!
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  • You did it!"
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  • You know, despite financial troubles,
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  • despite my father escaping from the
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  • site hospital and coming back and trying to kill her,
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  • despite everything, you say "Yes, Lord"
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  • every morning and every evening,
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  • and it didn't mean her life was easy,
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  • it didn't mean it was simple, but that
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  • was what she lived by, and I used to say to her,
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  • "Mum, you don't know what you're saying yes to!"
  • 00:19:28.210 --> 00:19:30.270
  • And she'd say, "No, but I know who I'm saying yes to."
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  • After my father's suicide we lost our home,
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  • we lost our car, we lived in government housing.
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  • She faced a lot of health struggles on her own,
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  • but every night, she laid her head
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  • on the pillow, under that declaration, "Yes, Lord."
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  • And every morning, she woke up to a new day
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  • with that over her bed, saying yes to the Lord every day.
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  • And so, that's- that has become my motto in life.
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  • It's like, whatever the Lord asks now, it's yes.
  • 00:20:00.020 --> 00:20:03.150
  • You know, there's a guy, his name is Dag Hammarskjöld,
  • 00:20:03.150 --> 00:20:06.000
  • he used to be head of the United Nations,
  • 00:20:06.000 --> 00:20:08.190
  • and when they discovered he had an apartment
  • 00:20:08.190 --> 00:20:11.290
  • in New York, and on his death, they discovered
  • 00:20:11.290 --> 00:20:14.240
  • a notebook beside the side of his bed.
  • 00:20:14.240 --> 00:20:16.280
  • And it was a journal of his own faith journey,
  • 00:20:16.280 --> 00:20:20.090
  • and they actually published it after his death,
  • 00:20:20.090 --> 00:20:23.090
  • and it's called Markings.
  • 00:20:23.090 --> 00:20:25.150
  • And I have a copy, and I remember reading it
  • 00:20:25.150 --> 00:20:28.000
  • maybe 10 years ago, and toward the end
  • 00:20:28.000 --> 00:20:31.010
  • of the book, he says this,
  • 00:20:31.010 --> 00:20:33.060
  • "For everything that has been, thank you.
  • 00:20:33.060 --> 00:20:37.090
  • And for everything that will be, yes, Lord."
  • 00:20:37.090 --> 00:20:41.070
  • And I remember reading that, thinking,
  • 00:20:41.070 --> 00:20:42.290
  • but Lord, I have to be thankful for everything?
  • 00:20:42.290 --> 00:20:45.060
  • I have to be thankful for my father's suicide,
  • 00:20:45.060 --> 00:20:47.130
  • for his violence, toward me?
  • 00:20:47.130 --> 00:20:49.040
  • And yes, Lord, to what's happening, I don't know,
  • 00:20:49.040 --> 00:20:51.130
  • will that involve my son, what if something happens to him?
  • 00:20:51.130 --> 00:20:54.130
  • And so I began to make that a daily prayer,
  • 00:20:54.130 --> 00:20:57.170
  • and now, it's not that I grew in faith,
  • 00:20:57.170 --> 00:21:00.130
  • it's that I grew in my understanding
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  • of who our Father is.
  • 00:21:01.240 --> 00:21:03.150
  • I- Every single day- I have my mum's picture
  • 00:21:03.150 --> 00:21:06.090
  • on my desk at home, but I have this
  • 00:21:06.090 --> 00:21:08.070
  • tattooed to my wrist, and every day
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  • when I lift my hands up in worship,
  • 00:21:10.120 --> 00:21:12.180
  • I'm able to say with absolute confidence,
  • 00:21:12.180 --> 00:21:15.170
  • "Yes, Lord. I don't know what you have for me,
  • 00:21:15.170 --> 00:21:19.000
  • but I know who you are,"
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  • so saying yes is not difficult.
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  • - Wouldn't it be great, if like,
  • 00:21:23.110 --> 00:21:24.170
  • the battles just came one at a time?
  • 00:21:24.170 --> 00:21:26.030
  • - Yeah. - Right?
  • 00:21:26.030 --> 00:21:27.110
  • - Okay, I'll fight this one, and then
  • 00:21:27.110 --> 00:21:28.260
  • I'll fight this one, and then I'll fight this one!
  • 00:21:28.260 --> 00:21:29.280
  • No, it's all at once!
  • 00:21:29.280 --> 00:21:31.170
  • (women mutter in agreement)
  • 00:21:31.170 --> 00:21:33.070
  • - It's like spiritual ninjas. - Well, we have to be that!
  • 00:21:33.070 --> 00:21:37.030
  • But you know what, I think that sometimes,
  • 00:21:37.030 --> 00:21:38.090
  • even in that context of Paul in Ephesians 6,
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  • that I think you referenced, 'cause you're
  • 00:21:40.120 --> 00:21:42.010
  • the other spiritual one here, so,
  • 00:21:42.010 --> 00:21:43.280
  • reference that with the word.
  • 00:21:43.280 --> 00:21:45.250
  • It's like, even some of the- how the Roman soldiers fought,
  • 00:21:45.250 --> 00:21:48.240
  • is they fought back-to-back, so it was like,
  • 00:21:48.240 --> 00:21:51.220
  • come on, stand up.
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  • It's like, come on, I'll fight for you.
  • 00:21:53.010 --> 00:21:55.110
  • So this is like, where we can fight for each other.
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  • It's like, we're not supposed to fight each other.
  • 00:21:58.050 --> 00:22:00.070
  • - No, right.
  • 00:22:00.070 --> 00:22:01.150
  • - We're supposed to- I'll get your back,
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  • you've got my back, so I'll help you
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  • with all the battles coming your way.
  • 00:22:03.270 --> 00:22:05.030
  • - But most believers do-
  • 00:22:05.030 --> 00:22:06.220
  • - Do fight each other.
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  • Like, we do this.
  • 00:22:07.190 --> 00:22:09.040
  • - This is a waste of time, right here.
  • 00:22:09.040 --> 00:22:09.290
  • - It's a waste of time.
  • 00:22:09.290 --> 00:22:11.140
  • - And you don't fight the same- the one on your team.
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  • - No. - No.
  • 00:22:14.200 --> 00:22:15.290
  • - You fight the enemy, right? - That's right.
  • 00:22:15.290 --> 00:22:17.070
  • - Fight the enemy. - Fight the enemy.
  • 00:22:17.070 --> 00:22:18.190
  • - But you find your weapons, that's what I love.
  • 00:22:18.190 --> 00:22:20.030
  • I love that Ephesians 6 passage, where it says, um,
  • 00:22:20.030 --> 00:22:22.220
  • and take up the Sword of the Spirit
  • 00:22:22.220 --> 00:22:25.150
  • which is the word of God,
  • 00:22:25.150 --> 00:22:26.290
  • but the word that he uses in that passage alone
  • 00:22:26.290 --> 00:22:28.120
  • for sword, is the word for dagger.
  • 00:22:28.120 --> 00:22:30.110
  • It's not a sword, - It's not a big one.
  • 00:22:30.110 --> 00:22:31.180
  • - it's closeup contact, and the word he uses,
  • 00:22:31.180 --> 00:22:33.290
  • it's not Logos, it's not for the whole Scripture,
  • 00:22:33.290 --> 00:22:36.060
  • it's that four rhemas, those words of God.
  • 00:22:36.060 --> 00:22:39.080
  • So you find the Scripture, like,
  • 00:22:39.080 --> 00:22:40.240
  • if you struggle with fear, then you learn Psalm 27-1.
  • 00:22:40.240 --> 00:22:45.010
  • "The Lord is my light, my salvation,
  • 00:22:45.010 --> 00:22:46.210
  • "whom shall I fear," - "Whom shall I-"
  • 00:22:46.210 --> 00:22:48.000
  • - The Lord has a strong hold of my life,
  • 00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:49.210
  • so those are your daggers, and you have
  • 00:22:49.210 --> 00:22:51.110
  • those in your pocket. - Right.
  • 00:22:51.110 --> 00:22:52.190
  • - And when the enemy comes against you,
  • 00:22:52.190 --> 00:22:54.000
  • you bring those out, and possess when
  • 00:22:54.000 --> 00:22:56.030
  • we do that then, we will still be standing.
  • 00:22:56.030 --> 00:22:58.280
  • When the battles are over, when the fights are done,
  • 00:22:58.280 --> 00:23:01.270
  • we will still be standing. - We will still be standing.
  • 00:23:01.270 --> 00:23:05.260
  • - Saying yes is gonna bring the battles, right?
  • 00:23:05.260 --> 00:23:09.210
  • But, you just keeps saying yes.
  • 00:23:09.210 --> 00:23:12.290
  • - Because Jesus did. - [Holly] He did, right?
  • 00:23:12.290 --> 00:23:14.210
  • - Jesus said yes all the way up to the Cross.
  • 00:23:14.210 --> 00:23:16.270
  • - Yes, He did. - Thank you Lord.
  • 00:23:16.270 --> 00:23:19.090
  • So let me pray for us today. Um, I know
  • 00:23:19.090 --> 00:23:22.060
  • there's so many people that might be
  • 00:23:22.060 --> 00:23:24.110
  • right at the brink of changing
  • 00:23:24.110 --> 00:23:26.140
  • something in their life, maybe you're getting married,
  • 00:23:26.140 --> 00:23:28.280
  • maybe you're leaving a job, maybe you're starting a job,
  • 00:23:28.280 --> 00:23:31.150
  • maybe you want a new career.
  • 00:23:31.150 --> 00:23:34.000
  • Whatever it is, God's got his plan for you,
  • 00:23:34.000 --> 00:23:38.140
  • and it's all laid our perfectly
  • 00:23:38.140 --> 00:23:40.200
  • beautiful for you.
  • 00:23:40.200 --> 00:23:42.060
  • It takes a step of faith, takes courage to do that,
  • 00:23:42.060 --> 00:23:46.120
  • it takes something brave.
  • 00:23:46.120 --> 00:23:47.270
  • Some of you might be facing medical conditions today.
  • 00:23:47.270 --> 00:23:50.250
  • It takes somebody brave to believe in God,
  • 00:23:50.250 --> 00:23:55.100
  • and to trust in God, so I'm gonna
  • 00:23:55.100 --> 00:23:57.180
  • pray for us today, that our faith is strong.
  • 00:23:57.180 --> 00:24:01.240
  • That we have the courage, that we have the ability
  • 00:24:01.240 --> 00:24:05.110
  • inside of ourselves to step out
  • 00:24:05.110 --> 00:24:07.160
  • to what God has called us to do.
  • 00:24:08.150 --> 00:24:10.240
  • And I know that God will meet you there,
  • 00:24:10.240 --> 00:24:12.280
  • because you know what?
  • 00:24:12.280 --> 00:24:13.230
  • He is a faithful God.
  • 00:24:13.230 --> 00:24:15.150
  • He is merciful, His grace is never ending,
  • 00:24:15.150 --> 00:24:20.090
  • His love is all-enduring.
  • 00:24:20.090 --> 00:24:22.210
  • He loves you, He is for you, and if God is for you,
  • 00:24:22.210 --> 00:24:26.150
  • who can be against you?
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  • You can call the number on your screen right now
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  • to talk to a prayer partner.
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  • We're here for you 24 hours a day,
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  • seven days a week.
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  • We love you and most importantly, God loves you.
  • 00:24:36.060 --> 00:24:39.070
  • - Because we're in this world,
  • 00:24:39.070 --> 00:24:41.150
  • we're gonna suffer trials and tribulations.
  • 00:24:41.150 --> 00:24:44.030
  • We're in this world, things are gonna happen
  • 00:24:44.030 --> 00:24:46.070
  • to us, but it's okay.
  • 00:24:46.070 --> 00:24:47.240
  • God has given us a powerful weapon
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  • to overcome every attack that we go through,
  • 00:24:50.120 --> 00:24:53.140
  • and that weapon is faith.
  • 00:24:53.140 --> 00:24:55.110
  • He has told us as a believer, that the just
  • 00:24:55.110 --> 00:24:58.190
  • shall live by faith.
  • 00:24:58.190 --> 00:25:00.190
  • So just because you experience a sickness or a disease
  • 00:25:00.190 --> 00:25:04.070
  • does not mean that you're not in faith
  • 00:25:04.070 --> 00:25:06.220
  • or that you're not a person of faith.
  • 00:25:06.220 --> 00:25:08.260
  • It just means that this attack has come,
  • 00:25:08.260 --> 00:25:11.170
  • and we still can have victory in it.
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  • - Hey everybody, I'm Sheila Walsh, and I'm here with Noemi,
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  • and Alex has emailed us and this is her question:
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  • "What do you do when you know God is calling you
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  • to do something great?
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  • I'm a writer, and I think God has been
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  • telling me to step out in faith."
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  • What do you think?
  • 00:25:39.170 --> 00:25:40.250
  • - You know, the Bible says that
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  • wisdom is found in the council of many, so
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  • you're doing that by reaching out to us,
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  • but here's what's really important,
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  • is that you get a group of women,
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  • or leaders around you that you trust
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  • and that you respect, so that they're able
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  • to shepard that, pastor that, or walk with you
  • 00:25:57.030 --> 00:26:00.170
  • through that, possibly, right?
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  • To help you make that decision
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  • and help you take steps of faith.
  • 00:26:03.120 --> 00:26:05.030
  • - And honestly, Alex, here's what I would say:
  • 00:26:05.030 --> 00:26:07.070
  • I knew when I was really little
  • 00:26:07.070 --> 00:26:09.170
  • that God had called me to something,
  • 00:26:09.170 --> 00:26:10.230
  • but I wasn't sure what.
  • 00:26:10.230 --> 00:26:12.150
  • And I was born in this little fishing town
  • 00:26:12.150 --> 00:26:14.090
  • on the west coast of Scotland.
  • 00:26:14.090 --> 00:26:15.150
  • It's like, you know, how on earth
  • 00:26:15.150 --> 00:26:16.270
  • am I gonna do anything?
  • 00:26:16.270 --> 00:26:18.100
  • But what I determined to do was
  • 00:26:18.100 --> 00:26:20.040
  • to start wherever I was.
  • 00:26:20.040 --> 00:26:22.270
  • So, initially, I just started writing
  • 00:26:22.270 --> 00:26:24.200
  • a little article for our school newspaper,
  • 00:26:24.200 --> 00:26:27.020
  • and then after that I started doing something else,
  • 00:26:27.020 --> 00:26:31.000
  • and then God began to open doors.
  • 00:26:31.000 --> 00:26:33.000
  • I think what God is looking for you
  • 00:26:33.000 --> 00:26:34.180
  • is really just obedience.
  • 00:26:34.180 --> 00:26:36.250
  • So, wherever you are right now, just start,
  • 00:26:36.250 --> 00:26:39.040
  • and to me, it's like that principle of,
  • 00:26:39.040 --> 00:26:42.230
  • you know, the seeds when you plant something,
  • 00:26:42.230 --> 00:26:45.010
  • and then you wait to see what will grow.
  • 00:26:45.010 --> 00:26:47.020
  • If you're faithful in a little,
  • 00:26:47.020 --> 00:26:49.040
  • then God knows he can trust you with a lot.
  • 00:26:49.040 --> 00:26:51.020
  • So start where you are, you know,
  • 00:26:51.020 --> 00:26:53.010
  • pour out your heart, and we look forward
  • 00:26:53.010 --> 00:26:55.180
  • to maybe reading your book, Alex.
  • 00:26:55.180 --> 00:26:56.260
  • - Yeah. - That would be kind of cool.
  • 00:26:56.260 --> 00:26:57.290
  • - Super.
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  • those stats are too high.
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