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March 2, 2020
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Can we mess up God's plan for our lives? Have you ever tried to "help God" to get to your destination faster? Let's talk about delay; denial; and trusting a sovereign God! | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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God's Plan | Better Together

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  • - What is God's plan
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  • for our lives?
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  • Can we mess up so bad,
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  • that he cancelshis plans for us?
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  • Today, we're digginginto God's purpose
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  • and the process.
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  • Come join us.
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  • (inspirational music)
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  • - So have you all thought God
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  • took too long toanswer something
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  • and you
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Are we voting?
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  • - And, but this is the thing,
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  • and you felt like youhad to help him out?
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  • - Oh yeah
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  • - Yes - Oh yes
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  • - Like, you knewyou wanted something
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  • and you knew youwere entitled to it,
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  • or you knew youwere gonna get it
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  • but yet it was taking too long,
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  • so you
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  • - Gonna help Jesus
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  • - Yeah, you had to help Jesus
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Kind of how Sarahhelped Abraham with Hagar?
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  • Like,
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  • - Absolutely!
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  • But not that deep though!
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  • (laughter)
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  • But, almost!
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  • Really, because like,
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  • I knew I was supposedto get married,
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  • but yet I didn't waituntil the proper time
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  • to get married.
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  • So I eloped.
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  • I eloped, nobody knewuntil after what?
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  • 34 years of being married.
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  • - Wow!
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  • - I told everybody then,
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  • but, I knew was God for
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  • - Wait! Wait! Wait!
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  • Wait! Wait! Wait! Wait a minute!
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  • So, your parentsdidn't know that you?
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  • - No, not until after Iwas married for 34 years.
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  • - What did they think happened?
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  • So you, they hada wedding for you
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  • and they thought it wasthe real one. - Yes.
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  • They thought itwas the real one!
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  • - Wow!
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  • - So I went to theJustice of the Peace
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  • - You sneaky thing
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  • (laughter)
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  • - No! (inaudible)
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  • - I hope my young adultsare not listening to this
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  • (laughter)
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  • - You can't, that'sagainst the law
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  • (laughter)
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  • - It was so wrong!
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  • I was 20.
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  • - Okay
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  • - I was 20 and he was21 or 22, he was 22.
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  • And you know wewanted to live right.
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  • We wanted to do things right
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  • and he talked me into it.
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  • - You wanted to bedoing the wild thing
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  • - Yes, yes
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  • (laughter)
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  • I didn't wanna wait
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  • - I get it
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  • - I didn't wanna haveto keep repenting
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  • (laughter)
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  • and I was determined,
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  • (laughter)
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  • that I was gon doit right, you know.
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  • And he, I knew he wascalled into ministry,
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  • I knew God hadcalled him to pastor,
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  • because he asked mebefore we got married
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  • did I believe that Icould be a pastor's wife.
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  • And I'm saying sure, Imean, they don't do much.
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  • (laughter)
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  • Well, the ones
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  • - Oh my gosh
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  • - [Dee-Dee] That'swhat I thought
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Right - Exactly
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  • So that's what I thought,
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  • and so I'm like, yeahwe could do this.
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  • But after getting married,
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  • the first seven or eightyears of our relationship,
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  • was so horrible, you know,
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  • you begin to lookback over the process
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  • that you took to get in it.
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  • Like, "God did I miss you?"
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  • - Right
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  • - Wow, okay
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  • - "Did I mess things up?"
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  • And "why is thissuffering going on?"
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  • "Is it because I sinned?"
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  • You know, because, even thoughyou didn't outright lie,
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  • deception is a lie,
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  • because I deceived so manyto make them believe that,
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  • okay the weddingwas an actual date.
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  • And so you know I had to goback and look over some things
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  • and I see now, that okay,I did do it out of time.
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  • But God's desire is not for us
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  • to have to go through to get to.
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  • And a lot of times, I,
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  • I mean, I know some people teach
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  • like the suffering to victory
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  • and I know we go through things
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  • because the Bible talks about,
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  • because we're herein this Earth,
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  • we're gonna havetrials and tribulations
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  • - Yeah
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  • - Right
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  • - But, that was something to me,
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  • that I bought on myself.
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  • - Ah, yes
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  • - And I've realizedthat after all of that
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  • I just had to repent,get myself back on track,
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  • and now see the victoryin all of my decisions.
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  • And so now, I realizedthat being a pastor's wife
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  • is more than justsitting on the second row
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  • (laughter)
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  • and smiling and you know,doing church announcements
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  • So it didn't mess upwhat God called me to do,
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  • but I felt like,
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  • maybe I did.
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  • - Maybe, there was somethingin the waiting for you.
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  • - It was something
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  • - That maybe didn'thappen at that time.
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  • - I have made so many dumb
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  • and bad decisions, that have,
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  • really got me off of thepath of God, if you will.
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  • But I then made decisions
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  • to get me backwhere I need to be.
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  • But don't let my choices andthings that I've gone through
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  • speak to you and letyou think that it's okay
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  • for you to make bad choices,so you'll have to go through
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  • whatever you're going through.
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  • No, you don't have to gothrough anything like that
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  • to get to the promises of God.
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  • The promises of God,are the promises of God.
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  • And if we make a decisionsto walk by faith,
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  • knowing that we winin every situation.
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  • We win.
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  • - So you didn't sayanything for 34 years.
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  • - For 34 years - So,what made you finally
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  • - Yeah
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  • - Well,
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  • - Say something
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  • - Mike actually said something,
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  • it was something,
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  • because I alwayscelebrated June 8th,
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  • that was our wedding date.
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  • But April the 4th wasour actual wedding date.
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  • - Wow
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  • - The year prior.
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  • - Oooh! A year before? - Wow!
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  • - Yeah, the year prior. - Thisjust gets better and better!
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  • (laughter)
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  • - And I stayed athome with my mom
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  • - Wow
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  • - And we bought alittle townhouse
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  • and he stayed in thetownhouse, you know.
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  • And nobody ever knew,
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  • I never spent the night there,
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  • I never stayed, you knowI always came back home.
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  • But, he would celebratehaving a Christmas in April
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  • and it never dawned on me,
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  • that he was celebratingour anniversary, - Wow
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  • - Because I had becomeso deceived myself,
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  • - That you believed
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  • - That June the 8th wasour actual anniversary.
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  • I was like, "oh,this is so sweet,
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  • "you're doing this".
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  • It was like, "no, this wasour actual anniversary".
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  • So he said, ofcourse two years ago,
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  • a couple of years ago,
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  • that he wantedall of his credit.
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  • And so he invited mymom and my sisters,
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  • and kids andeverybody in the room
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  • on my Christmas in April.
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  • (laughter)
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  • And he said, "I havesomething that I wanna share."
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  • - Ding, ding, ding,ding, ding , ding
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  • - Oh my gosh
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  • - And I'm saying, "Oh,are we doing that now?
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  • "Is that what we're doing?"
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  • - Wow
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  • - And my mother lookedat him and said,
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  • "Ya nasty thing!"
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  • (laughter)
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  • But it was fun,nobody, you know,
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  • could, it wasn't abad thing, you know,
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  • it wasn't like"Ah, look down on".
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  • But, it was just interesting,he decided to tell everybody
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  • I don't know if, hisparents never knew.
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  • Well his mom never knew, sothat's, that's what we did,
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  • we just decided that wewould tell everybody then.
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  • - So if you had to do it now,
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  • would you have done that?
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  • - No.
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  • - I would've waited.
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  • I would've been more prepared,
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  • I wasn't mentallyprepared to be a wife.
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  • I wasn't.
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  • I didn't understand whatit all meant, you know.
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  • I came out of a home that wasquite dysfunctional to me,
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  • I mean being in it, Ithought it was perfect.
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  • This is what marriageis, you know,
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  • this is how we act.
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  • But I realized afterI said, "I do",
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  • that wasn't a good way,
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  • because I bought who Iwas into my relationship.
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  • And he's come from adifferent environment totally.
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  • He come from a Christian home.
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  • And so when we got together,
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  • we both were tryingto break each other,
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  • to make each other bewhat we saw coming up.
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  • - Yeah
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  • - Right
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  • - You know, so Iwasn't, you know,
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  • ready for that.
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  • But now it's amazing howGod can use my testimony
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  • to hold it up inhis hand and say,
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  • "This is what I intendedfor marriage to look like."
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  • And so I think it'sa powerful testimony,
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  • to be able to use yourlife and your story,
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  • you know, to be ablessing to somebody else
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  • to say "Don't do this!"
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  • - Yeah
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  • - Or, "Do this."
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  • - It can be uncomfortableto wait on God,
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  • it can be unnervingto wait on God,
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  • and you're waitingfor that breakthrough
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  • or you're waiting forthat answered prayer
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  • and, and I think, wereally learn patience
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  • in the process of the waiting.
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  • And that we, it's whatour faith is tested,
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  • you know, in the wilderness,
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  • in the waiting, in the seasons
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  • where we're waiting onthe answered prayers,
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  • we're waiting forthe open doors,
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  • or we feel like God'sasking us to do something,
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  • but it hasn't happened yet.
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  • And, I've learned, youknow, just to be patient
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  • in those seasons andpatient in those times.
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  • And to not give up on God
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  • and to not walk away from God.
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  • But to lean in and to keep,
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  • knocking and to keep searching
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  • and to keep seeking and to keeplooking for Him everywhere.
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  • - So I know, you'veprobably made some decisions
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  • that you tried to help God out.
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  • - Oh, no I, I've prettymuch have lived perfectly.
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  • - I know
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  • (laughter)
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  • - I have my entire life
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  • - I know, I have no ideawhat you're talking about
  • 00:08:55.891 --> 00:08:56.559
  • - Mm hmm, I know
  • 00:08:56.559 --> 00:08:57.226
  • - Yeah, I
  • 00:08:57.226 --> 00:08:58.027
  • when I was at, myfirst year in college,
  • 00:08:59.462 --> 00:09:02.732
  • I was Pre-Med, headedto medical school.
  • 00:09:02.732 --> 00:09:05.101
  • So it's this intense pressureand all these classes,
  • 00:09:05.101 --> 00:09:08.638
  • and so the first semestermade the Dean's list,
  • 00:09:08.638 --> 00:09:11.540
  • was doing great, and you know,
  • 00:09:11.540 --> 00:09:13.175
  • taking all these science classes
  • 00:09:13.175 --> 00:09:14.577
  • and, then the next semester,now it gets brutal,
  • 00:09:14.577 --> 00:09:17.713
  • because they're weeding,they're weeding people out.
  • 00:09:17.713 --> 00:09:19.515
  • - Right
  • 00:09:19.515 --> 00:09:20.449
  • - You know, of this program and,
  • 00:09:20.449 --> 00:09:22.084
  • so, I was the straight A girl.
  • 00:09:22.084 --> 00:09:24.887
  • And, I get a test back,you know, from a professor.
  • 00:09:24.887 --> 00:09:29.125
  • And it was not an A,
  • 00:09:29.125 --> 00:09:30.793
  • It may have been a B- or C,
  • 00:09:31.894 --> 00:09:33.129
  • I don't know whatit was actually,
  • 00:09:33.129 --> 00:09:34.196
  • but it wasn't an A.
  • 00:09:34.196 --> 00:09:35.464
  • And I was soirritated, I looked at,
  • 00:09:35.464 --> 00:09:37.633
  • and it was likea stupid mistake.
  • 00:09:37.633 --> 00:09:39.502
  • It was like justone diagram wrong,
  • 00:09:39.502 --> 00:09:41.437
  • and I was so angry,that, at myself,
  • 00:09:41.437 --> 00:09:43.873
  • that I'd done that,
  • 00:09:43.873 --> 00:09:45.074
  • so I just took an eraserand I made it right.
  • 00:09:45.074 --> 00:09:47.043
  • Now they had this program,
  • 00:09:47.043 --> 00:09:48.544
  • where you could submityour test to be re-graded,
  • 00:09:48.544 --> 00:09:51.547
  • if you thought it'd be,it had been done unfairly.
  • 00:09:51.547 --> 00:09:54.316
  • And so, I just submitted it,
  • 00:09:54.316 --> 00:09:56.185
  • after I had a whatwe called, cheated.
  • 00:09:56.185 --> 00:09:58.287
  • So I submitted itto be re-graded.
  • 00:09:58.287 --> 00:10:00.289
  • Now, unbeknownst to me,
  • 00:10:00.289 --> 00:10:02.191
  • they randomly took tests andphotocopied the originals
  • 00:10:03.626 --> 00:10:07.329
  • (gasp)
  • 00:10:07.329 --> 00:10:08.364
  • - Wow
  • 00:10:08.364 --> 00:10:09.498
  • - So of the hundredsof students,
  • 00:10:09.498 --> 00:10:10.299
  • they just took a few,
  • 00:10:10.299 --> 00:10:11.467
  • I happened to be
  • 00:10:11.467 --> 00:10:12.802
  • - The one they selected
  • 00:10:12.802 --> 00:10:14.303
  • - One of the fewthat they selected.
  • 00:10:14.303 --> 00:10:15.604
  • So after class the next week,
  • 00:10:15.604 --> 00:10:17.106
  • the professor callsme to his office,
  • 00:10:17.106 --> 00:10:19.575
  • and I fully get busted.
  • 00:10:19.575 --> 00:10:20.843
  • - Wow
  • 00:10:20.843 --> 00:10:22.078
  • - And it's a very bigdeal at this school,
  • 00:10:22.078 --> 00:10:23.245
  • this is not allowed,
  • 00:10:23.245 --> 00:10:24.380
  • - Right,
  • 00:10:24.380 --> 00:10:25.514
  • - And so, theycould've expelled me.
  • 00:10:25.514 --> 00:10:26.515
  • - Not you.
  • 00:10:26.515 --> 00:10:27.450
  • Thought you were so perfect
  • 00:10:27.450 --> 00:10:28.718
  • - Yeah, it's a shock.
  • 00:10:28.718 --> 00:10:30.219
  • - I know
  • 00:10:30.219 --> 00:10:31.053
  • - And, so the Dean who,
  • 00:10:31.053 --> 00:10:32.988
  • happened to like me,stood up on my behalf.
  • 00:10:32.988 --> 00:10:35.124
  • And says, "No we'llgive her another shot."
  • 00:10:35.124 --> 00:10:36.992
  • But that, that was areal wake-up call for me,
  • 00:10:36.992 --> 00:10:39.962
  • that I felt thispressure, right,
  • 00:10:39.962 --> 00:10:43.299
  • that I had to beperfect, to be loved.
  • 00:10:43.299 --> 00:10:46.902
  • I had to be perfect to succeed.
  • 00:10:46.902 --> 00:10:50.272
  • And so I feel like
  • 00:10:50.272 --> 00:10:51.273
  • for me, that was me you know,
  • 00:10:51.273 --> 00:10:53.175
  • trying to speed up some process.
  • 00:10:53.175 --> 00:10:54.877
  • And so, you know, looking back
  • 00:10:54.877 --> 00:10:56.545
  • it's embarrassing I did that,
  • 00:10:56.545 --> 00:10:58.280
  • it was ridiculous,
  • 00:10:58.280 --> 00:10:59.548
  • but I learned somethings about who I am.
  • 00:10:59.548 --> 00:11:03.285
  • You know, that I,
  • 00:11:03.285 --> 00:11:04.754
  • that was the first steptoward me being comfortable,
  • 00:11:04.754 --> 00:11:07.690
  • you know, flaws and all.
  • 00:11:07.690 --> 00:11:09.658
  • - Yeah
  • 00:11:09.658 --> 00:11:10.893
  • - I don't have toget straight A's
  • 00:11:10.893 --> 00:11:11.894
  • to actually be successful.
  • 00:11:11.894 --> 00:11:13.696
  • That God's gonna loveme, even if I don't.
  • 00:11:13.696 --> 00:11:14.964
  • - Yeah
  • 00:11:14.964 --> 00:11:16.165
  • - And so, then inthat particular class,
  • 00:11:16.165 --> 00:11:18.300
  • they just gave me a D
  • 00:11:18.300 --> 00:11:19.802
  • because they weren'tgonna give you any option.
  • 00:11:19.802 --> 00:11:21.370
  • So that was a shocking - Right
  • 00:11:21.370 --> 00:11:22.872
  • - I'd rather have a Dthan be expelled, right?
  • 00:11:22.872 --> 00:11:24.974
  • - Yeah,
  • 00:11:24.974 --> 00:11:25.808
  • Amen, amen.
  • 00:11:25.808 --> 00:11:27.042
  • So, so then I did youknow begin to work back
  • 00:11:27.042 --> 00:11:28.511
  • toward getting, you know,whatever to the level I wanted
  • 00:11:28.511 --> 00:11:31.881
  • to be in college, but itjust was a good thing for me
  • 00:11:31.881 --> 00:11:35.317
  • to have become awareof as a 19 year old.
  • 00:11:35.317 --> 00:11:37.853
  • - Yeah,
  • 00:11:37.853 --> 00:11:38.687
  • - Right?
  • 00:11:38.687 --> 00:11:40.122
  • 18 year old, so I wasn'ttrying to figure it out at 52.
  • 00:11:40.122 --> 00:11:42.391
  • Right?
  • 00:11:42.391 --> 00:11:43.559
  • - Yeah, yeah.
  • 00:11:43.559 --> 00:11:44.527
  • - So I could start that
  • 00:11:44.527 --> 00:11:45.661
  • - So, God was gracious,
  • 00:11:45.661 --> 00:11:46.629
  • - He was incredibly gracious.
  • 00:11:46.629 --> 00:11:48.330
  • We all make mistakes.
  • 00:11:48.330 --> 00:11:49.799
  • And I talked about, youknow, just the mistake I made
  • 00:11:49.799 --> 00:11:53.302
  • in that, that test at school
  • 00:11:53.302 --> 00:11:55.571
  • and we all make mistakes
  • 00:11:55.571 --> 00:11:57.540
  • and we'll make decisions
  • 00:11:59.341 --> 00:12:00.576
  • that aren't the best.
  • 00:12:00.576 --> 00:12:02.311
  • But what I believe is if we
  • 00:12:03.946 --> 00:12:05.748
  • fully put our trust inthe faithfulness of God
  • 00:12:05.748 --> 00:12:09.985
  • and learn to make differentdecisions along the way,
  • 00:12:09.985 --> 00:12:14.323
  • then his plan forus it's (mumbling)
  • 00:12:15.524 --> 00:12:18.861
  • He says his gifts and callingsare without repentance.
  • 00:12:18.861 --> 00:12:20.696
  • His plan for us ishis plan for us.
  • 00:12:20.696 --> 00:12:23.032
  • And things might get delayed,
  • 00:12:23.032 --> 00:12:25.034
  • or you know, side tracked,
  • 00:12:25.034 --> 00:12:27.570
  • but if we put ourtrust in him and,
  • 00:12:27.570 --> 00:12:30.506
  • and trust that he isfaithful and humble ourselves
  • 00:12:31.807 --> 00:12:33.976
  • before his direction andlet him direct our steps,
  • 00:12:33.976 --> 00:12:38.214
  • then he'll get uswhere we need to get.
  • 00:12:38.214 --> 00:12:41.884
  • I just think so manytimes I've tried to,
  • 00:12:41.884 --> 00:12:45.087
  • you know, come upwith my own plan.
  • 00:12:45.087 --> 00:12:46.789
  • And that doesn'talways work out.
  • 00:12:46.789 --> 00:12:48.357
  • It's better to lethim direct our steps.
  • 00:12:48.357 --> 00:12:51.861
  • So I know there'ssome of you watching
  • 00:12:51.861 --> 00:12:53.462
  • and you've made mistakes,maybe it was one like I did
  • 00:12:53.462 --> 00:12:55.731
  • or maybe you married somebodyyou know you shouldn't have,
  • 00:12:55.731 --> 00:12:59.335
  • or said somethingthat you shouldn't,
  • 00:12:59.335 --> 00:13:02.071
  • or have dealt with an addiction,
  • 00:13:02.071 --> 00:13:04.707
  • or betrayed somebody,you've made mistakes.
  • 00:13:04.707 --> 00:13:07.977
  • And it's so easy.
  • 00:13:07.977 --> 00:13:09.378
  • On one hand toget back on track,
  • 00:13:10.512 --> 00:13:11.981
  • you just ask for forgiveness.
  • 00:13:11.981 --> 00:13:14.950
  • And then you're forgiven.
  • 00:13:14.950 --> 00:13:16.452
  • And you take the next stepon the journey with God,
  • 00:13:16.452 --> 00:13:19.655
  • and he'll be faithfulto meet you there.
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  • - That's what you were talkingabout the faithfulness of God
  • 00:13:43.746 --> 00:13:46.248
  • how we love this topic.
  • 00:13:46.248 --> 00:13:48.050
  • - It's my favorite topic,
  • 00:13:48.050 --> 00:13:50.185
  • the sovereignty of Godthat God's got this.
  • 00:13:50.185 --> 00:13:53.589
  • You know, and I thinkall week we're just gonna
  • 00:13:53.589 --> 00:13:57.126
  • hear the testimonies nomatter what we go through.
  • 00:13:57.126 --> 00:14:00.296
  • The trials and the tribulationsbecause we all have them
  • 00:14:00.296 --> 00:14:03.632
  • and trying to make thingsand trying to help God.
  • 00:14:03.632 --> 00:14:07.136
  • You know, I think God, wealways hear about people saying,
  • 00:14:07.136 --> 00:14:09.872
  • Well, God showed up atthe you know, 11:59.
  • 00:14:09.872 --> 00:14:13.709
  • Well, I think he showedup once you finally said,
  • 00:14:13.709 --> 00:14:16.679
  • "I'm sorry I can't do it"
  • 00:14:16.679 --> 00:14:17.880
  • - Yeah, I need you.
  • 00:14:17.880 --> 00:14:19.581
  • - Yeah, yeah, I need you
  • 00:14:19.581 --> 00:14:21.984
  • - In Matthew five youknow, the beginning
  • 00:14:21.984 --> 00:14:24.286
  • of the Sermon on the Mount,all the blessed stuff
  • 00:14:24.286 --> 00:14:26.588
  • when he begins,"Blessed are you",
  • 00:14:26.588 --> 00:14:28.090
  • when the messagetranslation it's,
  • 00:14:28.090 --> 00:14:29.591
  • "Blessed are you when you'reat the end of your rope?"
  • 00:14:29.591 --> 00:14:31.126
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:14:31.126 --> 00:14:32.361
  • - Because that's whenyou basically you know,
  • 00:14:32.361 --> 00:14:33.462
  • - Surrender
  • 00:14:33.462 --> 00:14:34.296
  • - You surrender - Yeah,
  • 00:14:34.296 --> 00:14:35.764
  • - You realize God's the onlyone who you can get you,
  • 00:14:35.764 --> 00:14:37.266
  • and so I think that's kindof the place where I got to.
  • 00:14:37.266 --> 00:14:38.701
  • Like, I tried somuch I could do.
  • 00:14:38.701 --> 00:14:40.669
  • - Yeah
  • 00:14:40.669 --> 00:14:42.137
  • - And God says, "would youlike me to take it from here?"
  • 00:14:42.137 --> 00:14:43.072
  • - Yeah, so good.
  • 00:14:43.072 --> 00:14:44.573
  • - So walk with me and learnthe unforced rhythms of grace,
  • 00:14:44.573 --> 00:14:46.608
  • right, walk with meand I'll be with you.
  • 00:14:46.608 --> 00:14:48.477
  • And, you know, sothat's kind of been,
  • 00:14:48.477 --> 00:14:50.346
  • you know, my experience.
  • 00:14:50.346 --> 00:14:51.180
  • I can.
  • 00:14:51.180 --> 00:14:52.381
  • I think the thingsI've learned about me,
  • 00:14:52.381 --> 00:14:53.749
  • I'm really good atdoing and being,
  • 00:14:53.749 --> 00:14:55.818
  • like doing andmaking things happen
  • 00:14:55.818 --> 00:14:57.019
  • and not alwaysgood at just being
  • 00:14:57.019 --> 00:15:00.155
  • - [All] Yeah
  • 00:15:00.155 --> 00:15:00.923
  • - Right?
  • 00:15:00.923 --> 00:15:02.458
  • So I've had that, that's to mebeen my journey over the last
  • 00:15:02.458 --> 00:15:03.959
  • few decades, as long asyou be a better being-er.
  • 00:15:03.959 --> 00:15:06.261
  • It is never easy to wait.
  • 00:15:06.261 --> 00:15:08.364
  • We're terrible wait, waiterers.
  • 00:15:09.698 --> 00:15:12.735
  • We're terrible.
  • 00:15:12.735 --> 00:15:14.269
  • You know, when our great,great, great, great, great
  • 00:15:14.269 --> 00:15:17.039
  • grandparents won a dinner, theyhad to catch it and kill it
  • 00:15:17.039 --> 00:15:20.876
  • and then cook it over a fire.
  • 00:15:20.876 --> 00:15:23.112
  • I mean, these tookdays, took all day.
  • 00:15:23.112 --> 00:15:25.514
  • Right?
  • 00:15:25.514 --> 00:15:27.049
  • And then the oven and then wewould, that was a couple hours
  • 00:15:27.049 --> 00:15:29.118
  • and then now there's a microwavethat we pace in front of,
  • 00:15:29.118 --> 00:15:31.620
  • you know, "why is it takinglonger than 20 seconds?"
  • 00:15:31.620 --> 00:15:34.356
  • Right, we're impatient.
  • 00:15:34.356 --> 00:15:35.624
  • None of us like towait for anything.
  • 00:15:35.624 --> 00:15:37.760
  • And I just thinkthat's a problem.
  • 00:15:37.760 --> 00:15:40.629
  • Because God is notin a hurry at all.
  • 00:15:40.629 --> 00:15:43.766
  • He's not late, buthe's not in a hurry.
  • 00:15:43.766 --> 00:15:46.769
  • And so I have had to develop
  • 00:15:46.769 --> 00:15:49.104
  • just the patience totrust that his timing
  • 00:15:51.440 --> 00:15:54.143
  • is better than mine.
  • 00:15:54.143 --> 00:15:55.644
  • And I'm not evensaying that's easy
  • 00:15:55.644 --> 00:15:57.546
  • because I alwaysthink he's late.
  • 00:15:57.546 --> 00:16:00.282
  • But I am doing my bestto be a better waiterer.
  • 00:16:01.450 --> 00:16:05.320
  • Somebody who's trustGod that if it's,
  • 00:16:06.722 --> 00:16:08.624
  • if I'm not seeingwhat I want right now,
  • 00:16:08.624 --> 00:16:11.160
  • that I'm going to trust himthat his timing is good,
  • 00:16:11.160 --> 00:16:14.129
  • and be at peace with that.
  • 00:16:14.129 --> 00:16:16.298
  • So can I just encourageyou with that?
  • 00:16:17.566 --> 00:16:19.435
  • I don't know whatyou're waiting on.
  • 00:16:19.435 --> 00:16:22.137
  • And if there's thingsyou need to do,
  • 00:16:22.137 --> 00:16:23.372
  • like if you're waitingon a great job,
  • 00:16:23.372 --> 00:16:25.207
  • but you haven't sentout any applications,
  • 00:16:25.207 --> 00:16:27.009
  • then you need to sendout applications.
  • 00:16:27.009 --> 00:16:29.445
  • Right?
  • 00:16:29.445 --> 00:16:30.379
  • But then once you've done that,
  • 00:16:30.379 --> 00:16:32.481
  • Bible says, once you'vedone it all then just stand.
  • 00:16:32.481 --> 00:16:34.850
  • And this is the waiting part.
  • 00:16:34.850 --> 00:16:36.685
  • And it's expected,
  • 00:16:36.685 --> 00:16:38.353
  • the word in the Bible,it talks about wait,
  • 00:16:38.353 --> 00:16:40.289
  • it's not just likewaiting for a bus.
  • 00:16:40.289 --> 00:16:42.257
  • It's waiting, expecting.
  • 00:16:42.257 --> 00:16:44.560
  • So are you listening?
  • 00:16:44.560 --> 00:16:45.594
  • Are you expecting?
  • 00:16:45.594 --> 00:16:47.096
  • Are your senses tuned to whatyou know might be happening?
  • 00:16:48.730 --> 00:16:51.633
  • So it's not just,it's not casual.
  • 00:16:51.633 --> 00:16:53.168
  • It's actually an active stance.
  • 00:16:53.168 --> 00:16:54.970
  • The waiting is an active.
  • 00:16:54.970 --> 00:16:56.772
  • So if I could justencourage you,
  • 00:16:56.772 --> 00:16:58.040
  • I don't know whatyou're waiting on,
  • 00:16:58.040 --> 00:16:58.974
  • but just be active in that,
  • 00:16:58.974 --> 00:17:00.576
  • keep your eyes openand your ears open
  • 00:17:00.576 --> 00:17:03.178
  • for what God might be doing.
  • 00:17:03.178 --> 00:17:05.347
  • - For me, as a parent,
  • 00:17:05.347 --> 00:17:06.882
  • I have second guessed somany decisions, you know,
  • 00:17:06.882 --> 00:17:09.985
  • if I had done this differently,
  • 00:17:09.985 --> 00:17:11.920
  • and my children are wonderful,
  • 00:17:11.920 --> 00:17:13.956
  • love the Lord and all that,
  • 00:17:13.956 --> 00:17:14.790
  • - They're perfect.
  • 00:17:14.790 --> 00:17:16.258
  • - Yeah, but even justdecisions with schooling,
  • 00:17:16.258 --> 00:17:17.626
  • oh, I homeschool thisperiod and I'd send them
  • 00:17:17.626 --> 00:17:19.394
  • to public school or Christianschool and just different.
  • 00:17:19.394 --> 00:17:22.631
  • I mean, there are a milliondecisions we make as parents.
  • 00:17:22.631 --> 00:17:25.100
  • And man, "did I dothe right thing?
  • 00:17:25.100 --> 00:17:27.035
  • "Did I mess this up?"
  • 00:17:27.035 --> 00:17:28.036
  • And God is so good.
  • 00:17:28.036 --> 00:17:29.805
  • - Yes he is
  • 00:17:29.805 --> 00:17:31.273
  • - That he takes all ofit and makes a beautiful,
  • 00:17:31.273 --> 00:17:34.076
  • you know, painting a beautifulmasterpiece out of it all.
  • 00:17:34.076 --> 00:17:37.613
  • But yeah.
  • 00:17:37.613 --> 00:17:38.447
  • - Kayla has little ones overthere that she's braising.
  • 00:17:39.882 --> 00:17:42.618
  • - I do.
  • 00:17:42.618 --> 00:17:43.785
  • - I'm sure she'smade a few decisions.
  • 00:17:43.785 --> 00:17:45.921
  • She probably could share
  • 00:17:45.921 --> 00:17:47.990
  • - Yeah, being patientin the process
  • 00:17:47.990 --> 00:17:51.493
  • and waiting on God andGod's timing and being a mom
  • 00:17:51.493 --> 00:17:55.030
  • and it's the everyday grueling,
  • 00:17:55.030 --> 00:17:57.900
  • you know, and I'ma single mom now,
  • 00:17:57.900 --> 00:17:59.668
  • for the last year and a half
  • 00:17:59.668 --> 00:18:01.136
  • and raising these threelittle mighty men on my own.
  • 00:18:01.136 --> 00:18:03.572
  • - Yeah
  • 00:18:03.572 --> 00:18:04.740
  • - And, and I wannafast forward some days,
  • 00:18:04.740 --> 00:18:07.709
  • you know, like this is so hard.
  • 00:18:07.709 --> 00:18:08.877
  • They're three, five and seven,
  • 00:18:08.877 --> 00:18:10.512
  • and I'm like in the trenchesand they're fighting
  • 00:18:10.512 --> 00:18:13.382
  • and wrestling and yelling andcan't they just be at peace
  • 00:18:13.382 --> 00:18:17.352
  • (all talking over each other)
  • 00:18:17.352 --> 00:18:19.555
  • - They have no idea what that is
  • 00:18:19.555 --> 00:18:20.789
  • - Where's the peace andquiet and the coloring
  • 00:18:20.789 --> 00:18:22.291
  • and the playing nicely inlines like nerf battles.
  • 00:18:22.291 --> 00:18:25.994
  • So for me, it's learning tobe patient in the process
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  • and in the season and remindingmyself it's just a season,
  • 00:18:29.565 --> 00:18:33.669
  • and I think so often wedon't like to go through,
  • 00:18:33.669 --> 00:18:36.405
  • we like to go aroundor under or over
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  • and it's like the onlyway through is through
  • 00:18:39.141 --> 00:18:41.243
  • and for me, I'm in the through.
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  • I don't know what's coming,
  • 00:18:43.679 --> 00:18:45.280
  • but I'm in the seasonof motherhood andthe season of life
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  • and it's a lot of waiting on God
  • 00:18:48.116 --> 00:18:50.285
  • and, waiting on his timing totake me to the next season.
  • 00:18:50.285 --> 00:18:54.256
  • - [Deedee] Absolutely.
  • 00:18:54.256 --> 00:18:56.058
  • - There have been timesin my parenting I think,
  • 00:18:56.058 --> 00:18:59.294
  • where I've experiencedthis the most,
  • 00:18:59.294 --> 00:19:00.829
  • where I felt likemaybe I missed God,
  • 00:19:00.829 --> 00:19:03.265
  • maybe I didn't dothe right thing,
  • 00:19:03.265 --> 00:19:05.767
  • didn't do what I wassupposed to do, you know,
  • 00:19:05.767 --> 00:19:09.938
  • with a particular situationregarding one of our children.
  • 00:19:09.938 --> 00:19:13.742
  • But you know, the beautifulthing is that he is, he,
  • 00:19:13.742 --> 00:19:18.747
  • he's able to take anything,any mistakes we may make,
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  • if we miss it.
  • 00:19:22.117 --> 00:19:24.086
  • But our heart is pure, you know,I feel like I've always had
  • 00:19:24.086 --> 00:19:26.922
  • the intention of my hearthas always been pure.
  • 00:19:26.922 --> 00:19:29.891
  • That he,
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  • he works it out anyway.
  • 00:19:31.893 --> 00:19:33.829
  • And I love that about him.
  • 00:19:34.896 --> 00:19:37.065
  • - But you probablythought at 19 years old,
  • 00:19:37.065 --> 00:19:40.369
  • when you cheated on that test,
  • 00:19:40.369 --> 00:19:43.238
  • that you had really messed up so
  • 00:19:43.238 --> 00:19:44.873
  • - Oh, I did.
  • 00:19:44.873 --> 00:19:46.074
  • I felt so guilty likethe shame of that.
  • 00:19:46.074 --> 00:19:48.577
  • - Yeah
  • 00:19:48.577 --> 00:19:49.411
  • - It was horrible.
  • 00:19:49.411 --> 00:19:50.912
  • And I know, compared somepeople would hear that,
  • 00:19:50.912 --> 00:19:52.381
  • and they go, "yo, you don'tknow mine was much worse
  • 00:19:52.381 --> 00:19:54.049
  • "the things I did", but
  • 00:19:54.049 --> 00:19:55.751
  • - It's relative.
  • 00:19:55.751 --> 00:19:57.819
  • So for me, oh my gosh,the shame I carried
  • 00:19:57.819 --> 00:20:00.689
  • for that was just,(groans) you know.
  • 00:20:00.689 --> 00:20:04.192
  • - So I guess my questionis, I think a lot of people
  • 00:20:04.192 --> 00:20:08.530
  • feel that I have messedup so bad that the destiny
  • 00:20:09.965 --> 00:20:13.702
  • that I felt that I used to have,
  • 00:20:13.702 --> 00:20:17.005
  • that maybe I could have done,
  • 00:20:17.005 --> 00:20:19.308
  • that I should have done,
  • 00:20:19.308 --> 00:20:22.077
  • the things I shouldhave done for God,
  • 00:20:22.077 --> 00:20:24.079
  • maybe I haven't realized,because I missed that.
  • 00:20:24.079 --> 00:20:26.615
  • Do you think we canactually happen?
  • 00:20:26.615 --> 00:20:28.150
  • - Oh, I mean, I felt likethat even after, you know,
  • 00:20:28.150 --> 00:20:31.687
  • making a decision to justelope and things were so bad,
  • 00:20:31.687 --> 00:20:35.624
  • I thought I had justmessed up everything,
  • 00:20:35.624 --> 00:20:37.959
  • for you know him, his pastoring.
  • 00:20:37.959 --> 00:20:40.529
  • And where thiswas gonna lead us,
  • 00:20:40.529 --> 00:20:42.864
  • because I begin to getexposed to other ministries
  • 00:20:42.864 --> 00:20:45.300
  • and I saw that pastorswives did much more
  • 00:20:45.300 --> 00:20:48.036
  • than what I believed thatthey did in the beginning.
  • 00:20:48.036 --> 00:20:50.839
  • And I thought Ihad just missed it,
  • 00:20:50.839 --> 00:20:53.842
  • that it was justway too late for me,
  • 00:20:53.842 --> 00:20:56.511
  • but again, because the planof God is the plan of God.
  • 00:20:56.511 --> 00:21:00.349
  • You know, God went tothe end of our life,
  • 00:21:00.349 --> 00:21:02.150
  • Isaiah 46 and 10 Ibelieve it says that,
  • 00:21:02.150 --> 00:21:04.619
  • how before he put us here, hewent to the end of our lives
  • 00:21:04.619 --> 00:21:07.689
  • and then he backed up.
  • 00:21:07.689 --> 00:21:09.257
  • So he laid outeverything for us,
  • 00:21:09.257 --> 00:21:11.193
  • so we were predestined to bewhatever he called us to be,
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  • regardless of howmuch we messed up.
  • 00:21:15.397 --> 00:21:17.466
  • - Right
  • 00:21:17.466 --> 00:21:18.934
  • - You know, like yourend, didn't end, you know,
  • 00:21:18.934 --> 00:21:21.570
  • when your tragedy happened,
  • 00:21:21.570 --> 00:21:24.106
  • God still has a destiny for you.
  • 00:21:24.106 --> 00:21:26.675
  • And I believe we all will getto that destinated position
  • 00:21:26.675 --> 00:21:30.145
  • if we just stay faithfulto his faithfulness,
  • 00:21:30.145 --> 00:21:32.381
  • - Right.
  • 00:21:32.381 --> 00:21:33.215
  • - You know
  • 00:21:33.215 --> 00:21:34.683
  • - Cause I think if we thinkthat we can do something
  • 00:21:34.683 --> 00:21:35.884
  • to mess it up so bad,I think we're all
  • 00:21:35.884 --> 00:21:39.087
  • - We all do.
  • 00:21:39.087 --> 00:21:39.921
  • - We're all, right.
  • 00:21:39.921 --> 00:21:41.390
  • - [Deedee] We might aswell just all go to heaven.
  • 00:21:41.390 --> 00:21:42.524
  • Right, it's over.
  • 00:21:42.524 --> 00:21:44.459
  • - I think if we allow God,
  • 00:21:44.459 --> 00:21:46.695
  • He will continually teachus how faithful he is.
  • 00:21:46.695 --> 00:21:51.366
  • When we go through stuff,he'll show himself so real
  • 00:21:51.366 --> 00:21:56.338
  • in ways that we neverdreamed or prayed for.
  • 00:21:57.572 --> 00:21:59.107
  • And normally, it's all thosereally hard spots in life.
  • 00:21:59.107 --> 00:22:01.543
  • - I think that we cando things that delay.
  • 00:22:01.543 --> 00:22:04.312
  • - Yeah
  • 00:22:04.312 --> 00:22:05.147
  • - Absolutely
  • 00:22:05.147 --> 00:22:05.981
  • - You know, behaviors.
  • 00:22:05.981 --> 00:22:06.815
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:22:06.815 --> 00:22:07.649
  • - And choices
  • 00:22:07.649 --> 00:22:08.483
  • - And make it harder
  • 00:22:08.483 --> 00:22:09.451
  • - Be Jonah.
  • 00:22:09.451 --> 00:22:10.952
  • - Yeah, yeah - In the bellyof the whale for a minute
  • 00:22:10.952 --> 00:22:12.621
  • But he went toNineveh, didn't he?
  • 00:22:12.621 --> 00:22:13.922
  • - [All] Yes.
  • 00:22:13.922 --> 00:22:14.756
  • (mumbling)
  • 00:22:14.756 --> 00:22:17.025
  • - It's true.
  • 00:22:20.662 --> 00:22:21.930
  • - So the delay is not denial.
  • 00:22:21.930 --> 00:22:23.532
  • - Right.
  • 00:22:23.532 --> 00:22:24.366
  • - [Deedee] Right.
  • 00:22:24.366 --> 00:22:25.567
  • - So, I just thinkwe can do things that
  • 00:22:25.567 --> 00:22:27.035
  • or things can happen to us thatseem to knock us off course
  • 00:22:27.035 --> 00:22:30.005
  • or derail us, but it just might
  • 00:22:30.005 --> 00:22:33.008
  • make it take a little longer.
  • 00:22:33.008 --> 00:22:34.443
  • And to be honest, Ithink that the brokenness
  • 00:22:34.443 --> 00:22:37.946
  • and the humility that comes
  • 00:22:39.014 --> 00:22:40.982
  • - Yes
  • 00:22:40.982 --> 00:22:42.184
  • - From having weathereda number of storms,
  • 00:22:42.184 --> 00:22:44.252
  • makes the personso much sweeter.
  • 00:22:44.252 --> 00:22:46.087
  • - Yeah,
  • 00:22:46.087 --> 00:22:47.355
  • - He uses it all,he redeems it all.
  • 00:22:47.355 --> 00:22:48.490
  • - Absolutely
  • 00:22:48.490 --> 00:22:50.025
  • Hey, look, I know you may behaving a hard time right now.
  • 00:22:50.025 --> 00:22:53.361
  • You're going throughsomething that's pretty rough,
  • 00:22:53.361 --> 00:22:55.897
  • and it looks dead.
  • 00:22:55.897 --> 00:22:57.432
  • And it looks likeit'll never be revived.
  • 00:22:57.432 --> 00:23:00.368
  • I know, I understand, Ihave been there before.
  • 00:23:00.368 --> 00:23:04.606
  • I have gone throughsome bad things.
  • 00:23:04.606 --> 00:23:06.374
  • I have gone through, youknow, seven to eight years
  • 00:23:06.374 --> 00:23:09.244
  • bad marriage.
  • 00:23:09.244 --> 00:23:10.512
  • But guess what?
  • 00:23:10.512 --> 00:23:12.047
  • The beauty, the sun shineson the other side of that.
  • 00:23:12.047 --> 00:23:16.785
  • So let me encourage youtoday to stay focus.
  • 00:23:16.785 --> 00:23:20.155
  • Develop your walk in yourrelationship with God,
  • 00:23:20.155 --> 00:23:23.525
  • become intimate with him,
  • 00:23:23.525 --> 00:23:25.327
  • knowing that God is faithful,that God is true to his word.
  • 00:23:25.327 --> 00:23:29.798
  • And when you continueto sow love, guess what?
  • 00:23:29.798 --> 00:23:32.968
  • You're gonna reap thatlove that you're sowing
  • 00:23:32.968 --> 00:23:35.237
  • into your spouse onto day or on to those
  • 00:23:35.237 --> 00:23:37.772
  • that you've beensowing love into.
  • 00:23:37.772 --> 00:23:39.975
  • Continue to trust God,I know it's painful.
  • 00:23:39.975 --> 00:23:43.111
  • I told you I've been there,
  • 00:23:43.111 --> 00:23:44.980
  • but the light is brighteron the other side.
  • 00:23:44.980 --> 00:23:48.450
  • You can handle this.
  • 00:23:48.450 --> 00:23:49.484
  • Let me pray for you today.
  • 00:23:49.484 --> 00:23:51.052
  • Father, in the name of Jesus,
  • 00:23:51.052 --> 00:23:52.554
  • I pray for every person thatare experiencing hardship
  • 00:23:52.554 --> 00:23:56.258
  • and heartache on to day.
  • 00:23:56.258 --> 00:23:58.326
  • I pray now that thehealing virtue of you
  • 00:23:58.326 --> 00:24:00.962
  • penetrates through this cameraand penetrate their heart,
  • 00:24:00.962 --> 00:24:05.000
  • that they will beginto experience your love
  • 00:24:05.000 --> 00:24:07.369
  • and your comfortlike never before.
  • 00:24:07.369 --> 00:24:09.604
  • I come in agreementwith every desire
  • 00:24:09.604 --> 00:24:11.740
  • that's placed onthe inside of them,
  • 00:24:11.740 --> 00:24:13.808
  • that they will begin tosee your love manifest
  • 00:24:13.808 --> 00:24:17.045
  • in their life like never before.
  • 00:24:17.045 --> 00:24:19.447
  • Hearts that are heavy,
  • 00:24:19.447 --> 00:24:21.116
  • I command you to befull of joy right now,
  • 00:24:21.116 --> 00:24:24.185
  • that you will experiencethe presence of God
  • 00:24:24.185 --> 00:24:27.422
  • in the place that you're in,
  • 00:24:27.422 --> 00:24:29.190
  • that you become content andthat you enjoy every moment.
  • 00:24:29.190 --> 00:24:33.094
  • Not the pain of the moment.
  • 00:24:33.094 --> 00:24:35.096
  • But enjoy that you have anopportunity to see victory
  • 00:24:35.096 --> 00:24:38.733
  • on the other side.
  • 00:24:38.733 --> 00:24:39.935
  • In Jesus name I pray, amen.
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  • So we have one herefrom our viewer Lisa
  • 00:24:58.353 --> 00:25:00.789
  • and she asks, "eventhough I'm a mess,
  • 00:25:00.789 --> 00:25:02.857
  • "does God still love me?"
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  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:25:05.160 --> 00:25:06.328
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:25:06.328 --> 00:25:07.162
  • Easy answer, absolutely.
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  • There's no mess too messy forthe grace and love of God.
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • And you know, the beautifulthing is when we like,
  • 00:25:13.335 --> 00:25:15.537
  • completely turn tohim, he makes something
  • 00:25:15.537 --> 00:25:17.472
  • just absolutely beautifulout of our mess.
  • 00:25:17.472 --> 00:25:19.774
  • - That's right.
  • 00:25:19.774 --> 00:25:21.309
  • - He is the great you know,he's a creator, he can, yeah
  • 00:25:21.309 --> 00:25:23.545
  • - Mess to master piece.
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  • - Oh, yeah, that's good.
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  • - Yeah
  • 00:25:25.880 --> 00:25:26.881
  • - Absolutely.
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  • he's not supposedto be coming yet.
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  • And we get there,I'm already six,
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  • already dilated to the six.
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