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November 19, 2019
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"Let the redeemed of the Lord say so..." (Psalm 107:2) Does our attitude toward our past shape our future? | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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  • - Can your attitude toward your past shape your future?
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  • Today, let's talk about being grateful for the journey.
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  • (uplifting music)
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  • - One of the things that I see right now
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  • with a lot of women in particular,
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  • is this idea of
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  • "I don't wanna talk about
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  • "maybe struggles I've had in the past,"
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  • or "things I've done that I'm not proud of."
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  • And the truth is I'm like "well we all have them."
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  • My list is long.
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  • We all have them.
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  • Things I struggle with now.
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  • A lot of what I love talking to women about
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  • is that I think stories change the world.
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  • We have an entire book full of stories
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  • that really actually happened
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  • and we're still being changed by them.
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  • So when I think about my story,
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  • I sorta found Jesus at 21
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  • even though I grew up in church,
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  • was in church my whole life,
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  • but didn't really give my life to the Lord till I was 21,
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  • and a lot of things happened between 16 and 21
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  • that if I'm honest I could say
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  • I wish they might not have happened.
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  • Right?
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  • - Right.
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  • - But I look back now and I think
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  • man, I get the opportunity to say so much
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  • about what God has done for me because of those.
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  • Recently I was talking with my son
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  • and I was telling him some stories of my life
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  • that I wish I didn't have to tell him, you know?
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  • And I asked him about a year and half later
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  • I said "do you remember that story
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  • "that I told you about mom
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  • "and some of the things that she went through?"
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  • and he's like "yeah I remember,"
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  • you know he's a 15 year old boy.
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  • I said "how did it make you feel
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  • "hearing mom say those things to me?"
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  • and he said,
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  • this is what he said,
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  • he said "well I knew
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  • "that if you would tell me those hard things
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  • "I can trust you with anything."
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  • - Oh I love that, Jamie.
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  • - And I remember thinking,
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  • this is why we can share our stories.
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  • Because the world's not looking for perfect people.
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  • They're looking for broken people who Jesus redeemed.
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  • And that's what it says in Psalms 107 it says
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  • "let the redeemed of the Lord say so."
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  • And so I think when we talk about stories
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  • that were hard and we can be grateful for them,
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  • the reason I can be grateful for it,
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  • is because it can be an example
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  • of what God has done in my life.
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  • - Right, it makes you who you are.
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  • - It makes me who I am,
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  • it shows people Jesus.
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  • - And there's a way to do that
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  • where you're not minimizing sin,
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  • you're not emasculating the destruction
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  • and the consequences of sin,
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  • but you're maximizing redemption.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - So I think that's one of the things,
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  • I was going through a class years ago
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  • and I got to visit in an AA class,
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  • and you know you're not supposed to
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  • unless you struggled alcoholism,
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  • and I haven't struggled with substance abuse,
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  • I would, I do consider myself a recovering addict,
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  • 'cause one of my favorite theologians says
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  • "all addictions are ultimately a disorder of worship,"
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  • so I just ran to abusive men and carbohydrates,
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  • (laughing)
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  • but I love listening to people tell their stories in AA
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  • because they would start with "here's where I've come from."
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - And now lemme tell you the redemption.
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  • So this wasn't, this wasn't the color,
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  • this was the launching pad for God to perform the miracle.
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  • And I think that actually is the trajectory of gratitude.
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  • It's never forgetting, you know,
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  • that boy I had a season in my life when,
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  • had it not been for God,
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  • son, you wouldn't be here.
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  • And then go and look at,
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  • look at what God did.
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  • - Yeah and I think there's beauty in looking back.
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  • - Yeah, absolutely.
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  • - You know, sometimes we get to the new year
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  • and they're like "don't even remember the last year,
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  • you just keep going."
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  • And I'm like,
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  • I need to remember what Jesus did.
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  • - That's right.
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  • - Because as soon as I forget
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  • is when I think I'm awesome.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • Well it's the whole ashes to beauty.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - If you're not cognizant of the ashes,
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  • then you don't have the contrast
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  • for the beauty to be as beautiful.
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  • - I think my definition of gratitude has changed a lot
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  • the more life that I live.
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  • Gratitude in your teenage years is just like,
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  • "man, thank you that my mom let me borrow her car
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  • "on the weekend,"
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  • or whatever that might look like.
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  • And then you get into your 20s
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  • and you experience a little bit more life,
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  • and then your 30s and you experience more life,
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  • and I'm in my 40s now and experiencing more life.
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  • And so I think gratitude,
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  • now I see it as something that is a daily practice
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  • no matter what season I'm in,
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  • whereas, when I was younger,
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  • I didn't have a lot of struggles.
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  • And so it was easy to be grateful
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  • because life seemed okay,
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  • life seemed like it was going smooth.
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  • But the older I got I have gotten,
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  • the more life I've lived,
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  • the more hurdles I've had to jump over,
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  • the more hurt and heartache I've seen in my own life
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  • and in my friends' lives,
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  • is when I can say,
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  • gratefulness is not just for when times are good,
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  • that we can be a grateful people
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  • even in the midst of the most difficult seasons
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  • we'll ever walk through.
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  • - One of the reasons we can all be grateful
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  • no matter what we're going through,
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  • no matter where we've been,
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  • is because He tells us in Romans
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  • that "all things work together."
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  • - That's right, that's right.
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  • - That's the awesomeness of God.
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  • That is like, really?
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  • You can say that?
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  • - Somehow, some way, yeah.
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  • - And when I look over my life,
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  • as bad as I hate to admit it,
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  • the worst times is when I became more like Him.
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  • You know what I'm saying?
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  • Because you're in that dark time
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  • and it's like okay, you have to choose.
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  • Am I gonna submit to Him
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  • while I'm being really,
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  • in this tight, tight situation,
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  • or am I gonna do it my way?
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  • You know?
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  • And it's through those times that we,
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  • He begins to mold and shape us
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  • into who he created us to be.
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  • You know?
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  • And so we have to continue to look back.
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  • And we can get joy when we look back.
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  • Even in the worst situations.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - Because of what,
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  • because he's faithful, you know?
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  • He's faithful no matter what you've done,
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  • or where you've been,
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  • or how many mistakes you've made,
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  • and it's amazing because,
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  • and you hear this a lot, you know,
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  • he takes our misery
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  • and he turns our misery into our ministry, you know,
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  • but he does.
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  • He continues to do that over and over and over again.
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  • - Boy I love resting in the fact that if you're in Christ,
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  • even when you're just limping forward,
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  • that he says in Psalm,
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  • "for no good thing will thy withhold."
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  • - That's my favorite.
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  • - "From those who walk as upright,"
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  • and I always paraphrase and say,
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  • "or from her who often stumbles."
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  • 'cause I'm like He's so kind,
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  • that I get disciplined,
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  • but I feel like there's this,
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  • there's just this sweet spot
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  • He continues to shepard me into
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  • whether I'm limping
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  • or really running in a season of victory,
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  • He's not gonna let me miss it.
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  • I'm His kid.
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  • - But you know what,
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  • I love what you said.
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  • The shame that we sometimes cause ourselves,
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  • the disappointment in ourselves,
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  • the failure in ourselves,
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  • that's some of our greatest gifts.
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  • Because there's that song,
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  • "you can see where Jesus brought me from,
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  • "to thee,"
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  • - Yes.
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  • - "And you would know,
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  • "the reason why I love him so."
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  • So we can't ever let that shame and guilt
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  • stop us from sharing that because we all do it.
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  • - We're all broken people.
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  • - We're all broken people,
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  • we've all gone through it.
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  • So there's seasons of times
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  • that I would never ask for again but yet--
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  • - Yet.
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  • - But yet if I knew that I could be where I am today
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  • down in my spirit in my soul,
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  • was is worth it?
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  • Would I do it again?
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  • Oh!
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  • (laughing)
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  • - Yeah.
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  • (laughing)
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  • - I think that's powerful.
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  • That we're not doing anybody a service
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  • by covering up where we've been.
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  • - No.
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  • - We're not doing anyone a service by covering up our tracks
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  • to see where God has brought us to,
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  • where he has brought us from.
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  • We're not doing anybody a service
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  • because then what is giving this illusion of
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  • "we're just a bunch of finished products."
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  • - Exactly.
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  • - And then the world is like
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  • "oh, we can only show things if they are finished products."
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  • so I'm gonna hold back my ministry my message my anointing
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  • until I'm a finished product.
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  • And then, you know what I'm gonna do?
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  • I'm gonna go online and post that I am a finished product.
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  • And now my whole feed
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  • is just me looking like a finished product.
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  • So when we are hiding the truth about where we've been from
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  • and the truth about what we're going through,
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  • we're not serving the world,
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  • we're giving them a standard
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  • that is not even a standard we're living up to,
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  • it is not Godly,
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  • it is not real,
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  • and we're giving a false standard for people
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  • that we're all supposed to be finished products
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  • when none of us are.
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  • So it's only a disservice to people
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  • to hide the truth about our stories
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  • 'cause then we're hiding the truth about who Jesus is
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  • and what he can do.
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  • - And--
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  • - Or--
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  • (laughing)
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  • - And people will not know they need Jesus.
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  • - That's it, that's it.
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  • That's where I was going.
  • 00:08:56.240 --> 00:08:57.280
  • - Because if I present,
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  • if I present I have it all together--
  • 00:08:59.050 --> 00:09:00.130
  • - Yeah, that's where I was going.
  • 00:09:00.130 --> 00:09:02.040
  • - Why would I want Jesus?
  • 00:09:02.040 --> 00:09:03.180
  • - He can form enough power that made this happen.
  • 00:09:03.180 --> 00:09:05.110
  • - [Jamie] Yes.
  • 00:09:05.110 --> 00:09:06.060
  • - [Lisa] Amen.
  • 00:09:06.060 --> 00:09:07.010
  • - Okay now for my "and,"
  • 00:09:07.010 --> 00:09:08.200
  • my "and" is that's the trick of the enemy.
  • 00:09:08.200 --> 00:09:12.140
  • - That's where I was going.
  • 00:09:12.140 --> 00:09:13.270
  • That's where I was going.
  • 00:09:13.270 --> 00:09:15.140
  • - The only person that wants you to hide,
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  • that goes to the beginning
  • 00:09:16.240 --> 00:09:18.280
  • when Adam and Eve when they messed up all they had.
  • 00:09:18.280 --> 00:09:21.050
  • It's like, Jesus is like "where are you?
  • 00:09:21.050 --> 00:09:23.230
  • "Who told you were a hundred percent?"
  • 00:09:23.230 --> 00:09:25.090
  • - Who told you.
  • 00:09:25.090 --> 00:09:27.050
  • - Who you been talking to?
  • 00:09:27.050 --> 00:09:28.130
  • - Somebody else's voice get elevated above mine.
  • 00:09:28.130 --> 00:09:30.120
  • I know it.
  • 00:09:30.120 --> 00:09:31.100
  • - That's the job of the enemy
  • 00:09:31.100 --> 00:09:32.080
  • because if he can shut you down
  • 00:09:32.080 --> 00:09:33.250
  • your people won't come to Jesus.
  • 00:09:33.250 --> 00:09:34.240
  • People won't relate.
  • 00:09:34.240 --> 00:09:36.070
  • - I think a lot of times we are unwitting pawns
  • 00:09:36.070 --> 00:09:40.050
  • in the enemy's strategy.
  • 00:09:40.050 --> 00:09:41.220
  • 'cause when we allow secrets to stay uncovered
  • 00:09:41.220 --> 00:09:46.040
  • we create darkness by just showing the shiny parts.
  • 00:09:46.040 --> 00:09:49.260
  • Then it's like okay, ya'll can all,
  • 00:09:49.260 --> 00:09:51.140
  • you can keep your bad baggage, your luggage, over here,
  • 00:09:51.140 --> 00:09:54.110
  • we'll just go over here
  • 00:09:54.110 --> 00:09:55.160
  • and present this shiny Christian face.
  • 00:09:55.160 --> 00:09:57.270
  • I think we actually are becoming pawns.
  • 00:09:57.270 --> 00:10:00.190
  • 'cause it's in that place that sin festers like mushrooms.
  • 00:10:00.190 --> 00:10:04.170
  • You know, if it's not brought into the light.
  • 00:10:04.170 --> 00:10:06.010
  • - And it's unsustainable.
  • 00:10:06.010 --> 00:10:06.290
  • - It's unsustainable.
  • 00:10:06.290 --> 00:10:07.270
  • - You can't sustain that.
  • 00:10:07.270 --> 00:10:09.220
  • Some people break.
  • 00:10:09.220 --> 00:10:11.050
  • - Some people break
  • 00:10:11.050 --> 00:10:12.030
  • and the enemy will have victory
  • 00:10:12.030 --> 00:10:13.040
  • over all our time being spent
  • 00:10:13.040 --> 00:10:14.210
  • on the curation of our image
  • 00:10:14.210 --> 00:10:16.030
  • than working on who we really are.
  • 00:10:16.030 --> 00:10:18.030
  • That's what I hope to influence
  • 00:10:18.030 --> 00:10:19.180
  • is a life that is truly and authentically real.
  • 00:10:19.180 --> 00:10:23.240
  • That is an example of what Jesus is doing,
  • 00:10:23.240 --> 00:10:26.050
  • what He's done,
  • 00:10:26.050 --> 00:10:27.090
  • what He can do through broken people.
  • 00:10:27.090 --> 00:10:29.100
  • And if we don't start getting real with each other
  • 00:10:29.100 --> 00:10:31.160
  • the world is just gonna continuously copy and paste
  • 00:10:31.160 --> 00:10:34.200
  • some fake curated version of somebody else
  • 00:10:34.200 --> 00:10:38.020
  • to try and come up like the product
  • 00:10:38.020 --> 00:10:39.090
  • they think the world wants to see
  • 00:10:39.090 --> 00:10:40.170
  • when really the world wants authenticity.
  • 00:10:40.170 --> 00:10:42.220
  • The world doesn't wanna be impressed.
  • 00:10:42.220 --> 00:10:44.120
  • It wants to be free.
  • 00:10:44.120 --> 00:10:46.110
  • And if you are real and authentic
  • 00:10:46.110 --> 00:10:49.170
  • people get to see what real authentic lives look like.
  • 00:10:49.170 --> 00:10:53.210
  • And they'll wanna be it.
  • 00:10:53.210 --> 00:10:55.060
  • Authenticity is one of the most contagious things
  • 00:10:55.060 --> 00:10:56.270
  • in the world.
  • 00:10:56.270 --> 00:10:57.260
  • You can live it,
  • 00:10:57.260 --> 00:10:58.200
  • you can be it,
  • 00:10:58.200 --> 00:10:59.270
  • you can encourage other people to be it too.
  • 00:10:59.270 --> 00:11:01.220
  • - Even be the enemy to tell us how perfect we are?
  • 00:11:01.220 --> 00:11:04.070
  • - Oh, of course.
  • 00:11:04.070 --> 00:11:05.110
  • - He's so good at it.
  • 00:11:05.110 --> 00:11:06.060
  • - He's such a liar.
  • 00:11:06.060 --> 00:11:07.120
  • - He's such a liar!
  • 00:11:07.120 --> 00:11:08.170
  • (laughing)
  • 00:11:08.170 --> 00:11:09.220
  • - He'll make you think you're perfect.
  • 00:11:09.220 --> 00:11:10.120
  • - [Lisa] Yeah.
  • 00:11:10.120 --> 00:11:11.190
  • - And Jesus is the answer to that.
  • 00:11:11.190 --> 00:11:13.030
  • Because of shame we covered ourselves in fig leaves.
  • 00:11:13.030 --> 00:11:16.140
  • Because of shame we wear a mask.
  • 00:11:16.140 --> 00:11:17.280
  • Because of shame we only want people to see the perfect,
  • 00:11:17.280 --> 00:11:19.240
  • curated version of us.
  • 00:11:19.240 --> 00:11:21.090
  • We spend more time on our costumes than our character
  • 00:11:21.090 --> 00:11:23.130
  • our masks than our mindset.
  • 00:11:23.130 --> 00:11:24.250
  • Because of shame we figured we need a covering.
  • 00:11:24.250 --> 00:11:27.160
  • And we were right.
  • 00:11:27.160 --> 00:11:28.240
  • And Jesus provides a better covering.
  • 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:30.180
  • And the reason why we're able to be honest and authentic
  • 00:11:30.180 --> 00:11:33.160
  • and share our stories though we're still broken,
  • 00:11:33.160 --> 00:11:35.220
  • share our stories though we're still struggling
  • 00:11:35.220 --> 00:11:37.150
  • and going through things,
  • 00:11:37.150 --> 00:11:38.280
  • is that we've chosen a different kind of covering.
  • 00:11:38.280 --> 00:11:40.240
  • We're not less broken
  • 00:11:40.240 --> 00:11:41.230
  • we're not less messed up,
  • 00:11:41.230 --> 00:11:42.290
  • our covering is just better.
  • 00:11:42.290 --> 00:11:44.150
  • Now we're dressed in Christ, defined by Christ, in Christ.
  • 00:11:44.150 --> 00:11:47.170
  • - Come on.
  • 00:11:47.170 --> 00:11:48.160
  • - We have a different covering.
  • 00:11:48.160 --> 00:11:49.250
  • - And that's what we have to show people.
  • 00:11:49.250 --> 00:11:50.240
  • - That's what we show people.
  • 00:11:50.240 --> 00:11:51.230
  • - Instead of our own covering.
  • 00:11:51.230 --> 00:11:52.220
  • Like I can do this myself.
  • 00:11:52.220 --> 00:11:53.240
  • - Connect with us on social media
  • 00:11:55.110 --> 00:11:56.290
  • and tell us what you're thankful for.
  • 00:11:56.290 --> 00:11:58.240
  • - We can't wait to hear from you.
  • 00:11:58.240 --> 00:12:00.140
  • - I have interviewed a lot of women
  • 00:12:02.070 --> 00:12:04.160
  • who have been through hard things not of their own doing.
  • 00:12:04.160 --> 00:12:07.260
  • Illness, death, loss of job,
  • 00:12:07.260 --> 00:12:10.160
  • all, just, abuse, fill in the blank.
  • 00:12:10.160 --> 00:12:14.130
  • A lot of women that I've interviewed
  • 00:12:14.130 --> 00:12:16.130
  • who are going through something with a sickness,
  • 00:12:16.130 --> 00:12:19.080
  • or cancer or a loss of a spouse or child,
  • 00:12:19.080 --> 00:12:21.280
  • I'll interview them 10, 15 years later.
  • 00:12:21.280 --> 00:12:24.190
  • They say the same,
  • 00:12:24.190 --> 00:12:25.170
  • they all say the same thing.
  • 00:12:25.170 --> 00:12:26.190
  • - Really?
  • 00:12:26.190 --> 00:12:27.140
  • What is that?
  • 00:12:27.140 --> 00:12:28.280
  • - They all say I have never been closer to the Lord
  • 00:12:28.280 --> 00:12:30.030
  • than in this, than in that.
  • 00:12:30.030 --> 00:12:31.120
  • - Hundred percent.
  • 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:32.240
  • - I wish God would come out with a different way
  • 00:12:32.240 --> 00:12:34.190
  • but He knows, He knows.
  • 00:12:34.190 --> 00:12:35.260
  • - So then my follow up questions always is,
  • 00:12:35.260 --> 00:12:37.280
  • "are you thankful for that season?"
  • 00:12:37.280 --> 00:12:41.000
  • And usually, it has to be,
  • 00:12:41.000 --> 00:12:42.180
  • we're talking 10 years later,
  • 00:12:42.180 --> 00:12:44.010
  • not a year.
  • 00:12:44.010 --> 00:12:45.020
  • They all go, "yes."
  • 00:12:45.020 --> 00:12:46.270
  • - Oh.
  • 00:12:46.270 --> 00:12:47.260
  • - And that gives me chills
  • 00:12:47.260 --> 00:12:49.130
  • because I just don't even understand that heartbeat
  • 00:12:49.130 --> 00:12:52.170
  • to say "God you did something in me
  • 00:12:52.170 --> 00:12:54.190
  • "through something really hard."
  • 00:12:54.190 --> 00:12:55.270
  • Like we said "He works all things."
  • 00:12:55.270 --> 00:12:57.160
  • And that is where I think about being grateful;
  • 00:12:57.160 --> 00:13:00.100
  • for the hard things in life.
  • 00:13:00.100 --> 00:13:01.160
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:13:01.160 --> 00:13:02.100
  • - And it is like,
  • 00:13:02.100 --> 00:13:03.130
  • that is a training of the heart.
  • 00:13:03.130 --> 00:13:04.280
  • - 'cause its where you know that you know.
  • 00:13:04.280 --> 00:13:07.000
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:13:07.000 --> 00:13:08.070
  • - Probably one of my most significant times
  • 00:13:08.070 --> 00:13:12.070
  • where something went really awry for me personally
  • 00:13:14.050 --> 00:13:17.160
  • was just before my husband and I got married.
  • 00:13:17.160 --> 00:13:21.040
  • And it was pretty evident that
  • 00:13:21.040 --> 00:13:24.190
  • the enemy didn't want us together.
  • 00:13:25.240 --> 00:13:27.220
  • And I know it's not me,
  • 00:13:27.220 --> 00:13:29.060
  • it's probably happened to you too.
  • 00:13:29.060 --> 00:13:31.200
  • And we went through some things just before that happened
  • 00:13:31.200 --> 00:13:36.200
  • that I would never want to walk through again.
  • 00:13:37.250 --> 00:13:40.290
  • But it did something on the inside of me
  • 00:13:40.290 --> 00:13:45.210
  • that my dad couldn't do for me,
  • 00:13:45.210 --> 00:13:50.160
  • my mom couldn't do for me,
  • 00:13:50.160 --> 00:13:52.110
  • nobody could do it for me except God and me.
  • 00:13:52.110 --> 00:13:56.230
  • And it was painful.
  • 00:13:56.230 --> 00:13:59.180
  • And it was, um,
  • 00:13:59.180 --> 00:14:02.050
  • it was hard.
  • 00:14:02.050 --> 00:14:03.250
  • But you know what that solidified down deep in my spirit
  • 00:14:03.250 --> 00:14:07.100
  • that destiny was on the horizon.
  • 00:14:07.100 --> 00:14:10.010
  • And I think sometimes things like that
  • 00:14:10.010 --> 00:14:13.070
  • we have to walk through to where it builds our character
  • 00:14:13.070 --> 00:14:17.000
  • and it builds something on the inside of us
  • 00:14:17.000 --> 00:14:19.280
  • that bring us into destiny and purpose.
  • 00:14:19.280 --> 00:14:24.060
  • And I think we all have to take,
  • 00:14:24.060 --> 00:14:27.090
  • I think we all have to go through that.
  • 00:14:27.090 --> 00:14:30.040
  • And looking back on some of the times,
  • 00:14:30.040 --> 00:14:32.200
  • even in your life I'm sure
  • 00:14:32.200 --> 00:14:34.010
  • man I would not want to go through that again
  • 00:14:34.010 --> 00:14:36.190
  • but you know what it's because I walked through that
  • 00:14:36.190 --> 00:14:39.280
  • that I'm standing here today.
  • 00:14:39.280 --> 00:14:41.280
  • And God is a good, faithful God.
  • 00:14:43.030 --> 00:14:45.240
  • And if you're in that time today,
  • 00:14:45.240 --> 00:14:47.190
  • I'm telling you that you can do it,
  • 00:14:47.190 --> 00:14:49.260
  • and you will look back at these times
  • 00:14:49.260 --> 00:14:52.150
  • and you'll see God
  • 00:14:54.020 --> 00:14:55.120
  • and you'll be happy that you did.
  • 00:14:55.120 --> 00:14:57.230
  • - When you experience His presence
  • 00:14:57.230 --> 00:14:59.280
  • in pain that you didn't think you could survive
  • 00:14:59.280 --> 00:15:02.110
  • you go "it's true, it's true.
  • 00:15:02.110 --> 00:15:04.270
  • "This is not Sunday school lines,
  • 00:15:04.270 --> 00:15:06.150
  • "this is not just pithy proverbs,
  • 00:15:06.150 --> 00:15:09.030
  • "He is constant.
  • 00:15:09.030 --> 00:15:11.100
  • "His grace is immutable."
  • 00:15:11.100 --> 00:15:12.160
  • So I,
  • 00:15:12.160 --> 00:15:13.200
  • that's why I'm thankful for the hard.
  • 00:15:13.200 --> 00:15:15.090
  • I'm not as godly as Laurie,
  • 00:15:15.090 --> 00:15:16.170
  • I don't wanna revisit it,
  • 00:15:16.170 --> 00:15:17.200
  • But, but I--
  • 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:17.270
  • - Get behind me Satan.
  • 00:15:18.070 --> 00:15:18.100
  • make the veil thinner, too.
  • 00:15:19.010 --> 00:15:20.260
  • Because he knows we need him so much in those moments
  • 00:15:20.260 --> 00:15:23.110
  • I think He is kind to be so present in those points
  • 00:15:23.110 --> 00:15:27.220
  • so I think we do ourselves and others
  • 00:15:27.220 --> 00:15:30.210
  • a disservice by not talking about
  • 00:15:30.210 --> 00:15:32.220
  • what He's carried us through.
  • 00:15:32.220 --> 00:15:33.240
  • Because that legitimizes the Gospel.
  • 00:15:33.240 --> 00:15:36.130
  • - I know my hardest seasons of parenting,
  • 00:15:36.130 --> 00:15:38.260
  • I don't ever want them to come back.
  • 00:15:38.260 --> 00:15:40.230
  • - [Lisa] Right.
  • 00:15:40.230 --> 00:15:41.210
  • - But I'm so thankful for them
  • 00:15:41.210 --> 00:15:42.190
  • because I'm a different person
  • 00:15:42.190 --> 00:15:44.210
  • than I was before those hard two years.
  • 00:15:44.210 --> 00:15:47.200
  • I'm different because of it.
  • 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:49.060
  • - And knowing God is able to bring light out of darkness.
  • 00:15:49.060 --> 00:15:53.060
  • - [Lisa] Right.
  • 00:15:53.060 --> 00:15:54.240
  • - Only God is able to straighten out every crooked place.
  • 00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:57.120
  • - [Lisa] Right.
  • 00:15:57.120 --> 00:15:58.250
  • - And I think when we choose him even in the fire,
  • 00:15:58.250 --> 00:16:03.020
  • I think that's when he begins to rearrange.
  • 00:16:04.220 --> 00:16:08.180
  • You know we can't,
  • 00:16:08.180 --> 00:16:09.200
  • none of us can put it in words,
  • 00:16:09.200 --> 00:16:10.290
  • how He does it.
  • 00:16:10.290 --> 00:16:12.050
  • - Right, right.
  • 00:16:12.050 --> 00:16:13.110
  • - His thoughts are not like our thoughts,
  • 00:16:13.110 --> 00:16:14.220
  • His ways are not like our ways.
  • 00:16:14.220 --> 00:16:16.270
  • But when we submit to the word of God in our hardest times,
  • 00:16:16.270 --> 00:16:21.150
  • it allows him to come in and just rewrite the wrong.
  • 00:16:21.150 --> 00:16:25.000
  • - We always talk about the fire being our friend.
  • 00:16:25.000 --> 00:16:28.190
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:16:28.190 --> 00:16:29.140
  • Yeah, so good, Laurie.
  • 00:16:29.140 --> 00:16:31.160
  • - When fire's your friend it burns off all the bondage.
  • 00:16:31.160 --> 00:16:34.020
  • It burns off all the,
  • 00:16:34.020 --> 00:16:36.020
  • and you get into the glory of the Lord and where Jesus,
  • 00:16:36.020 --> 00:16:39.220
  • Jesus is in the fire.
  • 00:16:39.220 --> 00:16:41.030
  • - That's right.
  • 00:16:41.030 --> 00:16:42.270
  • - To burn away the stuff that we don't need.
  • 00:16:42.270 --> 00:16:47.000
  • To burn away and then you come out not smelling like smoke.
  • 00:16:47.000 --> 00:16:51.000
  • That's--
  • 00:16:51.000 --> 00:16:51.250
  • - [Lisa] That's right.
  • 00:16:51.250 --> 00:16:52.220
  • 'cause he didn't smell.
  • 00:16:52.220 --> 00:16:53.200
  • - That's what thanksgiving is.
  • 00:16:53.200 --> 00:16:55.080
  • - Did you still smell like smoke?
  • 00:16:55.080 --> 00:16:56.150
  • - Thanksgiving will get rid of the smoke.
  • 00:16:56.150 --> 00:16:58.000
  • - That's so good.
  • 00:16:58.000 --> 00:16:59.200
  • - Now you gonna make me shout on this.
  • 00:16:59.200 --> 00:17:01.080
  • (laughing)
  • 00:17:01.080 --> 00:17:02.030
  • - Come on!
  • 00:17:02.030 --> 00:17:03.010
  • - Here we go, here we go.
  • 00:17:03.010 --> 00:17:03.240
  • (laughing)
  • 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:05.060
  • - [Lisa] Really excited.
  • 00:17:05.060 --> 00:17:06.290
  • - Gratitude will eliminate the smoke.
  • 00:17:06.290 --> 00:17:09.170
  • - It does.
  • 00:17:09.170 --> 00:17:10.110
  • - I am grateful for all the seasons
  • 00:17:12.040 --> 00:17:14.010
  • that have brought me closer to God.
  • 00:17:14.010 --> 00:17:16.000
  • And I hate to admit this but most of the time
  • 00:17:16.000 --> 00:17:19.250
  • they're the painful seasons (laughs).
  • 00:17:19.250 --> 00:17:21.270
  • You know when you cry out and you're desperate
  • 00:17:21.270 --> 00:17:26.010
  • God shows up in a mighty way
  • 00:17:26.010 --> 00:17:28.150
  • and it brings change to your heart and to your mind.
  • 00:17:28.150 --> 00:17:31.090
  • And so I'm very grateful
  • 00:17:31.090 --> 00:17:32.250
  • because I realize that all things work together for my good
  • 00:17:32.250 --> 00:17:37.050
  • and any time I can get closer to God
  • 00:17:37.050 --> 00:17:39.260
  • it's always the best thing for me.
  • 00:17:39.260 --> 00:17:41.230
  • So I am totally grateful
  • 00:17:41.230 --> 00:17:43.070
  • for those seasons that brought me closer to God.
  • 00:17:43.070 --> 00:17:46.280
  • - How do I stay grateful with something that
  • 00:17:46.280 --> 00:17:49.040
  • is a gift that made my hands bleed?
  • 00:17:50.140 --> 00:17:52.260
  • You know?
  • 00:17:52.260 --> 00:17:54.000
  • How do you express gratitude
  • 00:17:54.000 --> 00:17:55.050
  • for something that's really hard.
  • 00:17:55.050 --> 00:17:56.010
  • And she wrote,
  • 00:17:56.010 --> 00:17:57.120
  • "when I ask people who had survived tragedy
  • 00:17:57.120 --> 00:18:00.020
  • "how we can cultivate and show more compassion
  • 00:18:00.020 --> 00:18:02.280
  • "for people who are suffering,
  • 00:18:02.280 --> 00:18:04.040
  • "the answer was always the same:
  • 00:18:04.040 --> 00:18:05.220
  • "don't shrink away from the joy of your child
  • 00:18:05.220 --> 00:18:09.120
  • "because I've lost mine.
  • 00:18:09.120 --> 00:18:11.180
  • "Don't take what you have for granted,
  • 00:18:11.180 --> 00:18:15.010
  • "celebrate it.
  • 00:18:15.010 --> 00:18:16.080
  • "Don't apologize for what you have,
  • 00:18:16.080 --> 00:18:17.250
  • "be grateful for it and share your gratitude with others.
  • 00:18:17.250 --> 00:18:21.240
  • "Are your parents healthy?
  • 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:23.040
  • "Be thrilled.
  • 00:18:23.040 --> 00:18:24.100
  • "Let them know how much they mean to you.
  • 00:18:24.100 --> 00:18:25.270
  • "When you honor what you have,
  • 00:18:25.270 --> 00:18:28.170
  • "you're honoring what I lost."
  • 00:18:28.170 --> 00:18:30.250
  • Isn't that good?
  • 00:18:31.290 --> 00:18:32.290
  • - Aw, nice, wow, that's powerful.
  • 00:18:32.290 --> 00:18:34.220
  • - But I thought to say, you know how it is?
  • 00:18:34.220 --> 00:18:37.250
  • Sometimes when somebody's got cancer
  • 00:18:37.250 --> 00:18:39.180
  • and you just came in from workout and
  • 00:18:39.180 --> 00:18:41.230
  • you're like "I'm sorry."
  • 00:18:41.230 --> 00:18:44.100
  • It actually doesn't honor what they're walking through.
  • 00:18:44.100 --> 00:18:47.210
  • It's interesting how we tend to avoid other people's pain
  • 00:18:47.210 --> 00:18:50.250
  • and we don't make it better
  • 00:18:50.250 --> 00:18:52.230
  • By not stepping in it and being honest with gratitude.
  • 00:18:52.230 --> 00:18:56.070
  • - And I think that when you're in that pain
  • 00:18:56.070 --> 00:18:58.200
  • you don't want people to kinda dance around you.
  • 00:18:58.200 --> 00:19:02.140
  • You want people to sit with you.
  • 00:19:02.140 --> 00:19:04.110
  • And you do wanna be excited for them
  • 00:19:04.110 --> 00:19:06.140
  • and thankful for what they have
  • 00:19:06.140 --> 00:19:08.020
  • even if your house feels like it's on fire.
  • 00:19:08.020 --> 00:19:10.170
  • - 'cause it gives hope.
  • 00:19:10.170 --> 00:19:11.190
  • - [Jamie] Yes.
  • 00:19:11.190 --> 00:19:12.170
  • - It gives hope, that's it.
  • 00:19:12.170 --> 00:19:13.090
  • It gives hope.
  • 00:19:13.090 --> 00:19:14.040
  • - You wanna be inspired.
  • 00:19:14.040 --> 00:19:14.290
  • You're inspired by life.
  • 00:19:14.290 --> 00:19:16.150
  • - So you can be a good friend that steps into someone's pain
  • 00:19:16.150 --> 00:19:20.030
  • and allows them to spend time being grateful
  • 00:19:20.030 --> 00:19:22.070
  • for what you have even when
  • 00:19:22.070 --> 00:19:23.140
  • they're walking through the fire.
  • 00:19:23.140 --> 00:19:24.290
  • I wanna be that friend.
  • 00:19:24.290 --> 00:19:26.030
  • - [Lisa] Me too.
  • 00:19:26.030 --> 00:19:27.010
  • - What if you have friends
  • 00:19:27.010 --> 00:19:28.160
  • that can't be thankful for what God's done for you.
  • 00:19:28.160 --> 00:19:30.050
  • - They aren't real friends.
  • 00:19:31.080 --> 00:19:33.120
  • (laughing)
  • 00:19:33.120 --> 00:19:34.100
  • I say you back the bus up.
  • 00:19:34.100 --> 00:19:35.100
  • - It's hard.
  • 00:19:36.120 --> 00:19:37.100
  • - I'm really being serious.
  • 00:19:37.100 --> 00:19:38.240
  • As a 55 year old I think one of the holiest things we can do
  • 00:19:38.240 --> 00:19:40.290
  • is go,
  • 00:19:40.290 --> 00:19:42.130
  • "okay Lord where have you called me to be a Paul
  • 00:19:42.130 --> 00:19:46.020
  • "and this person doesn't have the spiritual maturity
  • 00:19:46.020 --> 00:19:48.080
  • "to have any reciprocity
  • 00:19:48.080 --> 00:19:49.230
  • "where you called me to be a Timothy"
  • 00:19:49.230 --> 00:19:51.100
  • I've gotta have somebody older and wiser,
  • 00:19:51.100 --> 00:19:53.140
  • not that ya'll are older
  • 00:19:53.140 --> 00:19:54.120
  • I'm older than both of ya'll
  • 00:19:54.120 --> 00:19:55.280
  • but older in the Lord ya'll are more mature in the Lord.
  • 00:19:55.280 --> 00:19:58.230
  • There's, I was fussing yesterday and Cece set me right.
  • 00:19:58.230 --> 00:20:02.150
  • So you gotta have people who are mentoring you
  • 00:20:02.150 --> 00:20:04.230
  • even if it's loosely as big sisters in the Lord.
  • 00:20:04.230 --> 00:20:07.210
  • But then you have to have a community you're running with.
  • 00:20:07.210 --> 00:20:11.130
  • You know 98% of the directives in scripture
  • 00:20:11.130 --> 00:20:15.080
  • are said in community.
  • 00:20:15.080 --> 00:20:16.290
  • We can't do this by ourselves.
  • 00:20:16.290 --> 00:20:19.140
  • And so you find some people
  • 00:20:19.140 --> 00:20:21.050
  • who are running the same pace as you
  • 00:20:21.050 --> 00:20:23.280
  • towards Jesus and so when you are grieving,
  • 00:20:23.280 --> 00:20:27.230
  • for me it's when I step out of God's grace
  • 00:20:27.230 --> 00:20:30.200
  • and I'm headed towards sin
  • 00:20:30.200 --> 00:20:33.080
  • and I have friends who go "Lisa watch your mouth,
  • 00:20:33.080 --> 00:20:35.290
  • "be careful, 'cause I'm just seeing, are you struggling?"
  • 00:20:35.290 --> 00:20:39.020
  • to me we have to have friends who go
  • 00:20:39.020 --> 00:20:40.180
  • "Laurie that's amazing that happened!"
  • 00:20:40.180 --> 00:20:43.100
  • Because they aren't coming from a scarcity.
  • 00:20:43.100 --> 00:20:44.270
  • If that's your Timothy,
  • 00:20:44.270 --> 00:20:46.050
  • if that's somebody your mentoring,
  • 00:20:46.050 --> 00:20:47.180
  • that's fine,
  • 00:20:47.180 --> 00:20:48.270
  • but those are not those peer friends
  • 00:20:48.270 --> 00:20:51.140
  • that are running with you towards Jesus,
  • 00:20:51.140 --> 00:20:53.050
  • that's somebody you're helping.
  • 00:20:53.050 --> 00:20:54.200
  • And you have to have some people
  • 00:20:54.200 --> 00:20:56.080
  • who have at least the capacity for reciprocity.
  • 00:20:56.080 --> 00:21:00.110
  • Emotionally, I think.
  • 00:21:00.110 --> 00:21:01.080
  • - [Laurie] Yeah.
  • 00:21:01.080 --> 00:21:02.060
  • - [Cece] I agree, I agree.
  • 00:21:02.060 --> 00:21:03.250
  • - [Jamie] Who you can reciprocate that gratefulness for
  • 00:21:03.250 --> 00:21:06.050
  • even if it's different than what's in your life.
  • 00:21:06.050 --> 00:21:08.030
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:21:08.030 --> 00:21:09.090
  • And they'll celebrate what God's doing,
  • 00:21:09.090 --> 00:21:11.020
  • 'cause they know this isn't about you anyway.
  • 00:21:11.020 --> 00:21:13.190
  • This is God's favor on you.
  • 00:21:13.190 --> 00:21:16.030
  • So even if I wish I had that thing,
  • 00:21:16.030 --> 00:21:18.290
  • I can go "wow how good of You to give it."
  • 00:21:18.290 --> 00:21:21.080
  • - That's awesome.
  • 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:23.110
  • - [Jamie] It's so good.
  • 00:21:23.110 --> 00:21:24.260
  • - And it's so important like you said who you run with.
  • 00:21:24.260 --> 00:21:26.230
  • You know evil communications corrupt good manners.
  • 00:21:26.230 --> 00:21:29.110
  • - [Lisa] That's right, Cece.
  • 00:21:29.110 --> 00:21:31.140
  • - I don't have a lot of patience
  • 00:21:31.140 --> 00:21:33.170
  • for people who aren't grateful.
  • 00:21:33.170 --> 00:21:34.220
  • And what I mean by that,
  • 00:21:34.220 --> 00:21:36.060
  • I love 'em,
  • 00:21:36.060 --> 00:21:37.030
  • but I can't let you pour rain on my parade.
  • 00:21:38.080 --> 00:21:41.230
  • You you know what I'm saying?
  • 00:21:41.230 --> 00:21:42.270
  • - That's powerful.
  • 00:21:42.270 --> 00:21:44.130
  • - And so, yeah you have to continue to praise God
  • 00:21:44.130 --> 00:21:46.170
  • so that it will, 'cause,
  • 00:21:46.170 --> 00:21:47.160
  • 'cause gratitude is contagious.
  • 00:21:47.160 --> 00:21:50.050
  • - Right.
  • 00:21:50.050 --> 00:21:51.250
  • - And so either they get with the program
  • 00:21:51.250 --> 00:21:54.010
  • or most of the time you don't have to tell 'em to leave,
  • 00:21:54.010 --> 00:21:55.260
  • they'll just leave.
  • 00:21:55.260 --> 00:21:56.220
  • (laughing)
  • 00:21:56.220 --> 00:21:58.070
  • - 'cause it's hard for them to be around such gratefulness.
  • 00:21:58.070 --> 00:22:00.090
  • - [Cece] It's hard for them to be around you.
  • 00:22:00.090 --> 00:22:01.280
  • - It's hard.
  • 00:22:01.280 --> 00:22:02.260
  • Shelley Giglio says this a lot,
  • 00:22:02.260 --> 00:22:04.120
  • and I'm nervous to paraphrase it,
  • 00:22:04.120 --> 00:22:06.080
  • but she talks about how people love rooting for the underdog
  • 00:22:06.080 --> 00:22:10.040
  • but what happens when that underdog
  • 00:22:10.040 --> 00:22:11.140
  • is no longer an underdog?
  • 00:22:11.140 --> 00:22:12.220
  • Are you still cheering on that person?
  • 00:22:12.220 --> 00:22:14.160
  • Are you still rooting for that person?
  • 00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:17.010
  • And I just remember when she spoke that
  • 00:22:17.010 --> 00:22:19.190
  • thinking "that is so powerful"
  • 00:22:19.190 --> 00:22:22.050
  • and sometimes that's a defining moment
  • 00:22:22.050 --> 00:22:23.170
  • for some of us in our relationships.
  • 00:22:23.170 --> 00:22:24.290
  • - That's right.
  • 00:22:24.290 --> 00:22:26.130
  • - You were an underdog and everyone was hoping with you,
  • 00:22:26.130 --> 00:22:28.040
  • and then when God answered the prayers you were all praying,
  • 00:22:28.040 --> 00:22:31.040
  • did everyone stay with you
  • 00:22:31.040 --> 00:22:32.190
  • in gratitude that God gave you as you were praying for?
  • 00:22:32.190 --> 00:22:35.060
  • Sometimes like,
  • 00:22:35.060 --> 00:22:36.110
  • instead of me thinking of other people
  • 00:22:36.110 --> 00:22:38.030
  • that maybe were not grateful alongside of us,
  • 00:22:38.030 --> 00:22:41.110
  • how can I be the kind of people
  • 00:22:41.110 --> 00:22:42.240
  • that are grateful alongside of my friends?
  • 00:22:42.240 --> 00:22:44.280
  • How can I root for the underdogs
  • 00:22:44.280 --> 00:22:46.280
  • and then all of us as God answers our prayers,
  • 00:22:46.280 --> 00:22:49.060
  • God is giving us victories in seasons
  • 00:22:49.060 --> 00:22:51.050
  • and we're not gonna stay the underdogs
  • 00:22:51.050 --> 00:22:52.120
  • in all the situations we were in anymore
  • 00:22:52.120 --> 00:22:53.210
  • now we have victory in this, this, and this.
  • 00:22:53.210 --> 00:22:55.190
  • Can we still be grateful
  • 00:22:55.190 --> 00:22:57.000
  • for what God is doing in other people's lives?
  • 00:22:57.000 --> 00:22:59.000
  • Can we still cheer them on, root them on?
  • 00:22:59.000 --> 00:23:00.240
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:23:00.240 --> 00:23:01.190
  • When they're big dogs.
  • 00:23:01.190 --> 00:23:02.260
  • - And that was such a powerful thought
  • 00:23:02.260 --> 00:23:03.240
  • that's really stayed with me.
  • 00:23:03.240 --> 00:23:05.080
  • To be rooting for each other in all the seasons.
  • 00:23:05.080 --> 00:23:07.260
  • - Because you know what?
  • 00:23:07.260 --> 00:23:09.040
  • We need it.
  • 00:23:09.040 --> 00:23:10.110
  • No matter how successful we are on the outside
  • 00:23:10.110 --> 00:23:12.250
  • God is still working on our hearts on the inside.
  • 00:23:12.250 --> 00:23:15.030
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:23:15.030 --> 00:23:16.010
  • - We all need to be encouraged,
  • 00:23:16.010 --> 00:23:17.000
  • we all need to be cheered on,
  • 00:23:17.000 --> 00:23:18.090
  • we all need,
  • 00:23:18.090 --> 00:23:19.150
  • you know my husband who's been with me now,
  • 00:23:19.150 --> 00:23:20.290
  • what, we've been married for 35 years, you know?
  • 00:23:20.290 --> 00:23:23.100
  • I can come offstage and he'll say
  • 00:23:23.100 --> 00:23:24.210
  • "babe that was so good."
  • 00:23:24.210 --> 00:23:25.160
  • I'm like, "it was?
  • 00:23:25.160 --> 00:23:27.010
  • "Oh great, praise the Lord."
  • 00:23:27.010 --> 00:23:28.160
  • (laughing)
  • 00:23:28.160 --> 00:23:29.240
  • I've been singing for 200 years now!
  • 00:23:29.240 --> 00:23:32.010
  • But we all need that.
  • 00:23:32.010 --> 00:23:33.150
  • - [Lisa] Absolutely.
  • 00:23:33.150 --> 00:23:34.230
  • - And it's not about puffing yourself up
  • 00:23:34.230 --> 00:23:37.040
  • it's just that we need to be encouraged.
  • 00:23:37.040 --> 00:23:39.150
  • We need one another.
  • 00:23:39.150 --> 00:23:40.100
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:23:40.100 --> 00:23:41.050
  • And it's really about,
  • 00:23:41.050 --> 00:23:42.000
  • don't ya'll think,
  • 00:23:42.000 --> 00:23:43.060
  • recognizing the giver of the gifts.
  • 00:23:43.060 --> 00:23:44.200
  • I think if you know that God is a good guy
  • 00:23:44.200 --> 00:23:47.220
  • then the path he has you on is for your good and His glory,
  • 00:23:47.220 --> 00:23:51.050
  • then when somebody on an adjacent path
  • 00:23:51.050 --> 00:23:53.180
  • seems to be running ahead of you,
  • 00:23:53.180 --> 00:23:55.150
  • you're just fired up 'cause you're on the same team.
  • 00:23:55.150 --> 00:23:57.120
  • - So good.
  • 00:23:57.120 --> 00:23:58.260
  • - So it's not that they're doing better than you,
  • 00:23:58.260 --> 00:24:00.050
  • it's that their running in a different lane.
  • 00:24:00.050 --> 00:24:02.170
  • And if you believe God is a good guy
  • 00:24:02.170 --> 00:24:04.110
  • then where he has you is exactly where he has you
  • 00:24:04.110 --> 00:24:08.030
  • and just 'cause she has a high metabolism
  • 00:24:08.030 --> 00:24:10.070
  • and doesn't have to go paleo,
  • 00:24:10.070 --> 00:24:12.010
  • you can cheer!
  • 00:24:12.010 --> 00:24:13.000
  • (laughing)
  • 00:24:13.000 --> 00:24:14.070
  • You can cheer for that skinny blonde.
  • 00:24:14.070 --> 00:24:16.000
  • You wave that banner and say yeah.
  • 00:24:16.000 --> 00:24:18.020
  • - We were talking about that, Lisa, yesterday,
  • 00:24:18.020 --> 00:24:19.130
  • about comparison.
  • 00:24:19.130 --> 00:24:20.130
  • And I think one of the things
  • 00:24:20.130 --> 00:24:21.190
  • that can just drain you of gratitude
  • 00:24:21.190 --> 00:24:22.200
  • is when you go to compare.
  • 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:24.130
  • - Yes.
  • 00:24:24.130 --> 00:24:25.080
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:24:25.080 --> 00:24:26.030
  • Hundred percent.
  • 00:24:26.030 --> 00:24:27.010
  • - Because then you look inward.
  • 00:24:27.010 --> 00:24:27.290
  • - Because you're looking inward.
  • 00:24:27.290 --> 00:24:28.270
  • You're looking at people.
  • 00:24:28.270 --> 00:24:29.250
  • You're not looking at God
  • 00:24:29.250 --> 00:24:31.190
  • and what he's done and who he is.
  • 00:24:31.190 --> 00:24:33.090
  • So, I think we really have to be careful
  • 00:24:33.090 --> 00:24:35.180
  • with comparison when it comes to
  • 00:24:35.180 --> 00:24:37.230
  • staying in a grateful spirit.
  • 00:24:37.230 --> 00:24:40.080
  • I think comparison is something
  • 00:24:40.080 --> 00:24:42.110
  • that will steal your gratitude.
  • 00:24:42.110 --> 00:24:44.240
  • We should never look at one another and compare ourselves
  • 00:24:44.240 --> 00:24:48.030
  • because we all have different walks
  • 00:24:48.030 --> 00:24:49.290
  • we have different talents
  • 00:24:49.290 --> 00:24:51.150
  • different gifts
  • 00:24:51.150 --> 00:24:52.290
  • and the God that we serve is just and faithful.
  • 00:24:52.290 --> 00:24:55.220
  • Comparison will make you doubt God's character.
  • 00:24:55.220 --> 00:24:58.230
  • It will make you feel like you're forgotten
  • 00:24:58.230 --> 00:25:01.120
  • or you're not enough or you're more than.
  • 00:25:01.120 --> 00:25:03.220
  • So stay away from comparison
  • 00:25:03.220 --> 00:25:05.250
  • and I think you will live in gratitude.
  • 00:25:05.250 --> 00:25:08.080
  • - We're gonna have to fight for gratitude.
  • 00:25:08.080 --> 00:25:10.050
  • We have to fight for our focus.
  • 00:25:10.050 --> 00:25:11.230
  • We're gonna have to make the decision
  • 00:25:11.230 --> 00:25:13.170
  • to not mindlessly scroll here
  • 00:25:13.170 --> 00:25:15.040
  • but mindlessly scroll here,
  • 00:25:15.040 --> 00:25:16.260
  • or mindfully scroll here!
  • 00:25:16.260 --> 00:25:18.260
  • We're gonna have to make the decision
  • 00:25:18.260 --> 00:25:20.050
  • because what's naturally around us is--
  • 00:25:20.050 --> 00:25:23.180
  • - Pushing us towards that way.
  • 00:25:23.180 --> 00:25:24.160
  • - Opportunities to compare.
  • 00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:25.080
  • - That's right.
  • 00:25:25.080 --> 00:25:27.060
  • - And the enemy will do all he can to make it look cool,
  • 00:25:27.060 --> 00:25:29.180
  • fun, accessible.
  • 00:25:29.180 --> 00:25:31.150
  • To have us look at all the things we don't have,
  • 00:25:31.150 --> 00:25:33.230
  • the things we need to buy,
  • 00:25:33.230 --> 00:25:34.210
  • the things we need to be,
  • 00:25:34.210 --> 00:25:35.280
  • and not have us focus on what we have
  • 00:25:37.010 --> 00:25:38.220
  • so we can ultimately be grateful
  • 00:25:38.220 --> 00:25:40.160
  • and be praising God with our gratitude.
  • 00:25:40.160 --> 00:25:42.000
  • - Right.
  • 00:25:42.000 --> 00:25:43.130
  • Because we are not in gratefulness and gratitude,
  • 00:25:43.130 --> 00:25:45.280
  • then you are automatically going into ungratefulness.
  • 00:25:45.280 --> 00:25:49.020
  • - Right.
  • 00:25:49.020 --> 00:25:50.090
  • - There's not an in between, you know.
  • 00:25:50.090 --> 00:25:53.000
  • You're either grateful,
  • 00:25:53.000 --> 00:25:54.030
  • or you're not.
  • 00:25:54.030 --> 00:25:55.170
  • - We always say to each other,
  • 00:25:55.170 --> 00:25:56.290
  • the cameramen would know this,
  • 00:25:56.290 --> 00:25:58.280
  • to wrack your focus.
  • 00:25:58.280 --> 00:26:01.030
  • And that means to wrack in
  • 00:26:01.030 --> 00:26:02.290
  • and focus in and magnify the Lord.
  • 00:26:02.290 --> 00:26:07.120
  • - [Hosanna] Powerful.
  • 00:26:07.120 --> 00:26:08.150
  • - And exalt him.
  • 00:26:08.150 --> 00:26:10.190
  • And out of that,
  • 00:26:10.190 --> 00:26:12.140
  • and then all this stuff goes away.
  • 00:26:12.140 --> 00:26:14.150
  • - Powerful.
  • 00:26:14.150 --> 00:26:15.100
  • - That's right.
  • 00:26:15.100 --> 00:26:16.110
  • - I would love to pray with you
  • 00:26:16.110 --> 00:26:17.240
  • and I would love to invite you to pray with me
  • 00:26:17.240 --> 00:26:20.030
  • as we thank God for the journey
  • 00:26:20.030 --> 00:26:22.170
  • God you are a great, great God to us.
  • 00:26:22.170 --> 00:26:25.100
  • You're faithful to us no matter what.
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  • When our circumstances change
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  • you never change
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  • and you never will change.
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  • You have been the same from the beginning of time
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  • and you are the same now.
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  • You are holy and you are good and we are thankful
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  • that we are your daughters.
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  • So God my prayer for us
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  • and everyone that has their,
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  • that is hearing the sound of my voice,
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  • God I pray that you would help us
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  • remember this about yourself so that
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  • in the midst of hard times and in the midst of struggles,
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  • in the midst of seasons
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  • that we wish would go away way sooner than they ever do,
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  • God that we will remember that you are for us,
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  • that you are with us,
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  • that you love us,
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  • and that you are never, ever, going to leave us.
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  • And because of that God we choose to say thank you.
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  • Thank you for being who you are.
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  • We pray all of this in Jesus' name, amen.
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  • - Sometimes I think one of the hardest times to be thankful
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  • is our present.
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  • Because it can be fun to look back
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  • and be grateful for all the things that
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  • have happened in the past or even maybe,
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  • I dunno maybe that's easier to do
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  • than to really think about
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  • how we can be grateful right now in this present.
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