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November 21, 2019
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Who taught you how to live grateful? How can we pass those lessons along to the next generation? | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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Grateful for Family & Community | Better Together

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  • - Family, friends, your church community.
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  • Who are you most thankful for,
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  • and how can we spread an attitude of gratitude?
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  • Come on, let's talk about it.
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  • (uplifting music)
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  • - I am grateful for family and community.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - You know, one of the things
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  • that I love to thank the Lord for,
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  • even in all the years that I've traveled,
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  • I think one of my favorite things
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  • has been to meet godly people.
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  • When I think us as the body of Christ,
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  • we aren't grateful enough for one another.
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  • - Right, right.
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  • - But going to my family, I thank God for my mom and dad,
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  • you know, raisin' us in,
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  • in the word of God.
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  • No family is perfect. - Right.
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  • - Everybody has flaws, and have made mistakes,
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  • but when you have the foundation of the word of God,
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  • and that being the standard that you live by,
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  • it just brings so much peace and so much strength,
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  • and I'm so grateful that I've had that throughout my life.
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  • You know, it's not that you don't mess up,
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  • but you know how to get back up.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - You know, and that's just so important to me.
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  • One of my heroes is my mom, you know.
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  • I never had to wonder what living holy looked like.
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  • - Right.
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  • - She was a praying woman.
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  • Very strong, but yet very soft.
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  • And that's just a blessing, it's a blessing.
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  • She taught me how to be grateful, you know.
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  • 'Cause I would wake up in the morning,
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  • and I would see her worshiping the Lord,
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  • and being thankful if we had food on the table
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  • or if we didn't, you know.
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  • And so, having that example has been a blessing in my life,
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  • so I just wanna hear from you ladies,
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  • who inspired you to...
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  • - Well, I think you're so right on
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  • with being grateful for those that have gone before,
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  • before us and shown us.
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  • I know that I come from a very faithful family
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  • that taught us how to walk in faith,
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  • and how to trust God on both sides.
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  • You know, and a lot of people don't have that.
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  • - It's awesome, right.
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  • - You know, and so that's why we're here,
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  • we're gonna help show and pour what we've learned,
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  • 'cause we pour into the next generation.
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  • But the faithfulness of the previous generations
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  • that have gone before that have shown us
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  • how to walk the walk of faith,
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  • and to how to believe God in the middle,
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  • and how to just believe for miracles, you know.
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  • - So how did they, Laura, how did they inspire you
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  • to help others?
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  • - Well, I'm not sure how they did it but I have it,
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  • so it had to be instilled in me somehow.
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  • - Yeah, I think they just, they showed it.
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  • - Yeah, my mom and dad were always, that's all I knew.
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  • You know, and that's why I'm always so,
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  • show your kids.
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  • - There you go. - Show your kids,
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  • they're watching, you don't have to say a word.
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  • - Mmhmm.
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  • - They're listening, and they're watching,
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  • so when you get in those times
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  • where you just wanna do a meltdown and just start talking,
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  • there are your little babies watching you.
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  • - Yes. Uh huh.
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  • - Pick it up, and grab your bible
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  • and say who God is in the middle of that storm.
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  • That's what I saw. - Yeah.
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  • - That's what I saw done when things looked really bad.
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  • You know, when I heard of really bad things going on,
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  • I would do it, standing tenacious with this bible,
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  • and speaking the word of God, and who God said He was,
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  • and then we'd see it happen.
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  • - Right. - We'd see it, that's right.
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  • - We saw it happen and that's what we're supposed
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  • to teach our children.
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  • - Yeah. - Mhmm.
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  • - And be grateful for.
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  • - So when I think back about someone
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  • who has really shown me what it looks like to be grateful,
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  • I think about my grandmother.
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  • My grandmother and my grandfather
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  • are both with Jesus now, which is just so cool,
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  • but my grandfather for the last probably 10 to 12 years
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  • of his life was bedridden,
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  • and my grandmother took care of him every single day
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  • until he went home to be with Jesus.
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  • And I look back and I think about that time
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  • when I would go visit them, and I never heard
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  • my grandmother grumble or complain about the life
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  • that she had.
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  • I never heard her talk down to my grandfather.
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  • I never heard her look at him as if he was a problem,
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  • or if it was like just this,
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  • I mean, no one thinks that your life might go that way,
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  • and my grandmother served him and the Lord
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  • faithfully until he went home to be with the Lord.
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  • And I look back at her and I think,
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  • "Man, I wanna be that way.
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  • I wanna be grateful even when life looks like
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  • not like I planned,
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  • when it's just not how I ever
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  • thought this was gonna go down."
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  • And so, my grandma taught me that
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  • and I'm so honored that she was my grandmother
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  • and I'm so happy
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  • that her and my grandfather are with Jesus,
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  • and he's not in bed anymore,
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  • he's like praising the Lord,
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  • so my grandmother taught me gratefulness.
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  • - I recently was reading through some of Paul's letters,
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  • and yeah I love it where he tells Timothy,
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  • "You know be gait and grateful for your mama."
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  • - That's right, positively, yeah.
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  • - He basically stand on Lois and Eunice's shoulders,
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  • and then he talks about fanning the flame,
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  • but first he reminds him of his scaffolding.
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  • And last year my mom took me to a church
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  • that I never knew existed, tiny little country church,
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  • and she said, "Your great great grandfather's name
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  • is on the foundation stone for this church.
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  • - Wow.
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  • - Because he was an itinerant minister."
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  • And he traveled all around central Florida preaching,
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  • and they had told me about him,
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  • but I didn't, you know, such old stories
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  • there have been so much.
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  • And just to see his name, my mom's maiden name was Brown,
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  • and to see Pastor Brown's name on that tombstone,
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  • and to go, "I come from a family, from generations."
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  • Like you said it, our families,
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  • we've got some messy stuff.
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  • I always say we're kind of a Jerry Springer family,
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  • but there's this legacy of faith in our family,
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  • and Missy and I were hikin' a couple days ago in Nashville,
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  • and she always, if I get her out in nature and it's quiet,
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  • she'll just, I mean she's just a question a minute,
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  • and she said, "Mama, does everyone
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  • in Nashville know Jesus?"
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  • (chuckles)
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  • And I said, "No, baby."
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  • 'Cause we'd been singing a worship song,
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  • she loves to sing, especially Lauren Daigle,
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  • so I can't sing but I was trying not
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  • to scar other hikers, she was singin' Lauren Daigle,
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  • and that just made her talk about Jesus.
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  • She said, "Does everyone in Nashville know Jesus?"
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  • And I said, "No, baby, everybody in Nashville
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  • doesn't know Jesus."
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  • And she said, "Well, what is wrong with Nashville?"
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  • And I said, "Well honey, that's everywhere.
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  • You know, there's people don't know
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  • Jesus all over the world."
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  • She said, "But we're Harpers, so we know Jesus."
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  • (chuckles)
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  • - I love it.
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  • - I was like, "Yes, ma'am."
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  • I thought, she's 10, she will be shaken in life,
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  • but I love that even now, as this 10 year old little kid,
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  • she's just like, "But this is what we do,
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  • this is what Harpers do. We love Jesus."
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  • And I was like, oh Lord, let me keep fannin' that flame
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  • (chuckles) in my kid.
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  • She reminds me of how generous He's been
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  • because everybody doesn't come from a family of faith.
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  • I have a lot of friends
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  • who are first generation Christians.
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  • - Right. - They look back,
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  • they didn't have grandmamas and granddaddies
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  • who actually knew Jesus,
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  • so I'm really really grateful for that.
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  • - Good. - Yeah.
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  • I was going to say that one
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  • of the things I'm really grateful for
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  • is the global church, that capitols of church,
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  • the family of God.
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  • - Family. - 'Cause not all of us
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  • have had just even conventional families,
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  • not all of us have had families that knew Jesus.
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  • Some of our foundations are not the foundations
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  • that God would have liked for us to have had.
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  • - Right, right.
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  • - Some of the things in our lineages
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  • are not things that He would prefer to be passed down.
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  • Somethin' that I'm grateful for is that
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  • throughout the country and throughout the world,
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  • there are men and women of God
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  • who feel called not to just be biological parents
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  • but will parent and bring in people
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  • that need to be bring toward and loved on.
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  • And I lost my dad eleven years ago,
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  • and I am so grateful for the men of God
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  • with who, along with their wives across the country
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  • took me in as I traveled and as I spoke places,
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  • people didn't just let me come in and out as a guest
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  • without investing in me, making me feel loved,
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  • seeing valuable outside of what I was doing a little bit,
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  • and the relationships that I've had because of that,
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  • so I think for some of us it's a family we make.
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  • - Right.
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  • It's the family of God, we're adopted
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  • - It's the community, that's right.
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  • - into this community.
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  • That's something to be grateful for, I think,
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  • is the awareness that family might not look like
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  • what you thought it was supposed to look like
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  • but it is still available to you.
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  • - Right, right. - The awareness
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  • that you can create a family,
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  • you can be a part of creating a new community.
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  • - Yeah, yeah, because it's so awesome what you said,
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  • I think we were talkin' about this yesterday
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  • how it takes a village to raise a child,
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  • and it's so true. - Oh man.
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  • - Yeah, you know? - A few villages, I'm sure.
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  • - A few of 'em,
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  • and so, again going back to the family of God,
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  • it is so important because even though
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  • I had both my parents who were in church,
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  • it was because of so many other people
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  • who took out time to disciple us,
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  • who took out time, 'cause you know,
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  • everybody goes through, "I don't wanna hear my parents."
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  • - Right.
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  • - You know, anybody else besides my parents.
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  • And havin' that family of God,
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  • and I think that is so important
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  • that all of us as believers,
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  • that it's not just about my four and no more,
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  • - Right.
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  • but who can I mother?
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  • Who can I pour into? Who can I take out time to love on?
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  • You know, but I am so grateful for the church at large.
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  • I think it's just amazing when you see men and women,
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  • mothers and fathers in the spirit.
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  • - Yeah. - Right.
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  • - That God has anointed to build the kingdom of God.
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  • I am so grateful because I've been blessed
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  • to meet so many incredible godly people,
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  • men and women of God,
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  • who have impacted my life over the years.
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  • It starts out with my grandmother,
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  • one of my favorite people, and all of her friends.
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  • I used to hang out with all the mothers of the church,
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  • and from them I received wisdom.
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  • I received love.
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  • They taught me how to be a good wife and a good mom,
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  • and they were faithful, they taught me how to pray.
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  • And these are things that really
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  • was the foundation of my life.
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  • These are the prayers that I stand on today,
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  • so I'm totally grateful for my grandmom,
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  • and all the mothers of the church,
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  • but all the pastors and the ministers, and the teachers
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  • that I've met over the years
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  • who have prayed for me and who have embraced my ministry,
  • 00:11:00.090 --> 00:11:03.170
  • and encouraged me along the way.
  • 00:11:03.170 --> 00:11:06.130
  • - I could think, look back, and I'm grateful that my dad
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  • got saved when I was younger.
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  • I just look back and I like think our whole family changed
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  • by Jesus capturing my dad's heart, you know,
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  • and so I look at that, and I'm like,
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  • man we had a shift in our change,
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  • I mean a shift in our family that season.
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  • But I think in my season right now,
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  • when I think about community and family,
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  • I am so grateful for women
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  • who are ahead of me in life.
  • 00:11:33.140 --> 00:11:36.130
  • I just look around and I think sometimes
  • 00:11:37.200 --> 00:11:39.290
  • it's scary to be a wife and a mom,
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  • and to do ministry and to preach God's word,
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  • and I look around and I think there are women
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  • who are mothering me in a sense,
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  • we'll say sistering me,
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  • - I'll take anything.
  • 00:11:54.060 --> 00:11:56.070
  • (laughing)
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  • - Mothering and sistering me,
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  • locally, from a distance,
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  • who I can say, I watch women, and say,
  • 00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:06.040
  • they love their family well, they love God with everything,
  • 00:12:06.040 --> 00:12:08.270
  • and they're gonna serve Him until the day they die,
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  • and I think that's who I want.
  • 00:12:11.020 --> 00:12:12.170
  • I'm gonna like, I'm grateful to watch that
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  • and see where I wanna be, because I think,
  • 00:12:16.010 --> 00:12:18.070
  • I say all the time that I'm gonna show up to heaven
  • 00:12:18.070 --> 00:12:21.060
  • only, obviously by the grace of God.
  • 00:12:21.060 --> 00:12:23.070
  • (chuckles) - Right.
  • 00:12:23.070 --> 00:12:24.120
  • - But it'll be because of His word
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  • and because of community in my life.
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  • - Right. - That's awesome.
  • 00:12:27.140 --> 00:12:28.200
  • - To keep me grounded and going the way
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  • I'm supposed to be, and so I'm grateful
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  • that we live in a day where we can look around
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  • and see other women running the race really well.
  • 00:12:37.050 --> 00:12:40.120
  • - We want you to join the conversation.
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  • - Connect with us on social media
  • 00:12:45.040 --> 00:12:46.240
  • and let's get better together.
  • 00:12:46.240 --> 00:12:48.090
  • - Culture tells us, kind of after 50,
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  • once you're hair's chemically dependent,
  • 00:12:55.020 --> 00:12:56.260
  • and you slow down or you coast,
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  • and I'm like, actually, I feel like
  • 00:12:59.140 --> 00:13:02.180
  • I have more purpose in my 50s than I did in my 30s,
  • 00:13:02.180 --> 00:13:07.050
  • and there's my body has shifted.
  • 00:13:07.050 --> 00:13:09.100
  • (chuckles)
  • 00:13:09.100 --> 00:13:10.240
  • And I need a few more, a little more tinsel strength
  • 00:13:10.240 --> 00:13:13.020
  • under my clothes to hold things
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  • where God intended them to be,
  • 00:13:15.090 --> 00:13:16.210
  • but I am more convinced than
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  • ever before of the love of Christ.
  • 00:13:19.090 --> 00:13:21.060
  • - Right.
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  • I'm more excited about learning about God,
  • 00:13:22.130 --> 00:13:24.250
  • you know, I went back to school
  • 00:13:24.250 --> 00:13:26.170
  • because I thought it's good for me
  • 00:13:26.170 --> 00:13:27.230
  • to be in school while Missy's in school.
  • 00:13:27.230 --> 00:13:29.110
  • - Yeah, it's great.
  • 00:13:29.110 --> 00:13:30.150
  • - Her to see me grappling and studying,
  • 00:13:30.150 --> 00:13:32.060
  • but I thought, when I was in my 20s,
  • 00:13:32.060 --> 00:13:34.240
  • I think I thought 50 was akin to death.
  • 00:13:34.240 --> 00:13:37.080
  • That basically you just coast and then you die.
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  • And now that I'm 55, I'm like,
  • 00:13:39.160 --> 00:13:42.140
  • my goodness, I might physically be step slower,
  • 00:13:42.140 --> 00:13:45.140
  • but I feel like my heart has kinda just starting runnin'
  • 00:13:45.140 --> 00:13:48.130
  • at full speed.
  • 00:13:48.130 --> 00:13:49.080
  • - That's right.
  • 00:13:49.080 --> 00:13:50.200
  • - But the changes, the standard for us looking up to you
  • 00:13:50.200 --> 00:13:53.000
  • thought because maybe you thought that way
  • 00:13:53.000 --> 00:13:54.260
  • because you didn't have a Lisa Harper in your life,
  • 00:13:54.260 --> 00:13:56.160
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:13:56.160 --> 00:13:57.150
  • when you were at our point,
  • 00:13:57.150 --> 00:13:59.020
  • but it changes now what we think we'll be able to do
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  • in the next season and the next season
  • 00:14:01.250 --> 00:14:02.240
  • because you changed the standard
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  • by living a different standard.
  • 00:14:04.250 --> 00:14:06.110
  • - [Jamie] Yeah.
  • 00:14:06.110 --> 00:14:07.150
  • - I hope to be that. - I do too.
  • 00:14:07.150 --> 00:14:09.030
  • - And it takes seasons to do that,
  • 00:14:09.030 --> 00:14:10.100
  • I mean we've been through a lot of stuff,
  • 00:14:10.100 --> 00:14:12.230
  • - That's right.
  • 00:14:12.230 --> 00:14:13.180
  • we've been through life,
  • 00:14:13.180 --> 00:14:14.260
  • this is I pray that you be rooted and grounded.
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  • That takes a while.
  • 00:14:17.140 --> 00:14:19.160
  • - Yeah, that's right.
  • 00:14:19.160 --> 00:14:20.230
  • - And for people to stay faithful to the call,
  • 00:14:20.230 --> 00:14:23.080
  • and for people to stand firm in their faith
  • 00:14:23.080 --> 00:14:25.110
  • and show and pave the way, we've all gleaned from that,
  • 00:14:25.110 --> 00:14:29.150
  • and that's what we're trying, hopefully you're doing.
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  • - You're doing it.
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  • - And there's baby sisters gleaning from you.
  • 00:14:34.100 --> 00:14:36.180
  • - One of the things I'm most grateful for as I mentioned
  • 00:14:38.270 --> 00:14:40.240
  • is the generation in front of me of women
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  • who have literally paved the way for my generation.
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  • They have served God faithfully,
  • 00:14:47.100 --> 00:14:49.060
  • they have served their churches night and day,
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  • they have raised children that love the Lord.
  • 00:14:52.140 --> 00:14:54.110
  • And so, I look at these women, I think,
  • 00:14:54.110 --> 00:14:55.270
  • "Oh I wanna be like you, I wanna follow in your footsteps,
  • 00:14:55.270 --> 00:14:58.210
  • you are literally showing me what it looks like
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  • to be a woman who passionately follows Jesus."
  • 00:15:00.170 --> 00:15:02.230
  • And then I look behind me, and I see,
  • 00:15:02.230 --> 00:15:05.020
  • these girls are killin' it.
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  • You guys are amazing. I look at the women
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  • in their 30s and 20s and teenagers,
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  • and I think, when I look at them I think,
  • 00:15:11.200 --> 00:15:14.020
  • we're gonna be okay, and I wanna cheer them on so loud.
  • 00:15:14.020 --> 00:15:17.040
  • And so I think this kind of effect
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  • of these women in front of me are cheering me on,
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  • they had women in front of them cheer them on,
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  • I'm cheerin' on these women behind me,
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  • and we're just all runnin' towards the Lord,
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  • and doin' our thing and runnin' our race.
  • 00:15:27.170 --> 00:15:29.150
  • And Lisa was challenging us and like,
  • 00:15:29.150 --> 00:15:31.000
  • "Hey let's tell people thank you."
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  • Let's tell people that we're thankful for them,
  • 00:15:33.280 --> 00:15:34.260
  • and I think it's important.
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  • She challenged me and I wanna go home
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  • and start writin' thank you notes
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  • to all the women in front of me,
  • 00:15:40.130 --> 00:15:41.280
  • but I think it's important for us to verbally say,
  • 00:15:41.280 --> 00:15:44.140
  • "Hey we see you, we see the work that you're doing,
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  • you're doing good stuff, keep going sister,
  • 00:15:47.150 --> 00:15:50.040
  • we're runnin' beside you, we're runnin' with you."
  • 00:15:50.040 --> 00:15:52.200
  • So, I wanna challenge you and myself
  • 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:54.220
  • like let's be women that cheer each other on,
  • 00:15:54.220 --> 00:15:56.210
  • and part of that is sayin', "Hey I see you
  • 00:15:56.210 --> 00:15:58.100
  • and I'm thankful for you."
  • 00:15:58.100 --> 00:16:00.140
  • - In the scripture I think it's Hebrews 6 and 12,
  • 00:16:00.140 --> 00:16:03.070
  • when it's also, "I follow those through faith and patience,
  • 00:16:03.070 --> 00:16:06.000
  • inherit the promises," you know,
  • 00:16:06.000 --> 00:16:07.090
  • so havin' that model, I thought that was great
  • 00:16:07.090 --> 00:16:09.250
  • that you brought that up 'cause a lot of women,
  • 00:16:09.250 --> 00:16:11.270
  • they didn't have a mom, or they didn't have a grandma,
  • 00:16:11.270 --> 00:16:14.280
  • but you can look and see, you know,
  • 00:16:14.280 --> 00:16:18.020
  • and you can learn from afar, you know,
  • 00:16:18.020 --> 00:16:20.290
  • how to have grace, and how...
  • 00:16:20.290 --> 00:16:22.090
  • - That's powerful, how you can learn from afar.
  • 00:16:22.090 --> 00:16:24.070
  • I think that's powerful.
  • 00:16:24.070 --> 00:16:25.220
  • I think for some people, they want community maybe,
  • 00:16:25.220 --> 00:16:28.000
  • but they're not, there's not a woman specifically
  • 00:16:28.000 --> 00:16:30.200
  • at their local church that they feel akin to.
  • 00:16:30.200 --> 00:16:32.100
  • - Maybe they can't get out.
  • 00:16:32.100 --> 00:16:34.090
  • - Maybe they can't. Maybe they're not mobile,
  • 00:16:34.090 --> 00:16:36.040
  • and they're not able to, maybe there isn't somebody.
  • 00:16:36.040 --> 00:16:37.260
  • And I think that's so powerful saying
  • 00:16:37.260 --> 00:16:39.090
  • about learning from afar because in today's day and age
  • 00:16:39.090 --> 00:16:41.230
  • we have so much access to watch sermons
  • 00:16:41.230 --> 00:16:44.060
  • from women we look up to,
  • 00:16:44.060 --> 00:16:45.180
  • podcasts from women we look up to,
  • 00:16:45.180 --> 00:16:47.100
  • books from women we look up to,
  • 00:16:47.100 --> 00:16:48.080
  • - Thank you, Jamie.
  • 00:16:48.080 --> 00:16:49.220
  • - For doing all three, thank you for doing all three.
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  • Watch this show, because maybe you can't learn directly
  • 00:16:52.010 --> 00:16:56.200
  • but you don't have to receive something directly
  • 00:16:56.200 --> 00:16:58.080
  • from someone to learn something--
  • 00:16:58.080 --> 00:16:59.260
  • - To learn.
  • 00:16:59.260 --> 00:17:01.190
  • - Some of the people I'm learning from the most right now,
  • 00:17:01.190 --> 00:17:03.140
  • are from people I'm watching online or listening to
  • 00:17:03.140 --> 00:17:04.290
  • on podcasts, you could continuously be a learner,
  • 00:17:04.290 --> 00:17:07.120
  • this community can fight for you,
  • 00:17:07.120 --> 00:17:09.040
  • without you being physically at their location.
  • 00:17:09.040 --> 00:17:11.010
  • - That's good.
  • 00:17:11.010 --> 00:17:12.050
  • - That's powerful. - Awesome.
  • 00:17:12.050 --> 00:17:13.100
  • - And that's access we have today
  • 00:17:13.100 --> 00:17:14.170
  • that people didn't have years ago.
  • 00:17:14.170 --> 00:17:16.020
  • We have less excuses, so we should be accessing that.
  • 00:17:16.020 --> 00:17:18.240
  • - Somethin' else to be grateful for.
  • 00:17:18.240 --> 00:17:20.090
  • - That's right. (chuckles)
  • 00:17:20.090 --> 00:17:21.260
  • - Something else to be very grateful for.
  • 00:17:21.260 --> 00:17:24.070
  • I also think women have, because of things
  • 00:17:24.070 --> 00:17:27.050
  • like Better Together and The Happy Hour,
  • 00:17:27.050 --> 00:17:29.200
  • I think women are becoming more intentional
  • 00:17:29.200 --> 00:17:31.180
  • about going, "How can I help the women behind me
  • 00:17:31.180 --> 00:17:34.180
  • not break their ankle in the same holes I stepped in?"
  • 00:17:34.180 --> 00:17:36.270
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:17:36.270 --> 00:17:38.050
  • - Because we didn't, at least in my era,
  • 00:17:38.050 --> 00:17:40.260
  • I thought to really be focused on Jesus
  • 00:17:40.260 --> 00:17:44.180
  • and to be about the Father's business means,
  • 00:17:44.180 --> 00:17:46.250
  • I marry a pastor, I learn how to play the piano,
  • 00:17:46.250 --> 00:17:49.250
  • or I cross stitch.
  • 00:17:49.250 --> 00:17:51.020
  • I didn't, there weren't too many--
  • 00:17:51.020 --> 00:17:53.030
  • - You didn't have the examples.
  • 00:17:53.030 --> 00:17:54.170
  • - No, I didn't know women who went to seminary,
  • 00:17:54.170 --> 00:17:56.140
  • I didn't know women who were rightly divining the word,
  • 00:17:56.140 --> 00:17:59.120
  • and I was like, okay I just, I wanna be in order in church,
  • 00:17:59.120 --> 00:18:03.170
  • and so I guess I'll just put my head down,
  • 00:18:03.170 --> 00:18:04.240
  • and try to learn how to play the piano
  • 00:18:04.240 --> 00:18:07.000
  • even though I had no musical gifts.
  • 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:08.140
  • And then, now I feel like you've got this whole counsel
  • 00:18:08.140 --> 00:18:12.250
  • of godly women who are goin', "Come on. Come on.
  • 00:18:12.250 --> 00:18:17.020
  • Let's run hard toward Jesus."
  • 00:18:17.020 --> 00:18:19.000
  • In a way that is with the men we love in our lives,
  • 00:18:19.000 --> 00:18:22.150
  • to run in heart toward Jesus,
  • 00:18:22.150 --> 00:18:24.120
  • so that the world around us goes, "Wow."
  • 00:18:24.120 --> 00:18:27.000
  • And where is it in Psalms where it says
  • 00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:28.190
  • that there will be a counsel of women
  • 00:18:28.190 --> 00:18:30.020
  • who brings about revival?
  • 00:18:30.020 --> 00:18:31.160
  • - Oh, I don't know, but you just said that earlier.
  • 00:18:31.160 --> 00:18:33.220
  • - [Jamie] So good all the time. I like that verse.
  • 00:18:33.220 --> 00:18:35.220
  • - Um, yeah I do too.
  • 00:18:35.220 --> 00:18:37.060
  • Again, not women who are strident who hate men.
  • 00:18:38.110 --> 00:18:41.180
  • It's women who go, "Let's use our strengths,
  • 00:18:41.180 --> 00:18:45.030
  • let's come alongside with the body of Christ, the family."
  • 00:18:45.030 --> 00:18:48.270
  • Like you said, local church, global church,
  • 00:18:48.270 --> 00:18:51.030
  • let's do this together, and when I'm weak,
  • 00:18:51.030 --> 00:18:53.280
  • you're gonna pick me up.
  • 00:18:53.280 --> 00:18:55.040
  • - 'Cause God, He needs all of us.
  • 00:18:56.060 --> 00:18:59.060
  • And He's given just like His word says,
  • 00:18:59.060 --> 00:19:01.000
  • we all have different gifts and different talents,
  • 00:19:01.000 --> 00:19:03.160
  • and we're all in different places around the world.
  • 00:19:03.160 --> 00:19:06.090
  • And God has specifically said,
  • 00:19:06.090 --> 00:19:07.260
  • "I'm gonna put you, Lisa in Nashville."
  • 00:19:07.260 --> 00:19:10.070
  • Nashville, California, California, Texas.
  • 00:19:10.070 --> 00:19:12.180
  • "I'm gonna put you here, I'm gonna give you gifts,
  • 00:19:12.180 --> 00:19:14.200
  • and you get to use them."
  • 00:19:14.200 --> 00:19:15.270
  • And so, when we get to look around and say,
  • 00:19:15.270 --> 00:19:17.220
  • well you know cheer other women on,
  • 00:19:17.220 --> 00:19:18.270
  • but also just be grateful.
  • 00:19:18.270 --> 00:19:20.190
  • - Grateful.
  • 00:19:20.190 --> 00:19:21.260
  • - Grateful that we get to do this together
  • 00:19:21.260 --> 00:19:23.190
  • in our local churches and show people Jesus.
  • 00:19:23.190 --> 00:19:26.060
  • - Right. - I mean--
  • 00:19:26.060 --> 00:19:27.060
  • - We're grateful because we're all the sum
  • 00:19:28.150 --> 00:19:31.220
  • of what people poured into us.
  • 00:19:31.220 --> 00:19:33.090
  • - Somebody, yes that's exactly right.
  • 00:19:33.090 --> 00:19:34.230
  • - You know, over the years, when I look at
  • 00:19:34.230 --> 00:19:36.000
  • when I was 17, and when I was 20,
  • 00:19:36.000 --> 00:19:37.230
  • and this person gave me wisdom here,
  • 00:19:37.230 --> 00:19:39.240
  • and this person corrected me here,
  • 00:19:39.240 --> 00:19:41.120
  • and all of that makes us who we are.
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  • You know, and so you have to take out time and be grateful.
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  • Even like we said, even the bad times.
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  • We learned lessons, and you were able to get back up,
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  • and you're stronger than what you were before, so...
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  • - Sometimes I feel like the younger generation,
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  • those of us who haven't lived as long
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  • have more of an inclination towards entitlement.
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  • We are given so many things that other generations
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  • paved roads for. - Right.
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  • - And when we get to reap the benefits
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  • of seeds that other people planted,
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  • sometimes we think we're entitled to all of that fruit.
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  • I do think because so many things are instant for us,
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  • instant photos, instant, I was gonna say,
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  • instant mac and cheese.
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  • Jesus, give me something more profound to say.
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  • (laughing)
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  • - I think that's profound.
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  • - You still have to watch that water boil.
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  • - Like my grandma Shay used to do the rice she had to make
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  • in Hong Kong, and I'm thinkin' like
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  • I just microwave these bags,
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  • there is an inclination towards entitlement,
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  • not because we were born more sinful,
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  • because there was more convenience in our world,
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  • so I don't, I think, I sometimes think that.
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  • That our generation has to work harder
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  • to fight that natural tendency to be entitled
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  • because we've been given so much convenience.
  • 00:20:52.130 --> 00:20:54.130
  • However, I do think it's a choice
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  • because I do see people in older generations
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  • who also, they do not continuously
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  • continue to be grateful.
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  • They will also fall into the same trap.
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  • We're all living in the same generation.
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  • They can fall into the same trap,
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  • and if the younger generation chooses the right role models,
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  • if they look up to the right people,
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  • they're less inclined, if you see the roads
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  • that are paved before you, you will be grateful.
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  • If you are focused on paying attention to it,
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  • so I think it's a choice, we might be inclined one way,
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  • but I believe in the younger generation,
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  • and we can have role models and can be more grateful if we--
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  • - So I believe a lot of that's taught
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  • to that generation. - Mmhmm. I agree.
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  • - Because I even remember, our previous generation,
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  • you know, I remember Papa Crouch.
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  • They dug it out of the ground with their fingernails.
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  • And I remember he said that to me that day.
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  • "Maybe it is good that you guys go to Hollywood
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  • and dig it outta the ground up there,
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  • you know, with your fingernails.
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  • and that dog eat dog world."
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  • Because they, you know,
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  • and we were kinda like all the authority
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  • and no responsibility, back in the day.
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  • - Right.
  • 00:21:59.100 --> 00:22:00.190
  • - And so, that time away was very good for us.
  • 00:22:00.190 --> 00:22:04.060
  • - Right. Mmhm.
  • 00:22:04.060 --> 00:22:05.080
  • - You know where you stand alone,
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  • and that's when you become grateful,
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  • you know and it's kind of forced.
  • 00:22:09.130 --> 00:22:11.120
  • - And that's Christ followers,
  • 00:22:11.120 --> 00:22:12.250
  • 'cause Christ followers, success and humility
  • 00:22:12.250 --> 00:22:14.290
  • are supposed to be hand in hand,
  • 00:22:14.290 --> 00:22:17.060
  • but you don't maintain humility without failure.
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  • - Right.
  • 00:22:20.110 --> 00:22:21.250
  • - And I think our culture says, "Success, success, success."
  • 00:22:21.250 --> 00:22:23.220
  • And I'm like baby you need a little failure
  • 00:22:23.220 --> 00:22:26.000
  • or otherwise you are gonna be insufferable.
  • 00:22:26.000 --> 00:22:28.000
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:22:28.000 --> 00:22:29.140
  • - Because then you go this isn't about my gifts,
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  • this is about God's kindness.
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  • He uses my gifts, but if anything good happens,
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  • it's Him.
  • 00:22:35.060 --> 00:22:36.120
  • - It's because of Him. - That's so true.
  • 00:22:36.120 --> 00:22:37.200
  • - Here's one of the things I want y'all
  • 00:22:37.200 --> 00:22:40.060
  • to help us bring back on trend.
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  • And that is, Paul constantly in the New Testament
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  • writes thank you notes.
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  • He is constantly saying,
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  • "Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you."
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  • And I don't think we necessarily have to have
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  • thank you cards anymore,
  • 00:22:54.250 --> 00:22:57.000
  • but I think we could shift culture
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  • if we would intentionally go to the generation
  • 00:22:59.130 --> 00:23:02.150
  • in front of us and go, "Thank you
  • 00:23:02.150 --> 00:23:04.050
  • for the witness you were to me.
  • 00:23:04.050 --> 00:23:05.130
  • Thank you the way I learned how to pray
  • 00:23:05.130 --> 00:23:06.200
  • because I watched you on your knees."
  • 00:23:06.200 --> 00:23:08.030
  • I think if everybody watching and all of us just said,
  • 00:23:08.030 --> 00:23:10.260
  • I could be intentional about it at least once a month.
  • 00:23:10.260 --> 00:23:13.130
  • I'm gonna write either an email, verbal,
  • 00:23:13.130 --> 00:23:15.250
  • or a literal thank you note
  • 00:23:15.250 --> 00:23:17.090
  • to a saint in my house, in the global church,
  • 00:23:17.090 --> 00:23:20.160
  • and say, "Because of the way I watched you walk
  • 00:23:20.160 --> 00:23:23.120
  • through this, it made me faithful to my husband
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  • or it made me learn how to parent more."
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  • I think we should re-trend thank yous.
  • 00:23:28.180 --> 00:23:31.100
  • - I'm in. (overlapping chatter)
  • 00:23:31.100 --> 00:23:34.150
  • - And I think what we're talkin' about,
  • 00:23:34.150 --> 00:23:36.030
  • I mean I'm so thankful for people
  • 00:23:36.030 --> 00:23:37.050
  • who've walked in front of me
  • 00:23:37.050 --> 00:23:38.210
  • and paved this way, and I'm just like,
  • 00:23:38.210 --> 00:23:40.190
  • "I wanna be like you when I grow up."
  • 00:23:40.190 --> 00:23:42.080
  • But I also, and you're gonna appreciate this,
  • 00:23:42.080 --> 00:23:44.180
  • 'cause you're the young one in this circle,
  • 00:23:44.180 --> 00:23:46.100
  • I look back at the people comin' behind us
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  • and I say, "You guys, I'm proud of you."
  • 00:23:48.090 --> 00:23:50.190
  • - Oh yeah.
  • 00:23:50.190 --> 00:23:52.030
  • - I am cheering you on, and I am saying,
  • 00:23:52.030 --> 00:23:54.120
  • "Come run this race with us." - Absolutely.
  • 00:23:54.120 --> 00:23:56.240
  • - I see good stuff comin' up.
  • 00:23:56.240 --> 00:23:59.240
  • (overlapping chatter)
  • 00:23:59.240 --> 00:24:01.030
  • - Where there was a bunch of young people,
  • 00:24:01.030 --> 00:24:02.180
  • and my question was, "How were they?"
  • 00:24:02.180 --> 00:24:05.040
  • - They were amazing.
  • 00:24:05.040 --> 00:24:06.190
  • I see you Hosanna, and I go, "We're gonna be okay."
  • 00:24:06.190 --> 00:24:09.100
  • Jesus-taries, We're good.
  • 00:24:09.100 --> 00:24:12.170
  • - So I think what I'm hearing
  • 00:24:12.170 --> 00:24:13.150
  • is that we have to be outspoken.
  • 00:24:13.150 --> 00:24:15.260
  • - Outspoken teenagers, like,
  • 00:24:15.260 --> 00:24:17.130
  • "I wanna be a speaker. I'm sure you hear this all the time,
  • 00:24:17.130 --> 00:24:20.020
  • but I wanna be a pastor.
  • 00:24:20.020 --> 00:24:21.100
  • I'm sure you hear this all the time,
  • 00:24:21.100 --> 00:24:22.080
  • but I wanna be a speaker."
  • 00:24:22.080 --> 00:24:23.060
  • I'm like, "Yes, please. Join us.
  • 00:24:23.060 --> 00:24:24.180
  • There is not enough of us.
  • 00:24:24.180 --> 00:24:26.020
  • There is not just room for you, there is a need for you.
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  • Thank you for coming to me. What do you need?
  • 00:24:27.230 --> 00:24:29.220
  • You have a mentor?
  • 00:24:29.220 --> 00:24:30.170
  • Bring over your pastor.
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  • And what do we need?"
  • 00:24:31.120 --> 00:24:32.190
  • I'm thankful for the road paved before,
  • 00:24:32.190 --> 00:24:34.150
  • the roads that are gonna be paved after,
  • 00:24:34.150 --> 00:24:36.060
  • and we have a bride perspective
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  • of the overall bride, the overall church,
  • 00:24:40.240 --> 00:24:43.000
  • then we're able to be grateful
  • 00:24:43.000 --> 00:24:44.060
  • for what's been done, what God is doing,
  • 00:24:44.060 --> 00:24:45.230
  • what he's going to do.
  • 00:24:45.230 --> 00:24:46.270
  • - That's right.
  • 00:24:46.270 --> 00:24:48.030
  • - That's more of a heavenly perspective.
  • 00:24:48.030 --> 00:24:49.010
  • - We're all on the same team.
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  • - Amen. Cheers to you.
  • 00:24:50.130 --> 00:24:52.080
  • (cheering)
  • 00:24:53.250 --> 00:24:56.030
  • - I think as believers,
  • 00:24:56.030 --> 00:24:57.120
  • when we live out a life of gratitude,
  • 00:24:57.120 --> 00:24:59.250
  • that people will come to know Jesus.
  • 00:24:59.250 --> 00:25:02.140
  • Why? Because the bible says,
  • 00:25:02.140 --> 00:25:04.160
  • "With loving kindness, I draw men unto me."
  • 00:25:04.160 --> 00:25:07.200
  • Okay? So it's through our thankfulness, our kindness,
  • 00:25:09.030 --> 00:25:12.060
  • our love, that people will come to know who Jesus is.
  • 00:25:12.060 --> 00:25:16.220
  • Let's pray.
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  • Father God I pray that the lost will
  • 00:25:18.000 --> 00:25:20.170
  • be able to see who you are
  • 00:25:22.030 --> 00:25:24.150
  • through the love that we share,
  • 00:25:24.150 --> 00:25:26.000
  • through the love that we show to you,
  • 00:25:26.000 --> 00:25:28.020
  • and the love that we show to one another.
  • 00:25:28.020 --> 00:25:30.010
  • Let us live a life of gratitude
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  • so that the eyes of people will be opened
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  • to your love.
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  • In Jesus' name we pray, Amen.
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  • - Practical ways that we can be grateful women,
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  • is we can say things out loud.
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  • We can be grateful verbally in front of our children,
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  • in front of our spouses, in front of our coworkers.
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  • I also think we need to be telling people
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  • that we're grateful for them.
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  • Looking people in the eyes and saying,
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  • "Thank you for what you've done for me today."
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  • And then another one that I think is the most important
  • 00:26:09.130 --> 00:26:11.160
  • is that we start our day, every day,
  • 00:26:11.160 --> 00:26:13.180
  • giving thanks to God for what He's given us
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  • and it sets our hearts upon Him for the rest of the day.
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  • - I just got kinda overwhelmed
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  • 'cause I love Eva so much,
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  • and I got real teary, and I said,
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  • "I hate that chair."
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  • And she said, "Oh, Lisa.
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  • She said, "You hate this chair 'cause you love me.
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  • But you need to know I don't hate this chair anymore.
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  • I don't even just tolerate this chair anymore.
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  • I'm grateful to this chair.
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